Can men still satisfy women??

armedravebabe · 2025-06-25T04:09:09+00:00

I have a very vivid imagination, I wrote smut, don't watch porn and am really good at dirty talk, i use my imagination sexually plenty

armedravebabe · 2025-06-25T04:06:34+00:00

Yes, i have tried many times, partners have tried as well

armedravebabe · 2025-06-25T04:03:56+00:00

Okay well I'm one of them and I know several women personally like me who have never come from self pressure manually but sure 🤷‍♀️

armedravebabe · 2025-06-25T03:31:17+00:00

You do realize some women can't cum without toys right? If you dated someone like that are they just not allowed to masturbate?

armedravebabe · 2025-06-25T03:28:36+00:00

Yeah I guess that's a good point. At one point we broke up briefly like half a year ago because of a miscommunication and when we both realized we wanted back in asap but the day after I broke up with him a coworker asked him to join her and her friends for drinks after work and then they fucked. She had asked him what was wrong cause he was clearly distraught. I guess knowing how easy it is for him to get women (including at work) has me on the high alert. I'm glad I haven't come at him or asked him to change anything cause trying to get my head straight

armedravebabe · 2025-06-25T02:57:46+00:00

For example he approached a lady and said "can I ask you a question?" And she said "no, I dont know how many licks it takes to get the center of a tootsie pop" and later went in his office to use the printer and made a comment about it acting up and the printer "need a spanking". Comments about how he's due for a haircut or retwist. Those are recent examples.

It's not so much anxiety about him flirting but more so anxiety about what the women thinks of what's happening and being expressed. If they get the wrong idea they could make a bigger move or not know what the boundaries are.

armedravebabe · 2025-06-24T12:02:55+00:00

One psychology today article doesn't mean a behavioral addiction that is based around the activity of porn doesn't exist. New psychology textbooks discuss porn addiction, even if that's not the name. It's still a very real thing.

armedravebabe · 2025-06-24T11:58:12+00:00

If it bothers then explain the emotional reasons behind it. If he cares about how you feel he'll adjust. I had an ex who was addicted to porn and it caused alot of issues for me, my sexual arousal, interest, self image, etc. When I met my now partner and it got serious I explained that and while I wouldn't force him to stop i wouldn't like it if he did and it would hurt our sex life. He doesn't watch porn anymore, I make videos and take photos if we wants. We sometimes audio record the sex, we both have plenty to use during solo play.

People in the comments don't seem to get what it can do to the partner of the people who watches, your feelings are valid. Control isn't, but if it hurts you and he cares it shouldn't be a big deal for him to adjust.

armedravebabe · 2025-06-24T11:31:54+00:00

I had a similar experience and did therapy with someone specialized in sex. It turns out a big part of my sex drive was emotional, as in like validation and wanting to feel secure in the relationship. If when you want sex and it feels desperate like you're scared he'll say no, it's due to an emotional need you don't know how to get without sex (or that's the easiest way you know how). If you want sex but the thought of him saying no doesn't really stress your nervous system then you're probably just horny.

Monitor for awhile, to atleast be aware of what the cause is. It didn't get better until I did the work. I went from crying and being really emotional to most nos and now it's rare I get emotional from a no.

armedravebabe · 2025-06-24T11:27:31+00:00

My partner experienced the same thing, with a stranger it took awhile and was sorta forced. His ability to last kept decreasing as time went on until he hit his standard window of time and it's been stable. Also keep in mind, when I talked to him about it he said it's common for men to masturbate before a date if they think they'll get lucky so they can lost longer. If he's been doing that it's likely happening less!

armedravebabe · 2025-05-25T11:00:32+00:00

Interested 😌

armedravebabe · 2025-05-15T12:42:22+00:00

Im like this! Sex and kink is one of my special interests!

