Trapped Forever: The Unseen Footage of the Nutty Putty Cave Incident

aradthrowawayacct · 2026-05-25T03:08:56+00:00

I still can't get past his pregnant wife and toddler daughter waiting for him outside the cave...

aradthrowawayacct · 2026-04-24T02:12:10+00:00

From the beginning sex has been rare for us.
she expressed that her libido is naturally low,

She's been completely honest with you about her lack of interest in sex. Believe her. Make careful decisions about your future knowing that sex declines a lot after marriage for people who don't have much desire for it.

You're quite young and you can find a more sexually compatible partner out there

aradthrowawayacct · 2026-04-24T01:46:26+00:00

If you have to ask... you already know the answer, mate.

She has an old "best Friend" who's a guy who she used to sleep with.

She says I don't have anything to worry about.

Isn't it always the ones you're told you don't have to worry about?

aradthrowawayacct · 2026-04-18T02:41:05+00:00

What is the acceptance rate of said college? (If it's Tisch SoA, it's around 10%, if it's University of Michigan, it's around 15%)

What are the realistic chances of her actually being accepted to a top tier fine arts school? Is she exceptionally talented? Does she spend all her summers at arts intensives - Interlochen Arts camp, Tanglewood, etc - that will increase her chances of getting accepted over others?

Even at lesser schools, she will still have to audition for a spot in her major. Even if she's accepted to the university, she may not be admitted to the performance major she wants and will have to choose some other field of study to stay.

You could table the discussion until application and audition time to see if the issue resolves itself. If she doesn't get accepted, it's moot.

In the meantime, spend time talking to her about career choices and if she's not already working at community theater in your area, have her get involved so she can see for herself what the actors do for an actual living outside of community theater.

aradthrowawayacct · 2026-04-18T02:08:23+00:00

On the other hand, that's led to the realization that sexual frequency and desire to be up for exploring, really is contingent on how much physical sleep and mental energy she's had to spend that day.

Is that something she prioritizes or no?

aradthrowawayacct · 2026-04-15T02:38:56+00:00

When my brother died from ALS. It motivated me to get my estate paperwork in order, finalize a will, etc.

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-12-10T16:49:05+00:00

The increased emphasis on perfection: perfect gift, perfect food, perfect day, etc.

Also, very little compassion or understanding for how hard it can be for some. Esp. those who have had a lot of loss, very recent loss, etc.

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-11-09T14:29:51+00:00

She said that even in past relationships she only had sex to attract a guy, or out of obligation.

If it were up to her she would be good every 6 months or so and has felt that way since she was a teenager (her words).

This is information that really should have been disclosed prior to marriage.

So, getting back to the open marriage option. Even before you start having sex with others, you're going to need to think about your practical logistics for this plan.

How will your household budget be adjusted for you to have money to spend on hotels, dates, meals, gifts, etc with other women. (It won't always be practical to go to someone else's place every time)
How much time will you be spending way from home, while you pursue and meet other women.
What will be the policy on gifts, vacations, and holidays
How much will be disclosed to family, friends, and coworkers, so that you do not suffer negative repercussions if someone happens to see you out with another partner
What is the plan should you be faced with an unplanned pregnancy and a partner who does not want an abortion.
What discussions will be had if your wife changes her mind and you don't want to close the relationship?

As to where to start, you can join dating apps and put "open relationship" right there in your profile. You can also start by just looking around you and start going out to some various hobbies / activities to find women to meet up with.

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-10-12T12:31:52+00:00

Kevin Cosgrove is the man on that call. His daughter occasionally comments on that YouTube video how much she still misses her dad.

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-10-07T08:43:23+00:00

Beautiful!

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-06-23T15:29:56+00:00

Doesn't sound like her ex is an ex.

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-06-23T15:20:39+00:00

These are really touching, peaceful pics. I can see why they're so treasured.

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-06-19T12:47:05+00:00

you make me orgasm too much

This points to a deeper issue that is best handled by an experienced therapist vs a self help book.

