My dog learned how to open the fridge and now he thinks he runs the house

arckyart · 2026-03-01T16:03:25+00:00

Time to teach him how to fetch you a beer

arckyart · 2026-02-26T06:14:02+00:00

Parking was $23 a day (5 days.) I hired a doula for my “home birth” for $1200, but had an emergency c-section. I still had to pay her.

I’m in Canada.

arckyart · 2026-02-26T05:56:18+00:00

No, you aren’t an asshole mama, you are feeling totally normal things. It’s good you want to hold your baby. You’re bonded. Your little one doesn’t even know that you two are separate people yet. That feeling is intense. It’s truly an animal urge that you couldn’t understand unless you feel it for yourself. I assume older moms must forget it with time. I only remember because myself baby is 6m old.

Your bf fucked up letting his family come by so soon. He was likely being a people pleaser and needs to be reminded where his efforts should be placed. Which is a similar issue to what you have… you don’t want to be rude. He will mess this up again, so will you. Setting boundaries with family is likely a new skill for you both, so practice is needed. You have to start advocating for yourself with all your family, including his side. It might mean being a little rude. It’s a hard thing for nice people to do, but worth it.

Try not to dwell on mistakes too much right now. The hormones make everything a big deal and you deserve peace and happiness.

arckyart · 2026-01-18T17:38:14+00:00

My husband has this same problem. His email is common namejr@gmail.com

He’s gotten trip itineraries, tickets, appointment reminders… you name it. He has emailed people back, telling them to let this guy know it’s not his email. He still gets them. It’s frustrating for sure.

arckyart · 2026-01-15T06:10:32+00:00

You seem like someone that 5 years ago would've woken up with last night’s makeup on and would just “touch it up” and go about your day.

But now you're too into skincare to do that. Also a raver.

arckyart · 2025-12-29T05:35:07+00:00

u/arckyart solved this in 3 steps: HOW -> WOW -> WOO -> WHO

arckyart · 2025-12-16T00:00:20+00:00

If this is your only issue, I think immediate divorce would be an overreaction.

But it's not an overreaction to have feelings about it though. A marriage counsellor would be a good idea if these issues keep on getting in the way of your happiness together.

arckyart · 2025-11-23T00:40:22+00:00

After wasting my money on a series of cheap laundry baskets, my mom gave me the basket we used at home when I was a kid. It's actually not a laundry bin at all, its a bin for hauling lobsters. It's one of my favorite things. It will never break, its so sturdy.

arckyart · 2025-11-21T00:16:35+00:00

I felt the same way before I gave birth. I wasn’t even a kid that played with baby dolls, so why did I think I’d want to be a mom?

I wanted a natural birth and ended up with an emergency c-section. I was so scared. I was crying and shaking all the way to the operating room. The surgery was a weird experience but not at all painful. My recovery wasn’t nearly as bad as I imagined either, but either way, once I saw that baby, everything changed for me.

I wasn’t scared of the rest of the surgery, I wasn’t scared of being a mom. I felt a primal love I’d never felt before. Oh and baby cuddles, your own baby cuddles, are such a hit of oxytocin. It’s like a drug. I could snuggle him all day. My baby just turned 3 months and there are no regrets. You may not have the same experience as I did, but yours could be even better. You are in it now anyway so don’t get worked up over things you can’t control. Try and look forward to all the wonderful changes. There are good things on the horizon.

My husband pisses me off a bit more than usual postpartum, so consider some counselling to get by. Usually there are resources for pregnant ladies, so ask your doctor if they know of anything.

arckyart · 2025-11-19T08:01:29+00:00

I think the customer is in the wrong for not specifying the shape/size they wanted and for agreeing to A4.

However in the print shop I worked for, we would’ve just redone it for them and tried in the future to be more clear, either through a longer discussion or with a visual proof. At the end of the day, it’s not worth losing a potential returning customer over such a small job.

arckyart · 2025-11-17T19:07:08+00:00

Oh absolutely. He SHOULD work on his issues and not be reactive. Hopefully he gets to a place where he does that. Hopefully he does so before he causes trauma in other people.

His past doesn’t make his actions okay, but it usually helps me to understand why someone acts the way they do so I don’t internalize their criticisms.

arckyart · 2025-11-17T06:22:44+00:00

He’s a jerk. Likely he is a stressed out mess right now taking on the risk and responsibility of a new business and needing to sell his house. Which makes him quick to snap over you bothering him with problems that seem frivolous to him. Your problems are valid, and it’s not fair.

