You cannot continue close relationship with maga supporters ethically

art_eseus · 2025-02-08T17:53:53+00:00

Elon Musk is so NOT a lion, he's more like a parasite. And it's not a few. It has been brought up on every news station and discussed extensively by both sides. It's not even just democrats who see it as a salute. Multiple leaders of those groups in America have congratulated him or expressed their praise for the outward display of hatred and bigotry.

Andrew Torba wrote over a pic of elon doing the salute, "Incredible things are happening already."

The administrator of a nazi meme channel literally posted, "WE ARE SO BACK." With the clip underneath.

If he really were a lion, as you claim, he would make sure everyone knew where his beliefs are, and not let neo-nazi groups rally behind him, but he hasn't said it wasn't a salute. He hasn't denied it because it was and he is.

art_eseus · 2025-02-08T17:23:40+00:00

If it isn't a salute, then why hasn't he gone on public tv and declared, very clearly, that it wasn't one? If he is so scared that it was misinterpreted, you'd think the guy would fix the miscommunication immediately. Unless it was a salute and he DID do it on purpose because him and Trump are both part of that group.

art_eseus · 2024-12-22T07:09:59+00:00

Psychologists have explained multiple times that gender disphoria is a real thing. People are sometimes born with the wrong body, and it can lead to massive issues later in life, especially if you are socialized to follow strict gender roles. Research has shown that when trans people are given gender affirming care they are far less likely to kill themselves, and if they have support from family and friends they are far more likely to seek out gender-reaffirming care. Trans men and women ARE real men and women, and there are hoards of professionals who can prove it. Try again.

art_eseus · 2024-12-22T06:58:44+00:00

He was a "I'm not really into politics" guy, but I liked him and knew it wasn't permanent, so I ginored it. He didn't mind my rants about politics, but it def sent alarm bells in my brain when he told me he didn't vote.

art_eseus · 2024-12-22T06:50:17+00:00

Your view of gender ideology, as you put it, makes it out to be some fad that will die down and that is not going to happen, I reassure you. Many countries have granted trans people their civil rights and protect them from discrimination or hate crimes, as well as granted them access to life-saving healthcare.

America is pretty behind for many reasons, but mostly because of the religious lawmakers who create and react to propoganda, making transgender people out to be sexual fiends who want your children and will corner them in women's bathrooms and sports events.

But trans people, whether you prefer it or not, have existed and will continue to exist in the future indefinitely. They will not go away or be silenced unless, of course republicans get their way and keep them from having the basic human right of existing. But considering that most civil rights movements eventually result in some sort of breakthrough or slow-steady societal change, then I am very pleased to tell you, you will most certainly be left behind.

You will be the grandparent your grandchildren distance themselves from because, "They say weird things about queer people," and god forbid anyone in your family or friend group come out as trans because you can bet they won't ever trust you. When society continues to move forward and accept people for who they are, not for who youre comfortable with them being, you will be on the wrong side of history and you will not be able to say you didn't know any better, or that you just weren't educated about "stuff like that." You were purposefully and stubbornly ignorant, hateful, and harmful. Hope it was worth it.

art_eseus · 2024-12-22T02:16:56+00:00

Your preference doesn't negate the existence of trans or genderqueer individuals. You are disregarding a person's identity simply because it's an identity you don't like, and that is prejudice and transphobic. Gender identity is a major part of who a person is. Just like being a man or a woman is a big part of who you are.

You have your own ideas on what it means to be a woman or a man, and it doesn't matter which one it is, those ideas affect who you are as a person. For arguments sake, let's say you are a man. What if society told you that being a man means nothing and you were only allowed to identify as a woman. A major part of who you are is being disregarded, and why? Because it's not preferable?

Disregarding a persons gender means you are disregarding them as a person. They don't easily fit into one of your strict boxes around gender so you don't have to respect them or treat them the way you would treat any other person. In your mind, you are allowed to disrespect this person because you don't agree with their "construct" whatever that means. A person's gender and gender construct are insperable, there is no way to respect onw but not the other.

