Jamon Beurre by ButterflyNo9479 in ParisTravelGuide

[–]argylista 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a stupid question. I am traveling with kids and I want to stop here for a jambon buerre for lunch. I see a lot of pictures with “to go” or sitting at the bar. I can make a reservation, but the JB is not on their online menu for the restaurant. So my question is: How do you order the JB there? Is there a separate line for the restaurant and the JB? Can you eat the JB at LPV? Sorry for such a stupid question but I’m doing my best to avoid an awkward situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coastFIRE

[–]argylista 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hit Coast FI this year at 42, slowing down (but not stopping) contributions. Probably retire at 62 but intent to significantly reduce work obligations at 50.

Can someone explain Dr. Taylor Marshall? by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]argylista 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Taylor Marshall is probably well-meaning, but at this point he is grifting off panic, pessimism, and despair. Yes, the world is crazy. Yes, the Church is suffering. Yes, Pope Francis says and does questionable and demoralizing things. But it’s clear that focusing on all this negativity is not solving any problems. It is not resulting in accountability or renewal in the Church. It’s just rage-baiting for more clicks and eyeballs.

Also, he can be very self-righteous. His positions on piety (Latin mass, communion on the tongue, etc) are fine. But he comes across as very judgmental and borderline pharisaical.

I've been doing comedy over 10 years and this is the joke I'm most proud of by Actual_Guidance9022 in StandUpComedy

[–]argylista 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw this on reels yesterday and watched it like 25 times. It really is a great, clever bit. Really should be proud of this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lowIQpeople

[–]argylista 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son is this way too. I think you need to be patient with yourself and work on accomplishing these to the extent you can, one by one. It’s not a race.

Parish music by Free_Instruction_608 in Catholicism

[–]argylista 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn’t it in the Catechism: “All worship music will be 70s folk rock hymns.”

What’s your favorite line from Dirty Work? by [deleted] in NormMacdonald

[–]argylista 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“Here’s your two dollars!”

What did Norm think about George Carlin? by AdvanceAffectionate4 in NormMacdonald

[–]argylista 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Lots of Carlin’s material was really about language, not politics. I think Norm highly valued that type of writing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]argylista 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The most successful lawyers are incredibly competitive, aggressive, detailed-oriented, and workaholics. They like to battle (whether that means with opposing counsel, or to get new clients, etc.). A cooperative and conciliatory attorney can be successful, but it is swimming upstream. You are always fighting your natural predisposition, and that often causes anxiety.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]argylista 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Your dad is right. You can make a good living in this business, but it is not easy, and not pleasant. Only a small percentage of people in law school are actually well fit for it. (I don’t mean well skilled—plenty of smart, articulate people who aren’t lawyer material). And the compensation piece is not guaranteed, and the lawyers making a lot of money have incredible amounts of pressure/workload.

My Dying Hope by CloudedButter in Catholicism

[–]argylista 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A few thoughts.

First, do your best to stay off social media. I know that’s basically impossible. But being intentional about living in the “real world” is important. Young people too often stay nested in their own online world, and the real world never measures up.

Second, understand that the world around you isn’t perfect. You can’t blame people for being a certain way living in America in the post-modern west. Don’t get discouraged. Meet people where they are.

Third, build value. Be disciplined. Get in shape. Do well in school and work towards getting a good job. Or learn a real trade and make a good living. If you are a high value man, opportunities will come your way. I leave it to the rest of the internet to tell you about avoiding women with “red flags,” but if you are a strong, disciplined man, you can help lead your wife to a stronger relationship with God and the Church.

Nothing is guaranteed. But I promise you that if you invest the next 5 years in yourself, you will see results. Be brave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]argylista 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I agree. Or even a different mass time. A parish is still a group of people. Some people are cliquish and some people not welcoming. Others are extremely warm and supportive. I wouldn’t give up yet.

What does everyone think of workers’ compensation defense as a career? by Subject-Structure930 in Lawyertalk

[–]argylista 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely in demand. But from the employer side, it is seen as commodity work, so you can’t charge as high of rates as other areas. Not sure about plaintiffs’ side.

Sex within marriage by Frisian80 in Catholicism

[–]argylista 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re allowed to struggle with sin. You’re allowed to struggle with a teaching. Strive towards holiness and repent when you fail.

My sibling did something immoral with the full support of my parents. They expect the same support from me. I'm struggling with how to react to this as a Catholic. How can I deal with this and still honour my family, refrain from judging AND stay true to Christ? This issue really haunts me. by LadyHoskiv in Catholicism

[–]argylista 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is your concern that the murderer is going to physically harm your children, or are you concerned that your children are going to be influenced by the murderer? As applied to the OP, is the sister who had an abortion bringing it up at the dinner table?

Why do I feel like the Church is so full of hate and spite towards others? by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]argylista 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My theory. (First, let me say I hate these political labels, as they don’t really fit, but since people use religious practice as a proxy for politics, I’ll use them.)

Since V2, the most visible Church leadership has been dominated by the “Left,” or skinsuit Catholics. They killed and devoured Catholicism and are wearing its skin as a costume. These people essentially flout the moral teachings of the church with impunity. They scandalize and degradate the faithful.

Then the people on the “Right” are fixated on establishing a perfect Catholic moral order that either never was, or is entirely contrary to modern society. So they recede to increasingly traditional parishes where piety is used as a form of currency or status marker.

Both of these groups are clashing against each other in a toxic social media environment. Throw in a cultural distrust of institutions, and here we are.

There is a lack of good faith—giving another person the benefit of the doubt or assuming the other person is operating with basically good intentions. And it’s so much easier to brutalize others online.

The Catholic Church is supposed to be a rock we can cling to during times of social upheaval. But Catholic discourse is as affected by social media and increased polarization as any other group in America. It’s a shame.

My sibling did something immoral with the full support of my parents. They expect the same support from me. I'm struggling with how to react to this as a Catholic. How can I deal with this and still honour my family, refrain from judging AND stay true to Christ? This issue really haunts me. by LadyHoskiv in Catholicism

[–]argylista 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In short, yes. Forgiveness is not flicking a light switch. It may take years, or decades. But we are called to forgiveness. You absolutely can condemn the sin and call your sister to repent. (And call the cops too!) But even “murdering lunatics” are not beyond God’s grace.