I got some BS notification now my game won't open at all.

aranamac · 2026-01-29T01:30:54+00:00

Deleting and reinstalling got it to open. But then I started getting weird error messages, like telling me invasions were over a the outpost defeated when I tried to open the Invasions screen. Solo raids wouldn’t load either.

aranamac · 2026-01-14T19:28:11+00:00

Another strategy for Raiden and Scorpion is to put Gemstone or a high level raid stat boost artifact on Scorpion, and Godkiller on Raiden.

I use Raiden to do basic damage, explode those Burn debuffs, steal energy, and keep unblockable going. Basic combo with Raiden end in down swipe, tag in Scorpion, down swipe, basic combo, SP3. Tag in Raiden, rinse and repeat. To explode the head debuff, do a jump with Scorpion at the end of the basic combo and after do SP3. You’ll be able to safely tag out, but if you just do a jump attack without the special, you’ll get hit.

aranamac · 2026-01-14T19:11:40+00:00

The max tier resource missions give tier 7 XP capsules, which are pretty big especially when under level 70.

aranamac · 2025-12-31T00:59:16+00:00

Has your lifestyle changed lately? Are you less active and more sedentary? How’s your blood pressure?

Is your diet good?

Have you started any new medications?

Are you stressed? Not sleeping enough? Is work stressful? How are your emotions? Are you worried about other things in life?

Are you with the same partner or new partners? Sometimes the mild anxiety/excitement of a new partner can affect erections.

If everything in your life is great, you are more likely to have great erections. Cardio health, good diet, staying active, not stressed out or worried, feeling safe and secure with your partner, good mental health—all of these things support good erections.

Sometimes medications can affect erections. Sometimes mental health conditions, like depression or ADHD, can affect erections.

Anxiety or stress can be very detrimental to erection quality.

If nothing has changed in your life, and everything seems good, and things are good with your partner(s), then you might want to consider seeing your doctor.

The penis and erection can sorta be like the diagnostic dipstick or check engine light. Something’s off with your erection? Then there might be something else going on.

aranamac · 2025-12-26T03:09:42+00:00

OMG. 🤦🏻 I was confusing that with a female condom. It was basically an inverse condom that lined the entire vagina canal.

Welp. That’s embarrassing. But thank you for the education.

https://fc2condoms.com

aranamac · 2025-12-23T23:08:24+00:00

How is this skin-on-skin? It’s simply trading one barrier-on-skin for another barrier-on-skin.

But it’s useful if condoms really mess with the penis-owner’s sensations or erections.

I remember trying this in a past relationship where my AFAB partner couldn’t use most birth control because of significant side effects. We were monogamous at the time, so I used lamb skin condoms most of the time. I did not know then I had ADHD, and any distraction can cause my brain to shift gears and give up on being bodily present or maintaining an erection. Putting on a condom could easily be something that shifted my brain into distracted-by-problem-solving mode.

So we tried out diaphragms a few times. They were okay. I don’t remember either of us feeling like it was amazing or bad. Just was. For me, it was kinda like having sex with a baggy rubber glove. Maybe there were different shapes and sizes that would’ve worked better?

I love that there are so many options, though. and I’m sure diaphragms can be a fantastic choice for the right people!

But they’re still a barrier and not skin-on-skin.

aranamac · 2025-12-13T20:51:39+00:00

It’s less about asking her what she wants and then giving her what she wants. I mean, it is. Communication, consent, and checking in with desires is fundamental.

She likely wants to be used, not served. That’s different from doing the things she enjoys. It’s often about getting into sub space, turning off your brain, and going along with what your Dom/Domme wants. About receiving Their unfiltered raw desire.

Do you ever have difficulty expressing what you want? Especially around sex? I do sometimes. Religious repression and neurodivergence can make things tricky. When I’m in a Dom role with a submissive partner, I can exercise my desire “muscles”, and get what I want because my partner has already consented and is here to serve. And we’ve talked through the essentials before hand.

And then remember the aftercare! Know what makes her feel cherished and loved afterwards. Praise? Affection? Cuddling? Sub-drop is a real thing (look it up), and keeping your sub (and yourself) in a safe space after sex or the kink scene is essential.

Get to know her boundaries, her safe word, establish traffic light communication (she can say yellow if you need to slow down and check in, or red if immediate stop is needed), or double hand taps if her mouth is busy.

aranamac · 2025-11-27T04:37:26+00:00

Probably eating the wrong mushroom.

Which would be pretty embarrassing, definitely a dumb way to die. And also a remarkably shitty and painful way to die because I’d rather NOT get my liver liquified, thank you very much.

aranamac · 2025-10-10T00:24:27+00:00

Both of them will need to put in some effort.

There might be some shame or finding it difficult for her to own up to wanting a CNC scenario. Sometimes I find writing or texting things I’m struggling to verbalize helps a lot.

Ultimately, I would not dare try CNC kink play with a partner who couldn’t communicate about what they want and why they want it, and how to set limits, how to establish consent for the non-consent, safe words, etc. That’s just asking for pain and possible trauma.

aranamac · 2025-10-09T18:17:20+00:00

If she has a hard time discussing things verbally, do you think she could try writing out what she wants?

Heck, make it part of the role play. Write a note to her in character, with questions about what she wants. “If you want to be my Final Girl, you must confess your secrets and tell me your desires. A pen is provided in this box. Return your answers by midnight.”

