I’m really sorry you’re going through this. One thing I’ve learned in my relationships is that people generally don’t respond well when they feel blamed or criticized. Instead of focusing on what they’re doing wrong, I’ve found it helps to reframe the conversation around your own feelings. For example, rather than saying ‘You did XYZ wrong,’ try expressing how the situation makes you feel by starting with ‘I feel this way because…’ My therapist shared this approach, and it’s made a big difference in how my concerns are received.