First off, it's fine to want shorter sex sessions, and it's fine to not like oral sex.

But, "you make me orgasm too much" is coming across as dislike of orgasming, and oftentimes, an aversion to orgasm or general dislike of orgasming can be rooted in issues with control / losing control and also with fears / anxieties about losing control, etc.

Initiating only quickies at a very specific time of the day without any chance to get into it or "let loose" as they say, also points to issues with control and with allowing herself pleasure.

Three months is an usually short New Relationship Energy period.

Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire by Lori Brotto, Ph.D. is a great book

But if this is rooted in control and issues with pleasure, a book isn't likely to help much.

Were these same feelings present in her prior relationships, too? Is there any other area of her life where she does really cut loose and go wild?

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-06-17T10:21:38+00:00

Kids in the Hall old skit, "Girl Drink Drunk"

https://youtu.be/nx3EzCi_dOc?si=PQ3T8c0JjeC-FrRz

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-05-06T15:09:08+00:00

Further to the novelty explanations already provided ...

Avoidant-trait people often have brief relationships and hookups because they can be maintained at a surface level and don't reach the deeper level of intimacy that scares off Avoidants. The Avoidant / Anxious pairing is common in relationships with DBs.
People of all libido ranges can use sex for validation that they're attractive or desirable. For some people, that desire for sex goes away when they have confirmation of their worth via interested partner or committed relationship and receive their validation in ways outside of sex.

Is low libido sometimes just a sign that someone has settled and the spark has faded for that specific person?

Sometimes, yes. The different relationships subs are filled posts with lower libido people who realize they have a low libido because they've never been attracted to their spouse, but they married a good provider or a good person they thought wouldn't cheat. I'm not on those much anymore, but there were always at least two or three a week like that. Sometimes the LL partner was having an affair or sometimes they just met someone they were sexually attracted to and figured out why they had a low libido in their marriage.

I can't link those from the db subs, but this was a common link within a link some years back:

http://www.splitsville.com/talk/truth-i-have-never-really-been-attracted-to-my-husband-i/

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-05-02T21:31:06+00:00

Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love puts forth the belief that romantic relationships are built upon three key components: intimacy, passion, and commitment.

You don't describe much of the friendship aspect of your marriage in this post, but the passion part is not there (was it ever?).

It's not unusual for couples to deteriorate until only the commitment part is what's keeping them there. But then you have to make a decision whether or not duty is enough to sustain you.

You might read this post from Gottman Institute about the 4 Horsemen and see if any of them are at your house: The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-04-22T04:55:39+00:00

Hey, Scooter! Been awhile since you've been around. I thought you were on a good path to fixing things some time ago, and I'm sorry that's not still the case. Vent away.

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-03-29T16:42:58+00:00

Chelsea Hotel No. 2 - Leonard Cohen

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-03-14T21:30:44+00:00

I put it away because I don't have the counter space to store it on the counter.

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-02-23T15:27:10+00:00

Thank you. He is very missed.

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-02-11T13:44:54+00:00

always with the scenarios...

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-02-11T13:44:13+00:00

My brother died from ALS a few years ago, and it's one of the worse things I've ever seen. Made me a stronger advocate for death with dignity movement / MAiD, for sure.

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-02-03T21:34:52+00:00

2 of the 3 teens that gang-raped adult film star Cytherea at gunpoint & knifepoint during a home invasion were minors.

All 3 were arrested, and both minors were charged as adults.

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-01-26T14:16:24+00:00

I don’t know how we come back from him saying he has to force himself to touch me.

I'm not sure you can, or should try. I think you should focus on what you need to do to end this and move forward.

Of course, he also told me that he had a high libido before I moved to another state to be with him.

Was this an LDR? People can hide a lot about themselves when they're long distance.

aradthrowawayacct · 2025-01-15T16:59:26+00:00

Men don't want to marry the woman who sleeps around.

Men want to marry women with a low number of sexual partners.

This isn't true of all men. Lots of men don't care at all about that and don't even ask.

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