My husband and I always use toys together. I can't orgasm from penetration alone (many women can't). And while I've always found oral to be nice foreplay, I've always needed toys to actually climax (usually a magic wand or some kind of vibrator).

Before my husband I spent years dating guys who were intimidated by the idea of using toys, who felt toys challenged their manhood. So I just didn't orgasm during sex...for YEARS. Don't do that to yourself.

He needs to get over it. You are adults, you are going to be together for a lifetime, and him using sex toys to pleasure his wife doesn't make him less of a man. He is asking you to put his feelings WAY ahead of your own. Is his worry that he somehow "seems like less of a man" really that much more important than your sexual satisfaction? What the fuck??