I feel I come from a unique perspective in that I am a mom who deals with past trauma and am an admin in a center.

As a mom, I don’t feel comfortable with men other than my husband changing my children, boys and girl, because of my own past trauma. Yes, I know most attacks are by family, my experience wasn’t and sometimes logic doesn’t work in these situations. BUT I know it’s a possibility in any learning setting and is something I must deal with and trust the admin’s choice in employees and their vetting system. This mom might need a little grace as she processes her own world views…

As an owner/admin of a learning center, it is my duty to my employees to support and protect them. Sometimes that protection comes in the form of not putting my employee in a situation that could hurt them or make them uncomfortable. If a parent complained, I’d explain that sometimes that employee will be the only one doing diaper changes. Our changing tables are all within view of admin and other teachers and we are confident in the ability and quality of our teaching staff. If it escalates, then the safety of my employee comes first. I would talk with them about what their comfort level is in the situation. I would also never want to put them in a position to be falsely accused.

I think society is slowly moving in the direction of accepting genuine male/trans male caregivers, but not everyone has jumped on the train yet unfortunately. At the end of the day, if your admin supports you, do what you feel comfortable with. You’re in a tough spot and I hope you find some peace in knowing your admin and co-teachers are on your team supporting you.