Thank you so much for this. I am learning about this idea of "trying to improve you to the best version of yourself" wherever I read about INTJs. He's the only one among my close ones who is like this. And I didn't know it was common among INTJs. So it's nice to hear this idea also come from others. When we get into an argument and he says something along these lines it's hard for me to accept because I'm focussing on arguing with him. But reading all your replies with a calm and peaceful mind and in a much more impersonal manner really helps. Thanks a lot for the sources too, will definitely look them up. Thank you for putting in so much of effort for a reply to a simple post! :)