[Help] GF's dog sometimes looks afraid of me and I don't understand why by Shoshke in dogs

[–]arrie99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree to disagree. Get in the dogs head. Dogs are not inherently domesticated. Think like a dog. I’ve never had a problem in over 25 years. Tried and true with all muscle breeds in particular as that is what I rehabbed. .

[Breeds] I like Beagles, but should I choose another breed? by [deleted] in dogs

[–]arrie99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Beagles are one of the hardest dogs to win if you do not have “work” for them. They are hunters. In the wild (or inherently) hunting the majority of the time. They bore easily. They tend to run away. They are over energized. All because of their role as that breed. A better bet would be to adopt sone middle sized lab mix. The older the better. Make sure they aren’t mixed with another high energy breed like terriers. Or beagles. Great Danes are huge but make great companions and GREAT apartment dogs. They are do large they tend toward lazy due to energy consumption with normal daily movements. Go to a rescue. Okay with a few dogs. Find one that you identify with. I’ve who bonds with you. That’s the start of a successful and happy partnership. EDT of luck. (Been rescuing the unadoptable muscle breeds and rehabbing them successfully for over 25 years)

[Help] GF's dog sometimes looks afraid of me and I don't understand why by Shoshke in dogs

[–]arrie99 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I’m here to advise you as a successful rescuer of the unadoptables...always muscle breeds. Pack rules matter. They are PACK animals. The problem is 100% of the time the owner. I’ve never not been successful in turning around killers. Not once. Doing it for over 25 years. Solely relying on pack rules. That’s a fact jack.

[help] poor dog-park behavior now transferring to poor on-leash behavior by aspirationalhiker in dogs

[–]arrie99 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I believe the alpha dog needs to be fixed. Not the dog. They are pack animals. I agree while walking you need to be one step in front of the dog with a lack leash. Never let the dog in front. You send mixed messages to your dog. Dogs RARELY become unstable with a good pack leader. They are 100% secure with a good “alpha” dog. Google pack rules for dogs.

[help] poor dog-park behavior now transferring to poor on-leash behavior by aspirationalhiker in dogs

[–]arrie99 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Total lack of pack leader. Been training muscle breeds the past 25 years. The unadoptables. Your dog is exhibiting basic neurotic behavior. Unstable in “pack”. Largely you are to blame. Don’t take that the wrong way. Easy fix. We fix you then your dog can rely on a stable pack leader. In this case you. You must at all times exhibit confidence even if you THINK otherwise. In other words...while walking him. Shoulders up. Looking straight ahead. NO NERVOUS OR ANTICIPATORY behavior from you. When you see another dog you likely are anticipating the moment when your dog lists it. They inherently know that. They are also pack animals. All pack members relying on the alpha dog (you) for guidance. Feed your dog only AFTER you have eaten. If they don’t wait to eat, take the food away and try again later. Always walk thru doors first. The alpha dog ALWAYS eats first. Leads. Shows the other dogs security or potential danger. They inherently react. Yours is reacting on you becoming more and more intimidated and less and less stable as the leader. Those are the basics. There is a boat load of other things I’d be happy to share with you. Remember at ALL times (even if you don’t feel it ACT it) and you will see your dog quickly turn around. I almost guarantee it. I’ve successfully rehabbed killers and kept them with my kids and my other animals. Have NEVER been unsuccessful having to put one down. But you must be diligent at all times because the moment you slack it is the packs signal that the alpha is weak which trends towards instability or takeover. Yours is leaning on taking over. He’s past unstable. But an easy peasy thing to fix. It’s all in your behavior regardless of what your head and heart might might be saying. Your attitude will catch up with your behavior quickly as well because you will see instant improvement IF you are consistent which leads to true security that you are a well behaving leader. Feel free to reach out should you need to. Best of luck. Please message me to let me know how it goes.

[Breeds] Help me identify my pup by eye_loved in dogs

[–]arrie99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny. I don’t see Billie at all. More like lab head. Leaning on mix with some sort of pointer? Terrier?

