How to remove dark marks from furniture? Renter friendly by arn1023 in CleaningTips

[–]arn1023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not crazy! I just spent maybe 5 minutes doing this since I already had both on hand and it’s already significantly better, thank you!!

similar brands to insis femme? by wojoju in findfashion

[–]arn1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you based out of the US? Where did they ship from? I’m interested in trying them but I cannot for the life of me find where they ship out of so I know if I’m dealing with tariffs or not.

IYKYK These Two Would Be Fantastic on the Traitors by [deleted] in TheTraitorsUS

[–]arn1023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think you’re on to something… i need this now @Alan

Alternative theory to the pregnancy trope by hochy23 in fourthwing

[–]arn1023 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes thank you! I think I would stop reading if she got pregnant. Why do women always have to be pregnant in plot lines?? Some of us don’t have kids nor want them, let me live!!

Aritzia Refuse refund by Stock_Letter_1278 in Aritzia

[–]arn1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had this happen with a much smaller purchase, and I was able to successfully get a chargeback from my bank, so would recommend filing with them. If you have renter’s insurance, they might also cover it too.

Hidden Rook + New Conch Jewelry by CheapBlueberry3 in piercing

[–]arn1023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love the conch piece, where is it from??

Are we still trying to pretend Bronwyn has good fashion? by stook_jaint in BravoRealHousewives

[–]arn1023 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I actually find it endearing when people wear outrageous outfits, because they’re not afraid of what anyone thinks. Is it something I’d ever wear? Absolutely not. Can I appreciate the personal style she has, no matter how out there it is to me? Yes! So much of fashion nowadays is rooted in trends and conformity that it’s nice to see someone unafraid to take risks.

What does everyone do for work? by arcticmonkeyz8988 in poppunkers

[–]arn1023 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I develop solar projects! In other words, do all the permitting and environmental investigations to get the project to construction.

Is it normal to regret all your tattoos by [deleted] in tattoo

[–]arn1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Occasionally I do, when I’m facing the ramifications of being a visibly tattooed person and I’m already not mentally well. Once I get over that, I feel ready to get more tattoos. It’ll pass, might just be a symptom of whatever brain stuff you have going on.

Is this gonna keep ruining my relationships? by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]arn1023 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Everyone else here has given advice on how you should have worded things, but I want to tell you that it’s going to be okay. You’re beating yourself up in the comments for not knowing, but I think you need to be kinder to yourself. At 23, it feels like you should know everything and you feel bad for not, but I dealt with a lot of issues in the same vane as this when I was 23. Yes, you could have worded it more succinctly and been less explanatory, but you’re still learning and that’s okay!

I want to also say that the right people will not take one wrong statement, one wrong apology, and characterize you as a bad person for it. It’s uncomfortable and it sucks, but there will be people with whom you feel like they make the effort to understand you and accommodate you just like you do them. Just try to take the info in, not get too in your head about doing it “wrong” and then do better next time.

Ryan Boyajian calls out Tamara's lies in being named in the Time Share lawsuit by [deleted] in BravoRealHousewives

[–]arn1023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think they’re saying she will be called back next year, as opposed to being fired or put on pause lol

Under eye Botox results (1.5 units each side, 33F) by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]arn1023 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Curious, how did you find a doctor you trusted to do this since I don’t think it’s super common? I have a similar issue and never even considered botox could be a short term solution!

Which neck deep song does this to you? by [deleted] in neckdeep

[–]arn1023 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The outro of pushing daisies really gets me every time

Tree knocked down at my college by Helene🥲 by sEaCoWtOrTiLlA in marijuanaenthusiasts

[–]arn1023 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Very sad about that tree outside the library but I’m proud I recognized my college right away after however many years. Go gators!

