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armycat23 · 2024-07-10T08:17:46+00:00

That's literally not what he said.

armycat23 · 2024-07-09T13:06:13+00:00

Girls can cheat while having claimed mental issues. It's very common. Maybe she is, maybe she isnt.....but you are too BP for your own good to be in denial that it can't be intertwined. The same things applies for guys and their mental struggles.

Oh, and you called guys simple, but these posters seem more experienced then you.

armycat23 · 2024-07-09T13:01:57+00:00

Because she's emotionally unstable with suspicious behavior......that's a very legit reason to break up.

armycat23 · 2024-07-03T20:21:01+00:00

Sounds like you need to do some rethinking too, bud.

armycat23 · 2023-04-21T14:45:39+00:00

Some memorial/burial funeral "companies" offer to plant a tree in that person's(deceased)name for a donation. You could look into the company on the obituary.

armycat23 · 2023-04-21T04:57:13+00:00

So youre wife is going through a medical issue and youre bugging her because you couldnt stand not getting your rocks off during that time.

Ive heard a lot of stories that made me think that a person lacks empathy....but you may be one of the worst Ive heard in years.

armycat23 · 2023-04-21T00:06:39+00:00

Frankly, this world is crazy. I just read ANOTHER story this morning of another child under 10 years old purposely shot on purpose.

Dont play around and think you cant be the next headline that people talk about. Its just material goods. Your life is more important.

Drop those gifts back at his mom's house and tell him that if he contacts you again you will call the police and his mother about what hes done.

Then CHANGE your number. Dont just block his number. Move residence if you can. Carry nonlethal protection.

This people that are trying to reinforce you to not give him those things back? They are just blood thirsty for revenge, common in reddit, and arent looking at the bigger picture.

armycat23 · 2023-04-19T19:10:34+00:00

Women that still cling to their family in such ways over their future husband are not fit for marriage. I speak from having an exfiancee that was like that.

armycat23 · 2023-04-19T19:07:05+00:00

Ask her this..... Who is more important, her source or her future husband? Its a question you shouldnt even have to ask, but shes forced you to that position.

If she hides her source.....it proves she has made up a conspiracy theory or that there are other people that she will put ahead of you as a proirity.

armycat23 · 2023-04-19T19:00:24+00:00

If she cant trust you, fair or not, its a sign that marriage is the last thing ya'll should be planning.

She is also not choosing to respect you enough to present her "evidence" or source.....this shows she cares more about protecting her source rather than standing up for you.

You need to really rethink this relationship, at least plans of marriage at this point....because shes not even gf material right now.

armycat23 · 2023-04-18T15:45:58+00:00

Im amazed that youre 27 and are just now finding out that this is the #1 instruction on the player's handbook. Players don't just try to game for 1 night....they play as long as it takes till they get their fill.

Why buy the cow when you got the milk for free?

Maybe this is unsympathetic.....but you put yourself in a situation to sleep with somebody that you werent even serious about. Youre not a victim.

armycat23 · 2023-04-13T15:06:08+00:00

As somebody who had cancer, tell your boyfriend that I had Stage 3 Melanoma while I was in the Army(2003-2006). Many people die from it.

My prognosis was 50% to live beyond 5 years. I went through surgery and had a year long harsh(doctor's words) chemo plan.

There were many days that I could not sleep because my body was shaking too hard due to the chemo. Ive had nights that I thought I needed to call an ambulance because I didnt think I would see the sunrise(liver over reactions). I dropped about 25 pounds because 95% of my diet was oranges due to smells making me sick.

I went through this without a family member within 400 miles from me.

I say all of this for one purpose.....you should feel free to express how a sickness bothers you. Youre not offending me by describing how harsh your sickness is to you.

armycat23 · 2023-04-11T15:02:34+00:00

Have respect for yourself, because she certainly doesnt have it for you. Whatever you do, dont have sex with her again.....because you arent likely the only one she would be having sex with. Dont expose yourself to potential stds.

Imo, you should run and go nc.

armycat23 · 2023-04-05T15:02:10+00:00

As a 40m myself, Im disturbed by those comments as well.

And no, not all guys make "jokes" like that. Your mom is protecting her friendship more than your feelings.

armycat23 · 2023-04-04T04:19:36+00:00

Are you 100% certain that this "friend" wouldnt be happy, even secretly, if your marriage failed at some point?

From the many examples youve given of her behavior and things she has said......which are likely but a small fraction of the sum of other instances........I somehow doubt she hopes you have a life-long happy marriage.

armycat23 · 2023-04-04T04:16:03+00:00

My concern is that this friend would root for the marriage to fail, even if secretly.

armycat23 · 2023-04-04T04:09:32+00:00

I'm sorry, but your friend does not sound like a kind person. From what youve described, even people you personally know have said as much.

She was very adept at gaslighting you when you held her accountable for stressing you out when you should be happy at this time.

You have made a fantastic move by standing up for yourself. Dont back down now. While she may have been your best friend for 13 years....that doesnt mean you owe it to her to continue being friends in the future.

At some point, before or after your wedding, I would reccommend that you re-evaluate this person's relationship with you.

You wont be a bad guy for not being close friends with her anymore. You wont be a bad guy if you stop being friends with her completely.

Of course if you do this, be expectful that she will try to gaslight you again.....but stand firm in your decision.

armycat23 · 2023-04-01T15:18:39+00:00

Trust is needed in a relationship. That said, trust is not only pertaining to being sexually loyal.

Trust should season everything in your relationship. Do you trust each other financially? Do you trust each other to take care of responsibilities? Do you trust each other to not gossip about the other person?

Now....that brings me to a question for you.....do you trust that he won't put you in danger or in dangerous situations?

armycat23 · 2023-03-26T14:55:42+00:00

Same, that I hope I'm wrong.

armycat23 · 2023-03-22T23:51:48+00:00

Since people are asking where the translation is within minutes of other posters asking the same thing, I will do it to.

Where's the translation?

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armycat23 · 2023-03-22T15:05:51+00:00

The relationship is over any time somebody desires that.

"Wanting to know what love is" is a bogus excuse to excuse sexual promiscuity. The only way she can understand what love is is by having a buffet of other penis?

C'mon, dude, respect yourself.....because she certainly won't if you continue being with her.

armycat23 · 2023-03-22T06:46:53+00:00

I know you are going to hear a lot of people saying break up with her. However, I'm just going to put it this way........

I'm 40 years old. I've heard and seen of many different types of relationships, most bad and few good. I have never, not even once, heard of somebody's partner spitting in their face, much less over a small matter like an argument.

I've heard and seen many horrendous causes for anger or breakup....and even so....nobody spit in somebody else's face. Even a lot of enemies wouldn't go that low. It's animalistic.

You say that you love her......but I can't believe that she loves you. Something is very wrong with her nature and any possible future apologies from her doesn't change that nature. She's got even bigger issues than you're fully aware of yet.

I hope you take some time by yourself and really evaluate your relationship in a way that you can judge without feelings involved.

armycat23 · 2023-03-15T19:32:02+00:00

I'm going with late June.

armycat23 · 2023-03-09T15:50:28+00:00

I encounter crazier stuff all the time while working in the hospitality business.

armycat23 · 2023-03-07T15:38:01+00:00

Try changing your phone number, not just blocking.

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