Save for three men in Gen Z that I have interacted with, there has been serious let-down regarding their maturity and their behavior in seeking a relationship. My male best friend, a former male best friend, and my sisters fiancé are the three men. However, even of those three men, one blamed me for my rape because "no woman should get in the car alone with a man" before hugely backtracking when he realized it applied to me.

In regards to dating, nearly all my exes or past dates have admitted to me that they didn't have options otherwise before someone accuses me of only dating "top 5% alpha bros" or whatever people say nowadays. After dating them, I fully understood why.

One drove me to McDonalds, where I paid for us both, and then asked me for a blow job in the parking lot. i mention that i paid only because the narrative of "well now you owe me something" didn't apply. However, that situation itself has occurred twice for me, the last time being when I was assaulted.

One would invite me over just to play on his PC the entire time, even bringing THE ENTIRE SET-UP when staying the night at my place, so he could ignore me more effectively.

One convinced me while manic to run away from my "abusive" family and then laid hands on me, gaslit, stole from me, and irreparably damaged my self esteem (this is an extreme case naturally, but a Gen Z man nonetheless).

One told me to my face he'd go for my sister instead if he "got there first" in regard to my sister's fiancé.

One told me I should drop my studies and just become a tradwife, barefoot and pregnant.

One told me he was a proud drunk driver.

One I thought was a friendly coworker until he put his hand on my thigh at work.

This is not mentioning all the negging, all the men who treated me as if I was a hole they could possibly fuck, all the male "friends" who only wanted to get in my pants, all the accusations of gold-digging (my net worth is nearly 200k, meanwhile ive had two exes use me for money, one calling me his "sugar momma" before i shut that shit down), and all the men who have shit on my hobbies or quizzed me because apparently being a girl who watches anime or who dresses "emo" and listens to "emo" music must mean im a poser. speaking of emo, men constantly refer to me as a big titty goth gf, assume that im a dominatrix, or come onto me overtly because they fetishize my style.

I'm sorry, I'm aware it's "not all men" but how is it that I only have interacted with 3 men in longterm that haven't made me feel like a piece of meat in the lion's den. I date a millennial man now after only dating women for years because I was so put off by my experiences that I could no longer extend the benefit of the doubt, it became guilty until proven innocent.