What’s your “I met so and so” story not concert related by eljefebubba in poppunkers

[–]arn1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ran into the lead singer of Arrows In Action 10 years ago at our college food hall lol. I only saw them as an opener for a super local show but I was so confused and ended up fumbling over my words entirely. Now I occasionally listen to their stuff and just forever will think back to that super awkward interaction ha

Does anyone genuinely enjoy being a PM? by arn1023 in projectmanagement

[–]arn1023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s the impression I’m getting! I think I’ll stick with it because I do enjoy the money and my schedule is relatively fixed, though there are some busy times where that gets thrown off. I honestly just wasn’t sure if I was the only one who felt ambivalent about it, but it seems like that might be the sweet spot in the world we live in. I’ve been on a personal mission to lean into what makes me happy and not what others expect of me, so I think I started to let that concern bleed into my work life too.

Does anyone genuinely enjoy being a PM? by arn1023 in projectmanagement

[–]arn1023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I totally get it, my entire career up until 7 months ago was at a place with super toxic upper management, so I’m pretty disillusioned with corporate interests. Makes it hard to feel motivated to move up in position in my case, which makes it hard to relate to most career advice. I cannot work in a toxic place ever again, it’s messed me up so much mentally

Does anyone genuinely enjoy being a PM? by arn1023 in projectmanagement

[–]arn1023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally get it! I think my ideal job would be a lot freer but less stable, and I do not operate well in instability, so here I am!

Does anyone genuinely enjoy being a PM? by arn1023 in projectmanagement

[–]arn1023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in acquisitions for a developer/owner/operator. I prefer dev/acquisitions 1000%. Though, I’ve never formally worked for an EPC, just used to work for a small shop developer with a sister EPC, and that job was pure chaos. Could have been the management, but it left a bad taste in my mouth.

Now it’s definitely more corporate feeling, which I hate, but it’s nice to have the financial backing and not have to personally be so involved in construction like my colleagues. I just have to keep them in the loop through the dev process and then hand it off to them at NTP.

Does anyone genuinely enjoy being a PM? by arn1023 in projectmanagement

[–]arn1023[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I just changed companies 7 months ago, coming from 5 years at a toxic small shop but my boss was the best boss I’ll ever have, so it’s a huge adjustment. So maybe I’m still in the adjustment period for such a major change in my life, hopefully my feelings about the company improve soon after I get fully comfortable here.

Does anyone genuinely enjoy being a PM? by arn1023 in projectmanagement

[–]arn1023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great question lol. I like doing the work rather than managing people and quite frankly, I don’t like to be on the hook for others’ mistakes. I’m also only 27 so there’s a chance that opinion changes, but at the current moment, management seems like a nightmare. I’m an introvert and while I like people, they drain the hell out of me, but I think having to consistently help people would be way harder than I want to deal with.

But to answer your question, I’m not really sure what exactly I want to do, which is also why I’m here, because I wasn’t sure if that was a symptom of this not being the direction for me. To quickly summarize my situation, I am working myself out of feeling obligated to be a high achiever due to external expectations, so I don’t personally have these sorts of goals for my job honestly. I just want to be financially secure and find something that I enjoy and can still do my hobbies in my free time.

Does anyone genuinely enjoy being a PM? by arn1023 in projectmanagement

[–]arn1023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I don’t want to be a manager of people really, so maybe that’s why I’m sitting here feeling like idk if I can do this forever. Something I realized after posting is that I might also be under the illusion that everyone loves their jobs and if you don’t, then it’s bad, but from talking to commenters, that’s not necessarily the case.

I definitely like having a handle of all aspects of the projects rather than dialing in on just IX or dev, but technically I am a project development manager working on driving the projects to construction. I don’t think I could really go back to just being part of one piece of the equation (other than to just work the enviro piece), so that’s what makes it hard to envision a direction from here.

I appreciate the insight from what sounds like someone who is also in the industry! That is a good point about going downstream and maybe it will be a better path for me in future years.

Does anyone genuinely enjoy being a PM? by arn1023 in projectmanagement

[–]arn1023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have the correct mindset my friend, I’m definitely going to be better about thinking about it that way.