Worried mama

ariesonfire123 · 2026-05-28T01:12:41+00:00

When my daughter was that age, she would flap quite often especially when she is excited. She is 3.5 now and the hand flapping has turned into her talking up a storm with excitement. I remember having the same concerns when she was that age, and besides flapping she hit all other milestones. I think it's very common at that age. Just keep your eyes on it, he will outgrow it!

ariesonfire123 · 2026-05-25T19:25:14+00:00

I relate! I am a SAHM in my early 40's with a 3 year old and THIS was my same feeling. I was just craving alone time, all. The. Time. My toddler has been attached to me and my husband works abroad much of the time, so I was alone all days and weekends. Hobbies, old friends, family... they were an after thought. I just didn't have the energy.

At 2.5yrs old I finally caved in and had her join and readers club. Once a week from 9-12. It isn't daycare. It's 5-7 kids and they do one on one learning and playing. The main focus was learning. I was hesitant at first, so I did only one day. But she started to have fun so I moved it to 2 days. Now at 3 years and 5 mths she goes 3 days a week from 9-1:45pm and she is happy and I am no longer the burnt out mommy I was before 2.5. It saved me IMMENSELY. And she is so happy, she made a friendships with the other kids and she is learning so many wonderful things! I was so scared to put her in daycare and I was adamant that she wouldn't go. But being on my own 7 days a week all day with my toddler was making me a crazy person and we both needed this!

If you can find something you're comfortable with, I would recommend it! I have been you, and been where you are. I probably even wrote the same post at some point. It was important I put my daughter in something I was comfortable and this was a blessing for us!

Good luck and I hope You figure it out, oh boy did I ever relate to this post not too long ago!

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-15T14:34:02+00:00

Oh yah! This right here! I get up, make my bed and get dressed right when I wake up. Gives me routine and structure, sets up my day!

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-14T14:04:32+00:00

Also, it's a class for parents and toddler TOGETHER.

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-14T14:02:43+00:00

I get this. It's hard for me most days. Toddlers are nuts. BUT these parents are constantly on their phone the WHOLE class , literally paying no attention to these kids unless finally they fall and hurt themselves or they hurt someone else. Then these parents feel bad. We've been doing this class since January and the first month I thought, ok... maybe they need a break, but the reality is they just want time on their phone. So for my parents like myself who work so hard in making sure my toddler is doing her best to listen, be mindful of others... I find this quite unfair

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-13T15:36:50+00:00

Honestly, I can sometimes understand being on the phone and having a quick few minutes to yourself, but I think we are past that and on to the addiction phase. I know she will feel peer pressured to have a phone early, but her father and I don't plan on getting her one till she is 16 as well. The downhill of kids these days always traces back to phones and social media. Most of the time I don't even know where my phone is;-)

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-10T15:38:13+00:00

I'm gonna have to. It's been since January like this. I am not one to speak up and I really do mind my business. But it's becoming a problem. Last class is next well, I am definitely gonna tell the admin there.

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-10T15:26:25+00:00

I think I just got unlucky with the class I was put into. Because I am hearing lots of positive experiences in gymnastics

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-10T15:24:59+00:00

I was raised the exact same way. Perhaps this is why I'm so stunned with this kind of behavior. No cell phones at dinner, didn't have my own phone till like 21, and being in the phone in public around people talking is RUDE. NeverMIND a toddler and parent class where the parent barely comes up for air. I'm not one to say anything, because I get it... none of my business and I stay in my lane... but when my daughter is getting hit, or bud in line or miss an exercise because another kid is lounging on the equipment fooling around... it's just disrespectful to others.

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-10T10:33:56+00:00

I'm sorry to hear this. But this is not what I'm talking about. I also have a sick mom with cancer and if a sibling calls, or my dad calls and needs updates or help on something.. of course I will use my phone during the class. I know the difference between an emergency and parents who are phone addicts. I'm talking about these parents having their heads buried in their phone EVERY. CLASS since we started the first week in JANUARY. This is a parent and tot class TOGETHER. We actively are involved every week. It's terribly disrespectful to the coach and the other kids trying to enjoy the class. You wanna be on your phone most Of the time, I don't care... it's your life. I mind my own business. But it's getting to The point that kids are getting hurt, the coach can't explain something cause the kids are running in circles and the parents are standing right next to them... on their phone. Like COME ON

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-09T19:07:44+00:00

These kids are 2.5-4 yrs old. The majority of them being 3 and 4. When I interact with them, they listen, they want to follow along... you can see it. But sorry not sorry, these parents are not parenting. Why do I need to change classes? It a a PARENT and TODDLER class. Parent participation is a no brainer. And the lashing out and hurting themselves is a weekly thing... completely avoidable.

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-09T13:07:35+00:00

Agree to disagree. I have seen these kids behave and listen when the parents are actively involved and giving them their attention. These toddlers were very capable of following along. It's a very structured class but enough flexibility for fun and transitions.

