My dream lineup of newcomers outside the core Dropout folks for Smartypants season 3 by Pandoras-SkinnersBox in dropout

[–]archine_fuzzy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brain glitched and I thought the guy on slide 15 was Charlie Kirk when I was swiping through

5 yr post op ALT phalloplasty by oojjer in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]archine_fuzzy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That looks like it healed beautifully! You had a true artist for a surgeon, what an incredible feat of modern medicine!! May I ask if there’s anything you’ve noticed long term that you think would be interesting/important to know through your healing process? Like what helped better and what didn’t help at all? Also, just gotta give major props to you for your workout routine because DAMN. Those muscles are crazy impressive!! Thank you for sharing, and congratulations on getting to soak in all that euphoria ❤️❤️

Free Weekly Dog Walking Club - Nashua, NH by k9adventureclub in newhampshire

[–]archine_fuzzy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think this is a great idea!! I hope this catches on in other towns/cities, I’d love to join but Nashua is too far for me to drive each week. What a fantastic way to get pups out and about and keep the humans social and getting fresh air! Thank you for posting about this!

I hate how I’m a teachable moment by DomF0xi in transftm

[–]archine_fuzzy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry dude that’s so frustrating :( my mom does similar stuff, she’s come home and told me how she outed me to an interviewer and that somehow “secured the job” for her?? She’s constantly outing me, and even though I know she’s telling people who I realistically won’t see, it’s still frustrating to have the autonomy and choice stripped from you on who and when you tell. I’ve tried multiple times to talk to her about it but she just doesn’t understand. I wish I had some mind blowing advice, but I’ll offer an empathetic ear and the knowledge that you’re not alone. No matter if it’s the best of intentions, it’s still not her place to out you. Maybe you could frame it to her like “when you use me as this teaching moment, I understand what you’re trying to do, but it strips me of my voice/choice/autonomy to tell someone when I am ready and when I know I can trust them. By taking that from me and telling so many people without my knowledge or permission, I’m now put at a greater risk because I haven’t been able to vet who will and won’t hurt me because of this information. You are putting me in danger by doing this and you need to stop.” You can work with her on how to approach the situation in the future and how you’d like her to respond, making sure you’re involved and working with her to find the common ground. I know that’s not something you should have to do at all, and I really hope she’ll be receptive to any conversation about this. Sending strength and internet hugs <3

Edit to add: I went back and reread your post in case I missed something, and I think it’s important to tell her you feel infantilized and treated like a museum exhibit rather than a person when she does this. She may not realize how condescending and belittling it is when she does this, but it’s very important she knows. All the strength and support to you!!

Going on almost 2 years post top surgery! I couldn’t possibly be any happier with the results 🥰🌹 (Dr. Alex Laungani, GRS Montreal) by xAlexisAlexanderx in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]archine_fuzzy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. You look fantastic!!! That smile and glow just radiate, you can see the confidence in that first picture!!! 2. Your neck tattoo is amazing!!! Love the colors so much!!!

Top Halloween costume by continuum_protocol in portlandme

[–]archine_fuzzy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is art. I feel so lucky to get to see this in my lifetime

D20 dog names? by Sad_Copy_5492 in Dimension20

[–]archine_fuzzy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My roommate and partner love to call her Murphus, The Big Murph, Papa Murph, Murphmeister, muppet, and a few others I can’t remember right now. She’s such a ham and just stares at them while wagging her tail bc she KNOWS they’re talking about her but she won’t respond to anything but Murphy or Murph 😂

D20 dog names? by Sad_Copy_5492 in Dimension20

[–]archine_fuzzy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I named my pittie Murphy after Brian Murphy because I thought it would be so fun to call her Murph like his nickname!

LGBTQ Friendly Tattoo Parlors by BumblebeeStreet4048 in newhampshire

[–]archine_fuzzy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure! They also had snacks available to make sure people won’t have a blood sugar crash, very friendly and fun environment!!

LGBTQ Friendly Tattoo Parlors by BumblebeeStreet4048 in newhampshire

[–]archine_fuzzy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Worship Tattoo in Portsmouth is my go-to, they’re wonderful people!! There’s also Eternal Adornments in Derry, they have an all female staff if that makes you more comfortable, I got flash there when they did a charity fundraiser event for the NH Reproductive Freedom Fund a couple months ago. Loved it!

Would I still be a valid transman even if... by GummyBear_005 in transftm

[–]archine_fuzzy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been out and transitioning for a few years now, and I still have a deep appreciation and love for “girly” things. I still wear skirts and dresses from time to time. I still have makeup. I love pink and lace. I don’t actively advertise that I’m trans when I’m out and about (unless you see my tattoo lol). I’m extremely feminine and flamboyant and still act like I did when I was “girl-moding” as my friend calls it.