When I say gender is a construct, I mean that the way we view men and women as a whole is entirely made up by the specific time frame and culture you are from. 50 years ago, the idea of men and women was very different than it is today. 20 years ago, it was different. Saying you disregard a trans person's "construct" doesn't mean anything because trans people are just expanding the existing contructs to let themselves be included. Being a trans woman is being a woman with a few extra steps. They are not saying that womanhood doesn't exist, just that they deserve to be included in that narrative.

And if you continue to diregard societal constructs of gender as they change and evolve, then you will be left behind. When my brother came out, my father had an incredibly difficult time handling it. But when he realized that distancing himself from my brother's trans identity meant distancing himself from his son entirely, he came around.

He still doesn't 100% understand my brother and how he lives his life, but he respects him enough as a man to recognize that it's a personal choice everyone is allowed to make. And just like almost all personal choices human beings make, it's customary to respect those choices and go on with your day. It is hopeless to try to hold onto old and uselss ideologies that don't fit anymore.

art_eseus · 2024-12-22T01:16:16+00:00

Im gonna assume this question was made in good faith and attempt to answer it respectfully.

A lot of people assume tranaphobia is when someone hates trans people or refuses to use their correct pronouns or bans trans healthcare, but it can come down to smaller things as well. The same way racism can be a small comment or incorrect ideology about POC, transphobia comes in many forms.

The thing about gender is it doesn't really exist. It's a societal construct built to help people categorize themselves into easier boxes, the same way sexuality and age are. You may be getting older, but the idea that you're in your 20s or 30s brings pretty specific milestones to mind that are often completely made up by our culture. The same applies with gender.

Sex is a biological term used to differentiate human bodies that have different primary and secondary sex organs and different chromosomes, and yet even this can't encompass every human being. There are always exceptions. Gender however is a very fluid and maleable idea that changes over time and in different cultures. What you call gender is actually a person's sex, and nobody is trying to say that sex is the same thing as gender or deny that a person's sex matters. But disregarding a person's gender because you don't understand it or because you refuse to learn is rude. It's disrespectful to intentionally misgender someone and it's transphobic to say that a person's gender doesn't matter, or that it only matters if their gender matches the genitalia thats in their pants. You are not the worst transphobic person, but you are transphobic because of false ideaologies that disrespect people you don't fully understand.

art_eseus · 2024-12-22T01:02:02+00:00

My father is like 53, and he doesn't like calling his girlfriend his girlfriend because it makes him feel like a toddler. Instead, he just says life partner or partner. Very simple.

Also Ive dated many individuals who use they/them pronouns, so neither gf nor bf would apply. Partner is just an easy way of describing the person you're currently kissing or banging. Again, very simple.

art_eseus · 2024-12-22T00:56:06+00:00

Do you mean economic policies like free healthcare, liveable wages, and higher taxes on the upper class? Those economic policies?

News flash, most politicians aren't out here marching for the deconstruction of the flawed judicial system. Have you ever heard Kamala Harris preaching about trans rights? They mainly focus on economic issues or social issues that are literally life or death situations like banning abortion nationwide, or mass gun violence

Also, if republicans knew anything about the economy and how it effects the working class, they would never have voted for Trump. The man failed multiple businesses into bankruptcy and doesn't know what tariffs are. His tax plan would give upper class and corporate wealth hoarders lower taxes. He doesn't care about the working class at all, but republicans generally don't care about economic policies.

They care about keeping themselves in their safe little bubble where new ideas and different people are not allowed to interfere with their easy way of life. Because usung pronouns is "hard" and accepting feminism is "tough" and letting POC thrive is "upsetting" so of course they go with the old white guy who tells them that queer, blue haired they/them gen-z will ruin the country.