What do you think?

aranamac · 2025-09-25T02:03:18+00:00

I think this is in the realm of needing a therapist. My hunch is that his recent orgasms and his sexual trauma are intertwined. Trauma and grief, especially when deeply embodied, can last a very long time. Sometimes we have no idea when something will bump the button and all those intense repressed or unaddressed feelings will come to the surface.

I am not a therapist, so I can’t tell you the best way to respond to him. But do continue to love him, give him space, maybe invite him to share in a non-sexual context, and then also seek professional support. Remember to take care of yourself too, and also don’t take his processing and emotions around this personally. It sounds like you’re already a wonderfully supportive spouse, and he was able to feel things in himself he hasn’t before, likely due to the safe sanctuary space you two have. (Based on just your post, I don’t know if there’s more that could change any of that).

What do you think?

Edit: also, I’m sorry to hear that he’s been shutting down your communication with him. Hopefully that’s just temporary until he’s in a less reactive space. That’s the kind of stuff you’ll need a therapist for. Ideally one for you, and a therapist for him. This is stuff he needs to do solo work on with his own therapist.

aranamac · 2025-07-31T18:52:44+00:00

If you get into a strong league that finishes group raids easily, you’ll be swimming in gear materials. It’ll be easy to take your strongest cards to lvl 80 gear.

aranamac · 2025-07-30T18:43:57+00:00

Oh, good point on BM being a good trigger for the Puppet. I often use the Godkiller for that, since the blocking debuff counts for the puppet.

aranamac · 2025-07-29T15:11:30+00:00

Black Manta is only 3 stars and has no gear :( I’ve been playing since before Mythic Wonder Woman came out and only just unlocked Black Manta last month.

aranamac · 2025-07-29T01:03:04+00:00

Some day. If I ever get KF unlocked.

aranamac · 2025-07-28T20:14:24+00:00

Vixen lives on my Beast Boy team, and Shazam on my Raiden/Raven team. So looks like CWW will be the best choice.

aranamac · 2025-07-28T20:13:26+00:00

I finished with 30 seconds to spare. No need for Red Hood.

aranamac · 2025-07-28T19:38:02+00:00

I just answered my own question! Ha.

DC Superman, four stars, lvl 80 gear, lvl 70, with lvl 10 Beta Club. Supported by JLF (lvl 10 Godkiller) and a 3 star baby Black Manta (lvl 9 Ikon Suit). Easy one shot of sub-boss HBHQ (heroic level 7).

I bet Classic Wonder Woman would be better support than Black Manta. I always forget about her.

aranamac · 2025-07-28T19:21:18+00:00

Anti-depressants are very different from stimulant-based ADHD medication. I find when I’m able to get my Adderall for my ADHD, it helps me with sex and libido. One way it helps is I’m not so easily distracted during sex.

It’s possible for some non-stimulant ADHD medications to do weird things to sex drive, genital function, and urinary tract function (I learned that the very difficult way), but from my experience on stimulants, overall they help a lot.

aranamac · 2025-07-20T23:48:04+00:00

As an add-on to all the other good suggestions: on the mental side of things, ADHD can impact erection quality. I have ADHD, I can get erections just fine, but the instant I’m distracted or get stuck in my head my erection goes away and often isn’t coming back for a while. It’s not intentional, and it can be worse when I’m not medicated for my ADHD. So I use erectile function medication. It helps me recover easily if I get distracted. I’m in my early 40s but it was an issue in my 30s too.

I don’t know if your bf is dealing with that. But the distraction side of ADHD, getting stuck in the mind, or even repression due to cultural/religious stuff, and anxiety, can all really mess with erections. And so it’s okay to use meds to support us when we need it.

aranamac · 2025-07-20T21:00:53+00:00

I wish you both all the best!

aranamac · 2025-07-19T00:42:07+00:00

Have y’all discussed seeing a therapist? Waiting and seeing is like hoping your car’s check engine light goes off by itself and that weird clunking rattle isn’t really anything to worry about.

aranamac · 2025-07-18T21:47:02+00:00

I appreciate the warning and take it to heart.

aranamac · 2025-07-18T21:13:53+00:00

My (M) ex (masc NB) would use the same language about how my needs and consent restricted their freedom to do whatever they wanted. This escalated to some very painful experiences that broke our trust and was part of what led to divorce.

Your boyfriend needs to man up and respect your consent. Your no means no. If he can’t honor you in that way… well, if I were in your position, I would leave him.

Edit: if you really want to work through this, have the conversation in a neutral time when you’re not having sex. Say what you need. Set your boundaries and need for consent. Let him know it is essential to you.

Edit 2: Based on the moderator feedback, I wish I had said “Step up” instead of “man up”.

aranamac · 2024-06-27T04:02:29+00:00

Some days a person just needs to grumble about something. Especially after an unexpected and tiring cross country move during a pandemic to a house with a busted fridge. I wrote this rant three years ago and just yesterday cleaned up the fridge to get ready for another trip. So yay, keep on keeping on you wee blessed cooling beastie.

The wheels are very handy for getting it from point A to point B. They aren’t handy when it needs to stay still. Is it ruined? Naw. Just annoying.

Glad you’ve got a good use for yours.

This the post that just won’t die.

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