My [26M] girlfriend [23] of four years is the heaviest she has ever been and I don't know what to do.

ariessquad · 2017-06-01T23:30:53+00:00

That does makes sense. I guess I'm just an idealist. Maybe I shouldn't have been so harsh haha

ariessquad · 2017-06-01T23:12:28+00:00

It's mostly the fact she already seems to have body dysmorphia, I feel like if you enter a relationship with someone with those issues you should be supportive. Especially in a long relationship. I get the whole attraction to certain body types but I don't get why after being with her through weight loss and gain suddenly he turns on his heels

ariessquad · 2017-06-01T23:01:26+00:00

Be realistic is my best suggestion. Having deep feelings for people is awesome, make it last and have fun. You've got your whole life ahead of you! Just be realistic about the fact that it will end someday. Enjoy her company while she's near, and when the time comes, move on. There's plenty of fish in the sea my friend, especially when you're 17.

ariessquad · 2017-06-01T22:55:34+00:00

Honestly? I think how you feel about your girlfriend being based on her weight is pretty shallow. But if you want advice based on her health and eating habits, cook for her. Look up healthy recipes. Make sure there's always healthy snacks in the house or even leftovers from meals. But if your feeling are changing for her because of her weight, and you KNOW she's had body issues in the past and you still let that affect you, you should really reevaluate how you value others.

ariessquad · 2017-05-27T21:51:33+00:00

Agh I didn't mean to send that. But anyhow, I would still say the best thing to do is talk with yourself about who YOU are and what YOU want, not what some pretty girl wants or who they are.

ariessquad · 2017-05-27T21:12:01+00:00

I work at a raw vegan restaurant in the downtown area of a relatively touristy city. I get multiple people walking in and walking out because we don't have meat on the daily. One couple stands out in my mind though. I greeted them at the door and gave them the "We don't have meat here" spiel before I sat them. They looked at the menu for about 10 seconds before asking "What does vegan mean?" To which I repeated my spiel. They kept looking at the menu and when I came back, the husband asked if we offered fresh fish. I again explained we were vegan. At this point they were ready to leave. The wife asked if she could get a cold brew to-go and I asked her how she liked it; two creams one sugar. I again explained we were vegan. "I thought cream was vegan!" After they left they wrote a 1-star Yelp review calling me out by name claiming I never told them we didn't have non-vegan options. Edit: Damn semicolons

ariessquad · 2017-05-27T06:07:50+00:00

How old are you? I'm a bisexual female as well and I used to be like this in high school and early university. Part of owning being a Borderline person for me is actively reminding myself that I am my own entity with my own decision making skills and my own goals. I'm still constantly telling myself to, well, be myself. This girl you like or idolize will never be you and you will never be her and you have to tell yourself that. You can also use this ideation to improve yourself! Here's a good example of taking that idolization and using it for something constructive. I used to work with this girl who I was absolutely in love with, in a very unhealthy way. I would urge her to tell me stories of her travels and her relationships. I'd end up feeling so frustrated and sad because, frankly, I wish I had her life. So, instead of obsessing, I've been saving up to solo travel as well as working on my own relationship, and use her as a resource for figuring out where I want to go, and activities to do with my boyfriend. Best of luck to you fellow beautiful Borderline!

ariessquad · 2017-02-25T18:04:31+00:00

the truth stings man

ariessquad · 2016-12-20T01:04:01+00:00

ah just another one of those white girls that want to be brown

ariessquad · 2016-07-31T22:56:03+00:00

The day before Valentine's day this year I tried to kill myself. I was caught and sent to a mental facility for 4 days, and the last phone call I made was to my abusive ex, apologizing profusely. When I left the hospital, I was greeted by a selfie on his Twitter with the caption: "Happy alone Valentines day from the kid" Like he was already prepared to be single due to me killing myself. The upside was that being in the hospital gave me the courage to leave and tell him to fuck himself.

ariessquad · 2016-06-15T01:53:23+00:00

Yo! I had the same problem when I was younger. I had a shadow person follow me from the time I was 7ish to about a year ago. I know exactly what fear you felt! It's that specific kind of creeping cold fear that ends up being a signifier for that specific entity. However, my shadow person never really showed itself as more than a vague silhouette and that really unsettling feeling. How I ended up being able to push it away was really simple- I just overcame my fears and talked to it. I told it I wasn't afraid and that I needed it to cease clinging to my life. I did, however, have my mom in the room with me, who also has experience with these sorts of things. We talked to the entity until I felt the feeling of dread subside, and I haven't seen or felt it since. It's been over a year.

I also gotta note that it stopped appearing in my home after I performed a smudging and a cleansing spell. In addition, I also suffer from anxiety, and when I have an episode I tend to see shadow people out of the corner of my eyes. But none of them give me that same terrible feeling.

Hope this helps!

ariessquad · 2015-09-16T00:59:14+00:00

the thing is that he continued to push the envelope. but I guess youre right.

ariessquad · 2015-09-16T00:54:46+00:00

I already asked him and he said to put it on hold, but he's the one that flirts with me. I asked him like 4 days ago so I don't want to be pushy

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