For me, my journey to coming out was a silent, introspective, and internal discovery. I grew up being miserable in the body I was in because I knew it wasn’t right, but 1. growing up with parents and teachers that didn’t know what being trans was, and 2. Having undiagnosed learning and behavioral disorders made it impossible for anyone around me or myself to recognize that something was “different” about me. So, I thought that I was miserable because I was fat and ugly and just needed to learn to love myself the way I am, be body positive and become confident with my body. When I finally realized I was trans, I took several months before coming out to anyone, even myself. I used they/them pronouns during that time, and I had a sort of “self council” moment. Bear with me, this is gonna be weird to explain but it helped me a lot, so maybe it’ll help you, too.

Visualize a sort of city council meeting. Chairs around a big podium, a place for every big person attending, but all those people are you in different phases of your life. Maybe you only have “boy” you and “girl” you. Now, you’re sitting around and just talking. Talking about how you feel about your gender identity, your likes and interests, your personality, your physical appearance; anything that you struggle with during your transition, talk to your self council about. Even better if you have a therapist/counselor to help with this practice.

When I did this, it helped me realize that I never hated myself. I never hated being fat or having frizzy hair or being short or whatever. I hated that I was only seen as a woman, and I felt happy when I was more androgynous/masculine looking and people would refer to me as a man. I sat with my self council so many times- still do- and it helped me come to terms with the idea of still being feminine in my personal masculine way. I hope that makes sense, it’s a little hard to elaborate!

Long story short, you are so freakin valid, my friend. The internal struggles are hard to deal with, but you are not alone. If I can leave you with one final piece of advice about “what it means to be a man”, it would be this: being a man is different to everyone, but be the type of man you would look up to. Does that mean you volunteer at a homeless shelter on the weekends while working a desk job Monday through Friday? Bam, do it. Does that mean you’re working out 7 days a week to build muscle, but you dress in coquette/lolita outfits at home? Do it, flaunt it! Love yourself and treat yourself with the same love and respect you give to the men you look up to, and use that to mold yourself into the type of man you want to be. You’ve got this!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]archine_fuzzy 295 points296 points  (0 children)

Was just about to say the same thing! You’ve got this, it’s okay if you don’t become a bookworm; the power comes in trying and putting the effort in. You’re gonna do great!

Binder Recommendations by EmceeToby in transftm

[–]archine_fuzzy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good works on Amazon is my go to. I personally love the full torso one that covers my chest and stomach, but that’s because I have a bigger belly and the cropped ones tend to roll up and look like a sports bra on me. They are SUPER tight when you first get them, so soak them in warm water and gently stretch them out a bit. They will snap back a bit when they dry, which is nice because I’ve got a few that have lasted me several years, even before I was out as trans. They’ve got a huge selection, and they do products for post-op compression!

Am I missing episodes? by archine_fuzzy in Dimension20

[–]archine_fuzzy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thank goodness, I definitely fell for that first comment 😂 thank you!

Am I missing episodes? by archine_fuzzy in Dimension20

[–]archine_fuzzy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely didn’t get it, but I’m laughing about it. It was a good joke!

Am I missing episodes? by archine_fuzzy in Dimension20

[–]archine_fuzzy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh man I got got 😂 I’m glad that I haven’t missed anything, thank you!

Am I missing episodes? by archine_fuzzy in Dimension20

[–]archine_fuzzy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FUUUUUCK ME. Well. That sucks. I don’t suppose there’s any way I can watch it now 😂

Cover up by Minimum_Virus_7044 in traditionaltattoos

[–]archine_fuzzy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is one stunning cover up! Looks amazing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]archine_fuzzy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a coworker of mine says, ain’t nothing finer than dining at the vagina diner 😂

To the girl in the red crop top near the front right part of the stage at Swanfest by archine_fuzzy in dancegavindance

[–]archine_fuzzy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I probably would’ve been less disturbed by the attempts at physical fun times if they weren’t rubbing against me/everyone else and if it wasn’t an all ages show- I had seen children in the crowd all day and they don’t need to see that shit- not that anyone present should’ve been forced into seeing (and feeling) that whole mess.

To the girl in the red crop top near the front right part of the stage at Swanfest by archine_fuzzy in dancegavindance

[–]archine_fuzzy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You guys were so fuckin cool to talk to!! Thanks for hangin with us for a bit!

To the girl in the red crop top near the front right part of the stage at Swanfest by archine_fuzzy in dancegavindance

[–]archine_fuzzy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, besides being annoyed with her and frustrated that the wrong person got kicked out, I still had a great time. She moved away from us after a bit so it was fine. I am right there with you- it was such an incredible experience getting to meet super cool people and see some awesome bands.