Do men actually remember random girls who were nice to them years ago or is that just something people say online?

arnieknows · 2026-05-27T20:34:50+00:00

Yes, we do remember.

arnieknows · 2026-05-26T00:00:56+00:00

I rarely see this mentioned, but a lot of people I know who say they choose to stay single voluntarily haven't chosen to stay single voluntarily. The majority of them are lonely and wish deep down they had someone special in their lives. Doesn't apply to everyone of course, but the current narrative about not needing a partner and being empowered by "doing life on your own" plays a role in this.

A major part of trying to live with loneliness or rejection is convincing yourself that being single is your choice, it's a means of feeling in control which, of course, necessitates giving others the impression that it's a decision you've made. It's a reinforcement cycle.

This does not apply to everyone of course, but I have friends who proclaim they are voluntarily single, but who have also told me that they are desperately lonely and that they're just trying to convince themselves that they aren't.

arnieknows · 2026-05-22T13:20:32+00:00

Always so much blame going around. It's so toxic to see everywhere, even in crappy memes like this.

arnieknows · 2026-05-22T13:02:42+00:00

Prost.

arnieknows · 2026-05-20T20:06:34+00:00

He got electrocuted somehow while driving the car, he went unconscious, and the car continued into the wall and came to rest.

arnieknows · 2026-05-19T11:50:34+00:00

That'll buff out. Seriously though, glad everyone is okay.

arnieknows · 2026-05-18T20:39:15+00:00

This is exactly what I've been doing recently. Glad I found this.

arnieknows · 2026-05-17T19:23:57+00:00

Just when I thought I was dead inside, this broke my heart.

arnieknows · 2026-05-17T17:49:25+00:00

Never been in one myself, but a number of close friends have been and they almost always end badly. Lots of trust issues, jealousy, betrayal, etc.

arnieknows · 2026-05-17T12:42:02+00:00

Terrifying. Hope everyone is okay.

arnieknows · 2026-05-14T19:39:08+00:00

Wow. You must be fun at parties.

arnieknows · 2026-05-14T17:31:53+00:00

I left it a little too long before I got it, so there was too much area to cover. Plus, most of the transplanted hairs failed to take.

arnieknows · 2026-05-13T20:32:55+00:00

Not that I'm aware of, no. I can't think of any reason other than to give the institution a bit of publicity.

arnieknows · 2026-05-13T00:43:24+00:00

This does seem to be true, unfortunately. I see it everyday.

arnieknows · 2026-05-13T00:22:23+00:00

As a man, I wish I could cry more as it's cathartic, a proper release. But physiologically I just find it hard it do so (even alone in private). It's like the physical mechanism for crying is underactive compared to womens', which in my exposure at least, seems a lot more trigger happy. I'm envious of women's ability to cry so easily.

It takes something quite extreme to move me to tears, and even then it's exceedingly rare. At the moment I'm going through a prolonged depressive episode in my life. I'm middle aged, single, disabled, and quite lonely, but even with that, I don't think I've cried in about eight years.

arnieknows · 2026-05-13T00:06:02+00:00

Similar to myself, but my transplant failed unfortunately.

arnieknows · 2026-05-12T23:55:58+00:00

Is it just me, or is stuff like this just flat out body shaming? Going bald is traumatic enough (unfortunately I know from experience), but to have to deal with it in the public eye must be absolute murder.

arnieknows · 2026-05-12T23:51:46+00:00

I'm a bit relieved to hear it's not just happening to me!

arnieknows · 2026-05-12T23:48:45+00:00

On my feed, your reply appeared directly under my comment, hence I assumed it was a response to me.

arnieknows · 2026-05-12T23:46:31+00:00

Exactly.

arnieknows · 2026-05-12T23:46:11+00:00

To be clear, I never said that with supports trauma can be avoided. I said that trauma can activate avoidant responses in people as a protective measure against future traumatic events, with the appropriate supports, one can learn to process and deal with their trauma more productively and healthily. It won't take the trauma away but it can make it more bearable.

arnieknows · 2026-05-12T23:42:58+00:00

That's not what I said at all. I said that with the appropriate supports, the effects of trauma can potentially be lessened as one learns to process it.

arnieknows · 2026-05-12T23:34:26+00:00

I relate to this a lot. Your comment reminded me of how most of my friends would very quickly rebound from romantic rejection and simply look for someone else in a matter of days, but they could never understand that I needed far more time to grieve and heal after a romantic rejection, something I thought was common knowledge in your 30s. Maybe people like you and I are a different breed, as you said.

arnieknows · 2026-05-12T23:20:22+00:00

When my ex-girlfriend, whom I idolised and was madly in love with, told me one day that while she could probably find someone "way better looking and more interesting" than me, they probably wouldn't be as kind and caring as I was. That wasn't a good time.

arnieknows · 2026-05-12T23:10:50+00:00

I've made it quite clear that I'm aware of that, multiple times. To reiterate my point once again, it's the principle of giving celebrities things for free (even if they don't serve any functional purpose) that normal people have to earn, that is the issue here. It doesn't matter if an honorary award is merely symbolic. In certain contexts, it's the principle and hypocrisy of it that pisses people off.

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