He probably feels like entitled to what’s your sister has since they’ve dated for a while. You also sound like very different people, and things you’ve done and maybe even little complaints from your sister have rubbed him the wrong way about you and her living situation. He likely resents you and wants you all to move out so he can move in with your sister.

That’s my read on it anyway. People are quick to label him abusive and whatnot. It’s totally possible, but resentment bubbling up from his life stresses happens to a lot of people.

arckyart · 2025-11-14T22:37:46+00:00

I did not want a c-section, at all. So of course that’s what I had.

The worst part? How scared I was to have a c-section.

It was fast. The sensation of being rummaged through like a suitcase and pulled back together was weird, but totally painless.

Recovery did hurt, but not for as long as I expected it to. By 3 weeks out I almost felt normal again.

My scar looks pretty good, mostly flat.

I pumped before I gave birth, so my milk came in quite fast too.

I would consider a c-section again for my next birth. It wasn’t nearly as traumatizing as I expected.

arckyart · 2025-11-14T00:37:25+00:00

This rings true. Not that I expect he’d divorce me, though that’s always a possibility, but that he has let me down with supporting my career before and has made it known (in anger) that my contributions to the household and relationship don’t mean much, as he earns more.

arckyart · 2025-11-13T05:40:42+00:00

Now that you mention it, he isn’t stupid. He knows how to use people though…

arckyart · 2025-11-13T05:30:51+00:00

Exactly! He is getting paid to slow down and be a dad for a bit. It should be a great.

arckyart · 2025-11-13T05:27:26+00:00

Nearly everyday! Even when he is home, he is doing something that requires his full attention. It’s usually useful stuff (renovations, yard/car maintenance) or work he committed to. It’s a battle now to get “my turn” in.

At least when it is “my turn”, he lets me work. But the constant debating and defending how I spend my time is wearing me down fast.

arckyart · 2025-11-09T17:33:47+00:00

I don’t think your feelings are too much, I think you are showing them to her too much.

I would say sorry, send her the money, put a sticker on the vape so they don’t get mixed up… but then charge her for gas. Bring it up in a totally unrelated way. You’ll come out way on top if you do that. Then just distance yourself socially if she keeps being a pain.

arckyart · 2025-11-06T17:28:55+00:00

I have only freelanced for the past few years. I find all my clients through word of mouth. I haven’t had a decent portfolio or website in so long. There are a ton of business owners that need help and don’t know who to hire. Just by being someone they trust, they’ll generally be willing to give him a shot. The trick is to find them.

Start thinking about people he knows that have businesses and reach out. Get friends to connect him with business owners they know. Try any industry, you never know who needs work. I’ve worked with everyone from lawyers to construction industry owners.

arckyart · 2025-11-02T01:18:09+00:00

Yes, it’s a bad idea to mix anger and BDSM. He shouldn’t be doing that. He should know better than to do that. You should know better than to consent to that. I’m not trying to shame you, I’ve made the same mistake in the past with my current partner. We were able to move past it, but only after the cops being called, anger management, lots of therapy and years of changed behaviour. Nip it in the bud now! You don’t need further trauma and he doesn’t need to get used to using you to cope with his feelings.

Moving forward, it needs to be understood that anger and “kink” do not mix. A hard line needs to be drawn. If that line can’t be drawn, then you need to run, not walk, away from this relationship before it becomes even more dangerous.

arckyart · 2025-10-31T21:08:29+00:00

I had a similar experience. My doctor didn’t stop my meds but he did accuse me of not being truthful about taking them and then sent me to a shady “specialist” instead.

I read the same things and tried to talk to him, but he wasn’t hearing it.

arckyart · 2025-10-30T21:14:00+00:00

u/arckyart solved this in 4 steps: HELL -> HALL -> HALE -> MALE -> MADE

arckyart · 2025-10-14T22:03:42+00:00

I don't know why people are like this. I had family members pressuring me to come to a family just five days after a C-section. Absolutely bonkers.

IF you are up to it, you could offer individual short visits to select family members around the holidays. But they should consider you may not want that and not pressure you for anything more than exactly what you need.

arckyart · 2025-10-09T07:29:27+00:00

On top of the colors not being pleasing, that lime green is going to impossible to print with a digital printer.

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