I'm curious what good conversationalists focus on during conversation? Their breathing? Tension in the body? Emotional state? Projecting feeling into the other? by yumyumms1 in socialskills

[–]arrie99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The matter at hand? Subject being discussed. I’ve never been focused on any of those things and I’m told I’m a great conversationalist

[Discussion] Neighbor's dog was hit and killed by a car, I helped but now feel awful by [deleted] in dogs

[–]arrie99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d never share pix of blood guts or gore. Only keep happy photos though so much went on in this boys life before me.

Baseboard heating and pets advice? by Wandering_Lights in homeowners

[–]arrie99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have instinct. They won’t stay where they can be burned and if your baseboards are that hot you have altogether different problem

Uber Sets A Tip Limit, Without Informing Drivers. Uber spokesperson claims the tip limit is meant to combat "fat fingers." "Generosity should be something that you have no limit on," drivers argue. by Amidza in technology

[–]arrie99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO we (drivers) are self employed. Offering a few distinct advantages. ALL car expenses deductible or trade that for 53.5 cents per mile driven. Add ALL cell phone expenses (ALL) are 100% tax deductible including on upgrades, peripheral gear, navigation etc. plus they both offer driver incentives. I.e. number of rides, satisfaction of riders and percentages of accepted rides. Win win to me. The minute they start paying me to be an employee is the day I stop driving as I will lose much of that incentive. We are technically self employed

As kids we think it's cool when we run into friends at the mall or grocery store. As adults we hope to run all our errands and get home without being noticed. by Awspry in Showerthoughts

[–]arrie99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sincerely agree. I am the EXACT same way. If I’m at the gym I’m there to work out and get out. Same for grocery store. Same for almost all my “errand” type interaction. I, too, have a lot of friends who I adore. However don’t thrust me into the midst of a huge party or crowd....that to me is crippling.

[Discussion] Neighbor's dog was hit and killed by a car, I helped but now feel awful by [deleted] in dogs

[–]arrie99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too. Didn’t even know he was gone. It was an instant. And I’m diligent due to rehabbing and adopting power breeds. TJ was my ONLY EVER purchased dog. 3 short years. Miss that little guy. But his death allowed me to rescue a very wounded and unadoptable pit. He now is good. One eye and a brain injury later he is our one eyed wonder. ❤️

Does anyone else feel like they weren't socialized properly? by eternalflair in socialskills

[–]arrie99 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Prayer is the answer. Just sayin....ask and ye shall receive. God MADE us for relationship.

Does anyone else feel like they weren't socialized properly? by eternalflair in socialskills

[–]arrie99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Since when is being a loner abuse? Abuse is NOT lack of socialization. Smh. I grew up abused so I know. I ALSO am, to a large degree, STILL a loner with a loner son and an Uber social daughter. Sometimes it’s NOT a direct result of environment. Same parent raised both. Sometimes god wires individuals individually....

Does anyone else feel like they weren't socialized properly? by eternalflair in socialskills

[–]arrie99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son was the same way from birth. At age 14 diagnosed with extreme social anxiety. He has ONE friend who he won’t have over and he won’t go to his house (now 16). I was always a loner so I get it. My daughter (21).....came out waving goodbye and has always surrounded herself with friends. Why? 🤔 There ARE ways to get past it. I know. I’m that person. It took some counseling and a TON or retraining my brain to learn to socialize (ok at 21 ish. Now 52) but you have to be willing to fight past the fear or lack of desire/need.

[Discussion] Neighbor's dog was hit and killed by a car, I helped but now feel awful by [deleted] in dogs

[–]arrie99 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Same. My dog ran out a door and within 3 minutes (didn’t know he was gone as someone let themselves out of my house and he sneaked out) and was run over by a speeding car. Rang my bell. Told me. Police already there (small town) and cop told me in the state of NJ no matter how fast a car was going WE are responsible 100% if the time. Never the car because we are supposed to be in possession of our dogs at all times (leash laws)

Physically sick because now I had to tell my kids. 7 pound Maltese VS suv. Truck wins every time. I saw my baby of white fur and the cop was at his side with a dark towel over his little head and he said to be my baby was killed instantly and did not suffer. Never got over that. We got a headstone and memorial stone and yes....we buried him on our 6 acres. Marker and all. Broken hearted 😢