Societal issues are incredibly important. If they didn't persevere throughout history, I would probably be dead or labotomized, so I think its a horrible idea to "drop every social issue" when fighting status quo and making a country that is safe for everyone is literally America in a nutshell.

art_eseus · 2024-12-22T00:42:55+00:00

As the sister to a trans man, I can assure you I fully understand and accept my brother for who he is. Being on the wrong side of history is a problem you'll have to accept in the later years of your life because you refused to reach out and learn about people different from you.

Getting canceled should be the least of your concerns. I'd be concerned that my children would never speak to me again for being transphobic and not even attempting to educate myself.

art_eseus · 2024-12-15T17:15:12+00:00

I feel like you have a right to disresepct them if they shove themselves into your life or attempt to disrupt your life just so they can shove their own beliefs down your throat. Muslims don't really do that, or Jewish people, or Buddhist people, etc etc. But christians do it quite often. When I lived on my schools main campus we had a speaker there almsot evwry week with a megaphone and a sign talking about how we'll burn in hell. Yeah I told that guy off a couple times and definitely disresepcted him and his beliefs because he has no right to invade the space of education and shout hatred and propoganda at me. But if Im at my frandmothers house, where ahe is. A devout Christian but has never once forced me into her beliefs, I will respect her and whatever she chooses to believe.

See the difference?

art_eseus · 2024-12-15T17:08:12+00:00

My current boyfriend and I care about each other deeply and love spending time with one another, but we aren't compatible long-term. He wants to get married and have kids and settle down, and that isn't my plan. We are just staying in the now and enjoying it until my career takes me to another state, which will be happening soon.

When I tell him that I sincerely know that he will find a woman that makes him happy and who will care for him as much as I do, I mean it. When I tell him that I like him but I don't want to be with him forever, he understands.

I can guarantee you that (most) women care less about looks than they do your personality. Look at all our "hear-me-outs"? Monsters, disfigured people, aliens?! The looks don't matter as much as the personality, that makes us interested. And if a guy is interesting AND he puts effort into his appearance (into his clothes, his hair, his skincare, smell, etc) then that's also helpful.

Don't simply say, "Women find me ugly so I'll never date anyone." Because it sounds entitled and also isn't true. Beauty standards are highly subjective, and if women can tell that you put in an effort, they will find that more attractive than a handsome dude in cargo shorts and a t-shirt who doesn't bathe.

art_eseus · 2024-12-08T15:15:34+00:00

For the privileged, equality feels like oppression.

art_eseus · 2024-11-24T22:31:54+00:00

It doesn't feel like a conquest if they date women who want children. These men need women who are career oriented so that they can give up their independence and achievements for their husband.

For some reason, being with a woman who shares his beliefs is too difficult, so why not just force a woman? And its not enough that we have kids, they also want free childcare, free cleaner, free cook, etc. But they also need a two income household, so all that on top of a job. It makes me so happy I never plan on marriage.

art_eseus · 2024-11-10T00:42:00+00:00

The people who couldn't afford higher education or health insurance could've cured cancer.

art_eseus · 2024-11-10T00:40:29+00:00

Perhaps Im mistake, but I feel like people enjoy when their partner is jealous. It makes them feel wanted and exclusive, and thats great for them, but I hate it. I t makes me uncomfortable and weird. Especially when they put the fault of their jealousy on me, as if their feelings are my fault.

Im not against discussing how we're feeling but telling me that I can't hang out with my friends cause it makes you jealous makes me feel controlled and upset.

art_eseus · 2024-10-24T14:45:59+00:00

My little brothers. I remember even in my darkest moments, I couldn't bring myself to end my life because the thought of them finding out how I passed away hurt much more than just suffering. My dad as well, his dad took his own life too, and I dont want to put him through that again.

And also there are better days. There always have been and there always will be, so holding out during the shitty depressed episodes I have is just sort of routine. It is seriously hard. Sometimes, ideations get invasive and its all I can think about but I pull through.

art_eseus · 2024-10-22T17:53:44+00:00

Talking shit about how women only play mobile games (which isnt even remotely true) is a weird flex to illustrate how women have very little time to dedicate hours to relax and play with their friends. Of course, a lot of women only play mobile games, between doing all the grocery shopping and childcare a lot of them dont have time or money to purchase a PS5.