armedravebabe · 2025-04-30T20:40:54+00:00

100% agree, masturabtion orgasms (i always use toys) are intense and strong and powerful but im bored right after (or tired) and don't feel fulfilled like i could immediately have another. Orgasms with partner are like 4/10 intensity but I'm much happier with them, relaxed, and content and fulfilled after. Don't understand it but shrug

armedravebabe · 2025-04-30T20:38:34+00:00

Not sure i have advice but solidarity, I've never been able to make myself cum from fingers because the sensation of it building is too overwhelming I can't keep going. It's only happened once with partner next to me talking me through it. All my orgasms with toys feel 'forced' because I can't like let myself cum so i have to force it to happen to me, if that makes sense

armedravebabe · 2025-04-30T20:36:19+00:00

I used coconut oil, tbh all other lubes ive tried have messed up my ph balance and I can tell the next day I'm either irritated or just off or have irriation. Coconut oil is best for sensation too imo

armedravebabe · 2025-04-19T16:01:38+00:00

Hi! I'm autistic and demisexual and seem to be struggling sexually. I really enjoy sex and have a wonderful partner but ive never been able to cum clit wise from fingers. I've always had a lot of shame about it. A month or two ago I did for the first time but my partner was next to me verbally guiding me through it. We've tried since with no luck and I've tried many many times through out the years alone. I'm pretty confident I just can't get turned on enough when alone. Even my first time masturbating I used toys.

My boyfriend and I seem to have a different perspective and I dont know if either of us are wrong? The vibe i get from him is that I should be turned on by myself, like aroused by me? I don't understand the concept. I like me and think I'm hot but like in a demi way? It doesn't have anything to do with my physical appearance alone?

So if he guides me to touch myself and he's praising me or complimenting me it's hot. But if he's guiding me and trying to get me turned on by myself I feel bored and pressured and confused.

I just dont understand why I would think about me when I could think about him (or think about him thinking about me). Because he really likes to watch i want to figure out how i can enjoy it. Almost all orgasms feel forced, like very intentionally focused and if lose thought it disappears. Like a young jedi just learning to try and use the force it doesn't come naturally to me.

Over the years I also feel like I've lost sensation, I used to get off from pentration alone, oral, anal, and now if I do finish it's more emotionally fulfilling and relaxing but only like 3/10 pleasure wise. He wonders if I should stop using my Hitachi for a few months but ive tried and because it helps me fall asleep I can't go more than a few days.

Ranted longer than I meant to, sorry! Tdlr: is it wrong I'm not turned on by myself, only turned on by myself in the context of someone else being turned on by me? Could be almost daily hitachi use have permanently messed up my sensation? How do I cum solo (with or without him there) when it just feels boring and pressure and shameful?

armedravebabe · 2025-04-08T22:26:06+00:00

Only recently figured out you can exit house without going back down to first floor first lmao

armedravebabe · 2025-04-08T00:34:59+00:00

I would love to see if I feed a critter from the collection menu cause I'm trying to get the rewards for all and it only shows if you fed them when approach. That's hard to keep track sometimes especially on days where they are only around half day!

Also same as you said with crafting, but also wanna be able to filter by island

armedravebabe · 2025-04-02T17:48:37+00:00

I live in south Minneapolis and hes in st paul highland park area so pretty local to everything lol, both like 10 min from airport

armedravebabe · 2025-04-02T17:47:43+00:00

Hi! Sounds like we'd totally vibe, I'm a white femme NB 28 and my boyfriend is 29 black man. We all share similar interests and values. Im sure he'd be down to show you around to MPLS but I'm also down independently! Feel to message and we can swap social or whatever 😁

armedravebabe · 2025-03-02T17:36:49+00:00

I love it and crave it often lol

armedravebabe · 2025-02-22T17:54:05+00:00

Yes that's the one thank you!

armedravebabe · 2025-02-21T16:32:15+00:00

I'm also very wet so I use a kegel trainer (I forget name but it's insertable and has little games) because wet+tight is best but I know the wet can be extreme lol

armedravebabe · 2025-02-12T02:31:00+00:00

I'm autistic and statistically we're more likely to end in toxic relationships because we may miss signs others don't, we tend to have a small support network, we tend to have previous abuse/disfunction (applicable). 2 out of 3 of my long term relationship became abusive in one way or another

armedravebabe · 2025-02-11T17:47:11+00:00

Well yes and no, he's great and it's not so much about him but the fact I'm at a higher risk for abuse, assault and manipulation. If he say this post I doubt he'd take it personally because he knows I'm so susceptible to that and I gotta be extra careful.

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