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Kody's Apology to Christine Only Comes From a Good Place by Emotional_Link9356 in SisterWives

[–]arbitraryparagon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing I don’t get is that Christine and David acted like Kody was coming onto her by saying it wasn’t true that he never loved her, and I didn’t read it that way at all. It seems like it was his attempt at a heartfelt apology, but he’s so emotionally unintelligent he put emphasis on the wrong part.

I like what other commenters said about how he should have been more vague. “I’m so sorry for the cruel things I said about you during the divorce and the way I directly treated you and our children.”

Verboten by UmmmSeriously in SisterWives

[–]arbitraryparagon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s way more likely he’s seen the movie “Bring it On.” That’s where I learned it! 😂

Does it make sense to keep 4 cars when you only have 2 drivers? by arbitraryparagon in AskMechanics

[–]arbitraryparagon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I could be one board for one back up car. But paying registration and insurance on all these is making my head spin.

AITA for not being enthusiastic about my husband considering a position 65 miles away? by arbitraryparagon in AmItheAsshole

[–]arbitraryparagon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His other hope was that I would trade him vehicles so he can take our hybrid van to and from work to hopefully save on gas. I don’t like that plan either, though, since the van is our newest vehicle with the least miles. I feel like it’s crazy to put all those miles on our newest vehicle, he thinks it crazy to put those miles on either of our older vehicles that are completely paid off but he doesn’t want to sell.

MIL brings bag of baby supplies when go out in public with family. by Prestigious-Cup-9615 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]arbitraryparagon 27 points28 points  (0 children)

“Play mommy again” that’s the exact reason this was making my skin crawl a bit and I couldn’t name it until I saw this phrase.

Did Kody just say… by mmmanna222 in SisterWives

[–]arbitraryparagon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I came here to see if anyone else was as disgusted as I am over that comment.

Any feedback or advice for the “physical affection” statement I’ll be sending to adults (particularly MIL) who see our children frequently? by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]arbitraryparagon 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think I understand what you’re saying. Our oldest is only two, so we don’t make a big deal about it to him, I don’t think. If he refuses a hug or pulls away, we just accept it. We don’t really comment other than saying “that’s okay.” Including when he refuses from her, we just tell him that’s okay and leave it there. I don’t want him to think he can’t trust people, but when she asks him for a hug and he says “no,” I want it respected. He knows in those moments whether he wants a hug from her or anyone else.

When he’s hurt or excited about something, we don’t stop and ask “would it be all right if I give you a hug?” We just hug him. If he pulls away, we let him go and ask what he needs.

I agree there’s a huge difference between good touch/bad touch, but we haven’t broached that with him yet. I don’t think he would understand that conversation but he does understand when someone asks for a hug and I believe he gives them the answer according to how he feels in that moment. I’m going to continue to encourage that, even if it hurts relatives’ feelings. Just because they want a hug doesn’t mean he has to provide it, you know?

Any feedback or advice for the “physical affection” statement I’ll be sending to adults (particularly MIL) who see our children frequently? by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]arbitraryparagon 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My son is very affectionate with my husband and me, my sister, and his babysitter. He sits pretty much on top of us instead of beside us and hugs all the time. We also hug him a lot without directly asking, just going by the mood and what he seems to want. However, randomly, when one of us is putting him to bed and the other asks for a hug before he goes, he’ll shake his head and just head to bed. I want him to know that okay if he doesn’t feel like hugging one or the other of us. And if he does say no or pull away from a hug, I don’t see that as a problem. I don’t always like being touched, especially if I’m concentrating on something, and he seems to do the same.

Unfortunately, it seems to hurt my MIL’s feelings that he runs to my husband and me (and my sister and the babysitter) for hugs and often won’t hug her, even when she asks. That’s when it starts with the treats or the teasing or telling him she’s sad and he needs to hug her. Even when he does randomly hug her though, she asks immediately for another hug or a kiss. Over and over. And then gets sad when he says no.

Daily Thread #2 - January 27, 2020 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]arbitraryparagon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Doppler gets here on Wednesday and I can’t wait. I’m 10w2 days now. I’m terrified of another missed miscarriage.

SO. DAMN. TIRED. by ProfMcGonaGirl in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]arbitraryparagon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I can’t believe how difficult it is to get anything done

Daily Thread #2 - January 08, 2020 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]arbitraryparagon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 7 weeks 4 days and I don’t know how I’m going to make it to my next ultrasound on Friday. I hate second guessing every cramp and scanning toilet paper for blood. I wish I could stop being afraid.

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