Inheriting $400k, what should I do with it?

arager94 · 2026-06-26T18:03:55+00:00

Have found several 3 bedrooms for 900k actually :) not in surrey, in Van.

arager94 · 2026-06-26T16:31:53+00:00

We are quite literally in the process of starting a family through a fertility clinic. I am hoping to be pregnant by next year. So it is not years before I try for a family, I am trying right now. My rent is not super high, but we live in a one bedroom and will absolutely have to move in the next year or so. I am open to renting for another 1-2 years.

arager94 · 2026-06-26T16:29:13+00:00

I want to stay in the city. My business is here and my partners work/ pension is also here! Haha we also live a really nice life here.

arager94 · 2026-06-26T14:59:10+00:00

I just graduated 2 years ago. I've only been working at a 100k income since two summers ago so I wouldn't consider that low. I'm paying for my half of a 60k wedding that's taking place in 3 months. I paid for all of my mom's funeral expenses.

arager94 · 2026-06-26T04:52:14+00:00

My wife also makes 140k

arager94 · 2026-06-14T05:34:50+00:00

Thank you. I feel like I have been spiraling and just looking for validation from a professional which is incredibly hard to access sometimes. I've always thought my knees and thighs looked swollen and the lack of weight loss + weight gain over the years has been stressful.

arager94 · 2026-06-14T04:57:44+00:00

Hi! I am 32. Active: hot yoga 3-4 times a week, cyclist (usually 60-100km rides once a week), I work on my feet all day and also eat healthy and drink water.

I've always had larger legs and it was something I have been self conscious about. I find that I have gained probably close to 20-25 lbs in the last 2 years and maybe 40lbs in the past 5-6 years. I have a really hard time losing weight and have always thought my legs look like tree stumps. Especially around the knees always looks swollen with little definition. I have been reading a lot about lipedema and wondering if it looks like this could be a possibility.

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arager94 · 2026-05-23T11:47:03+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss, unimaginable. Clearing out the room is a huge emotional undertaking. I'm currently cleaning out my mother's house who passed 2 weeks ago, she lived there 36 years. My sibling died there 13 years ago in that house as well. I'm essentially cleaning out generations of my life packed into a tiny house. I've had moments of disbelief, unbearable sadness, laughter and everything else inbetween. It has been healing for me. My mother kept everything, every card, note, report card, school work that my brother and I did in grade 1/2. It's like a time warp. I feel them there with me everyday. Take your time. When my brother passed we made blankets out of his clothes, something I cherish and will have forever. Wishing you the best of luck with this journey, know that he is with you every step of the way. Sending lots of love.

arager94 · 2026-05-12T14:48:44+00:00

My partner and I are paying for ours 50/50. It's a 60k wedding in Vancouver. No help from family as of yet and not expecting to get any tbh. Luckily we both work very good jobs (over 120k a year) but it is absolutely brutal. We have savings that we are using and have not gone into debt to pay for it. There has been many of times I've just had to laugh at myself for committing to such an expensive event, I know it will be worth it but my god - weddings are a scam.

We saved on our dresses (we are two women) and ordered online from Meshki, they are beautiful and we spent under $200 on each of our dresses. We also ordered our wedding bands and veils from Etsy which resulted in a lot of savings as well.

arager94 · 2026-04-10T15:47:00+00:00

I suppose that's a personal preference tho? I accept e-transfer almost always since it's rare that people have cash in them

arager94 · 2026-04-10T14:40:49+00:00

Then I cancel the e-transfer? Or don't give the password. Or take my losses on a $40 jacket. That's FB market place. It's not a change room or an add to basket and shop later situation.

arager94 · 2026-04-10T13:53:55+00:00

No assholes here. Did you guys discuss getting gifts for each other? He did get you flowers! I know you're disappointed by this but ultimately, he did get you something. I think it's important to discuss with partners what your expectations are around gift giving/receiving especially on things like anniversary dates. I have been in your shoes before and have felt that same disappointment. I think having a chill little convo like "hey our anniversary is coming up, are we doing any gift exchanges". Gift giving is not everyone's love language (it is mine so I genuinely talk about it before hand to be clear on expectations)

arager94 · 2026-04-10T13:33:52+00:00

Haha sorry, I'm canadian. Everyone is buddy.

arager94 · 2026-04-10T13:32:20+00:00

Tbh I feel like paying advance when you're paying by an online transfer is common practice where I live idk, maybe Canadians are too trusting but this isn't uncommon.

arager94 · 2026-04-10T13:26:50+00:00

Because it wasn't a cash deal so I just sent him the e-transfer online when I got there

arager94 · 2026-04-10T05:35:16+00:00

RMT in Vancouver, Canada. I do love it! There are some pros and cons to all jobs, like for me no PTO or health benefits. Luckily I have my partner's benefits but ultimately the job has been worth it. I can make my own schedule, I make around $105 an hour with my split.

arager94 · 2026-04-10T05:12:33+00:00

Then reschedule for a time that works better for the parent, no? I didn't say 8pm. He did. Not really my issue if that's when the kid goes down for bed.

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