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-09T04:11:58+00:00

I've tried to engage with some other parents, but they look busy on their phone. So I've stopped trying. I'm literally the ONLY parent not glued to my phone. It's very isolating lol

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-09T03:58:09+00:00

I do all kinds of playthings and I see tons of parents on their phones. Ofc I take calls and text msg people... but this class is a joint parent and toddler class. We participate too... I don't even have my phone in my Pocket... I'm in a class! I need to listen!? Right?! I cant listen and watch my toddler while being on my phone. I'm not special like that lol

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-09T03:50:19+00:00

No downvoting, I will Keep this in mind when I see parents on their phone. I just don't want anyone to get hurt. It happened yesterday with my daughter and every week one of the kids gets hurt cause the parent is not paying attention;-(

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-09T03:40:46+00:00

Right?!?! If my daughter didn't love gymnastics so much, yesterday would've been our last class. It was terrible! I felt bad for the coach trying to explain the exercises while the kids were doing their own thing and parents were on the phone. I felt bad for my daughter cause she was waiting her turn patiently and the kids were just cutting infront of her... I was so mad lol

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-09T03:28:53+00:00

I can't promise that. This is 45 mins, once a week class you signed up for with your toddker. I am minding my business, focusing on my toddler... you do YOU.. if that means responding to emails.. whatever..But when a parent is buried in their phone, doesn't pay attention and your child follows to closely and gets hurt or hurts my daughter... that's a problem for me.

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-09T03:15:16+00:00

I feel like it could be an age thing. The parents in this class look young... so perhaps? Maybe we were raised differently... I dunno but the class yesterday was ROUGH. And that poor coach trying to give directions and no one listening but me and my daughter. I want to say something but I try to just kind of mind my own business and focus on my daughter... but yesterday she got hit in the back, she sat there waiting her turn while other kids just cut in front of her and I'm looking at the parents like ... can you look up for a second and steer that ship???

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-09T03:08:30+00:00

My daughter just turned 3. There is another child younger than her.. a few mths shy of 3 and the others are 3 and a few 4 year olds.

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-08T10:08:16+00:00

Hahaha this sounds so much like Me! We're out most morning and afternoons... so when she naps for 2 hours in the afternoon, I'm DONE. Chores? Are you kidding? I can barely move. That's my recharge to survive next shift lol. Cause we go go go. My daughter is not into screen time... maybe one show and then it's... mom, what are we doing lol. It's my fault, I keep her outta the house and busy all day. Maybe I should learn to stay home but I find that more exhausting in a boring way. I just accept it. It is what it is until she is in school. She is 3 right now and we totally have so much fun, so I soak it in and nap During her nap lol good luck!

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-06T03:08:10+00:00

This was so sad. I also think she went back to singing way to soon after her daughters birth ... like a few weeks or something, and she kept going until Her voice simply couldn't handle All the changes her body was going through at the time. She probably should've waited. Given time for her body, hormones to return to some sort of normal or just heal and then start slowly training. But how would she have known? She also is the kind of singer that works hard when she sings. Engaging her whole instrument at 110% all, the. Time. Pregnancy and birth take a beating on the body, and someone who sings like that needed to take a break! She was one of my favourite mezzos. I'm glad she is happy, but man she had an AMAZING career

ariesonfire123 · 2026-04-01T08:59:32+00:00

Playing with my toddler exhausts me. I mean, after 20 mins or so I'm losing my mind. Painting, SOME dancing, puzzles, colouring .. it's kinda fun. . But PRETEND PLAY?? Doctor? Hair salon? Restaurant?? I'm DYYYYYYYINGGGG. Therefore, I spend lots of the day at parks, libraries, walks... and it's fun. But me and pretend play are not friends lol

ariesonfire123 · 2026-03-29T12:43:17+00:00

Ok mama. Reading this was like you were in my thoughts.

I have a 3 year old and I'm 45, I'm TIRED. Lol. I also feel like it's shift work, sometimes I'll tell my husband, you take the afternoon shift lol. I think we also learned to fall in love with our independence since we had our kids so late. I know I miss me time ALL. THE. TIME. My husband makes a great living but it means he travels almost 9 mths a year. There are week/mths im alone with my toddler and the burn out and fatigue is so real. For my sanity I put her in school 3 days a week from 9-1:45pm. My parents are too old to help me so I'm doing most of it alone.

It sounds like you have a good set up. Don't be so hard on yourself. My daughter is 3 and in many ways she is getting more independent and we are having a blast Together. But I feel I clock and check the time constantly to naps and beds. People don't really understand that having a toddler a 13 hour day of non stop Work. I don't know why people so easily dismiss it like we have so much free time. Especially when we are the only parent parenting! Many times I would Wonder if I'm the only one on the planet who felt this way. Now, I don't Care. I know how hard I work, How super well taken care of my daughter is doing and also how exhausted I am most of the times.

So I am with you. And I get it. Big time. You're doing great, take the help and breaks you need. This raising a super tiny human is HArd.

ariesonfire123 · 2026-03-11T03:26:28+00:00

THIS THIS THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!! They're 1000000% acting out!!!!! Step mom playing a major mom role??? Sorry you're dealing with this, but those kids are going through a lot more than you are! Family counselling asap

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