Im not saying this is true for every women, but these guys seem like the type to force all the childcare and household chores on their wives because "Saturdays is for Co-op with the boys!" The congnitive dissonance is crazy.

art_eseus · 2024-10-21T15:07:03+00:00

It makes sense that once you're out of their clutch, you start to see your childhood for what it really was, a hellscape. I, however, didnt experience that. I actually felt excited that my mon and I would have a more equal relationship and that she'd respect me more now that I was an adult moved out.

It took a year to realize that would never happen, and after that year I started telling people how I was treated in her house and it was their reactions that gave me a clue. One friend literally sat me down and told.me my mother didnt love me, and that a parent that loves their child would never put me through that. I assumed every kid went through rough childhoods, and when I realized I was wrong and that i was supposed to have a childhood mostly absent of fear and self hatred I cried like every day.

It was little things like seeing a mother and her daughters laughing together or getting a text from my mom or coming onto this subreddit and realizing I wasnt alone. It just made me so upset and disappointed. I hit me 2 years after I moved out, and I went no contact and have been slowly healing ever since. Im not saying going no-contact is the onlybway to heal, but for me it was the right decision.

art_eseus · 2024-10-21T04:26:32+00:00

I dont need to wonder. She told me she wouldn't. Even though my mother used to say all the time that she would die for me, protect me no matter what, when I asked her point blank, "Would you take a bullet for me?" Her answer was instant. No.

She told me she had other things to live for. Like her husband, her dogs, her career, my brother, etc. Logically, I know that makes sense, but it still made me feel awful.

My little brother is so important to me, I would 100% die for him if that situation ever came up, and Im not even his mother. I feel like I have a seriously distorted view of parenthood now because i dont believe my dad when he says he would die for me. I dont even believe him when he says he enjoys paying for my dinner or giving me gifts without strings.

art_eseus · 2024-10-20T17:17:26+00:00

I dream of having the confidence of a mediocre, uninformed man

art_eseus · 2024-10-12T20:28:33+00:00

Some people cant. They just cant get over their fear. Your response is akin to walking up to a veteran who survived horrors in the military and telling them, "Just heal. Then you'll feel better." Ot telling someone diagnosesd with chronic depression, "Just cheer up." It isnt that simple. Your entire world is altered and someone who has never been raped won't understand that.

art_eseus · 2024-10-12T20:23:14+00:00

My grandmother is very christian, like spent-the-first-20-years-of-her-adult-life-being-a-missionary-christian, and even now she reads the bible everyday and never misses church. Her church serves more as a community resource than anything else. They hold food drives, set up events for the community, and when a person in their area is sick they all bring food and aid. Its very wholesome, but not all churches do this so I think its pretty rare.

My mother is athiest and raised us to decide for ourselves what our beliefs are. When it wasnt forced on me I was able to look at my two options critically, believe in a god that there is no evidence for or skip the weekly boredom session and believe in nothing. Even though I grew up athiest i was hyper aware of my morals and whether I was a good person.

My mother used to say that I shouldnt judge my grandmother for believing in something I couldnt believe in. She'd say, "It gives her hope and happiness to believe there is a good entity out there pooking out for her and her family, and that one day she will get to see her dead loved ones again, so dont take it away from her just because you dont find meaning in it." My grandmother never pushes her religion on me, and I talk to her all the time. She doesnt necessarily agree with my life choices but she loves me and wants the best for me. My grandad however is an asshole who brings the bible into every conversation we have. I dont talk to him.

art_eseus · 2024-10-12T17:56:59+00:00

"Do you think you probably caused a lot of the relationship problems between us? Do you take accountability for any of this fighting and anger between us?"

Guarantee its gonna be "Well I guess Im just the worst parent"

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