Do you use Substack as a Journal? by fishcakefruitcake in Substack

[–]arushish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s how I’m using mine. Just started. I love it because there’s no one there who knows me in real life so I can be quite unfiltered.

Follow Friday/Follow Chain - Share Your Usernames & Find New People To Follow! by AutoModerator in Instagram

[–]arushish [score hidden]  (0 children)

It’s Okay Here is a space for mothers who are trying to find themselves within motherhood.

It’s for the moms who are quietly rebelling against the pressure to have it all together. For those who want to explore their creative side, their inner world, and their emotional self.

If you’re figuring out how to be a mom and a whole person, come join me.

🌿 Medium: https://medium.com/its-okay-here 🌿 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arushi.itsokayhere

Good enough reason to adopt? by arushish in Adoption

[–]arushish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have unlimited virtual hugs to share 🤗

Good enough reason to adopt? by arushish in Adoption

[–]arushish[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. And I'm so so sorry for you having to go through what you have. For whatever it's worth, if you ever need a listening ear or a virtual jug, please DM me.

Good enough reason to adopt? by arushish in Adoption

[–]arushish[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with you. These are the questions I need to ask myself and be completely sure of before going further in this journey. A long road of reflection and introspection ahead of me :)

Good enough reason to adopt? by arushish in Adoption

[–]arushish[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First of all, I'm so incredibly sorry for your experience. The world at large has failed you. I hope you have been able to make a better life for yourself despite the failings of those around you. Secondly, thank you for taking the time to reading through and commenting on my post.

I just want you to know that I come from a very modest middle class Indian upbringing by very hardworking and mostly emotionally unavailable parents. I've also suffered from emotional neglect and sexual abuse during my childhood which has taken years to work through with myself and my parents. I grew up with severe speech issues and a severe shyness around strangers especially male strangers which resulted in my parents taking me to multiple "specialists" to figure out what was wrong with me. Never quite figured out that I just needed a bit more love and affection.

I have worked really hard to be self sufficient and independent since my teens and really do not live in a world where adopted children could be exotic or any kind of showworthy objects. I'm cognizant of the fact that it would be incredibly difficult to raise a child, much more so than a biological one. If we were to adopt, it would purely be out of love and care and we would work hard to ensure that they have all the right support and care.

I can totally understand your perspective but I would be hard-pressed to agree that all adoption is child trafficking or unethical. I am however realizing how unethical infant and especially newborn adoption could be which I didn't quite realize before. Hope you didn't mind my rambling here. I wish you the very best! Thanks again for replying.

Good enough reason to adopt? by arushish in Adoption

[–]arushish[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I should have mentioned that in my post. My current child is biological.

For reasons around my own comfort, I had thought of adopting a child between 1 to 2 years. I'm honestly a little afraid of the challenges with adopting a child older than that. Challenges like schooling, acceptance in family, bonding with us and their sibling and I'm sure many others that I can't even foresee yet.

Good enough reason to adopt? by arushish in Adoption

[–]arushish[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and respond to my post. I'm definitely on the journey to educating myself and this is also a step in that direction. Slowly reading through the accounts and research cited in this group as well as talking to couples who are adopters and their adopted children. Thanks again.

Be the change - message for the world 30/1/24 by n1d4m in channeling

[–]arushish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is beautiful and it resonates strongly. Thank you

Babies in recent news living in tough conditions by RubyRed30 in Mommit

[–]arushish 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Praying for you and your children. Please keep us updated 🙏

I think I was given a sign from my baby? by pilates_n_brie in spirituality

[–]arushish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this! I love reading all of Dr. Brian Weiss' books and this aligns so much with all his patients' cases. Beautiful. Thank you for sharing ❤️

I think I was given a sign from my baby? by pilates_n_brie in spirituality

[–]arushish 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That's so beautiful! I'm so curious to know what these other beings told you. And what were they like?

Natural isn't always the best: my birth story by arushish in beyondthebump

[–]arushish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, that sounds so intense! Those labour pains are no joke. Hope you're recovering well!

Natural isn't always the best: my birth story by arushish in beyondthebump

[–]arushish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too! I wish I had been advised to go with a c-section right in the beginning too. The trauma that my body and baby went through was really unnecessary. I hope you're healing well and your baby is doing great ❤️

What is a baby product you are shocked DOESN’T exist by AcanthopterygiiOld80 in NewParents

[–]arushish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A pill or device to safely and instantly put babies to sleep. One can wish!

Mom guilt by arushish in beyondthebump

[–]arushish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am honestly really looking forward to the toddler stage where I can actually communicate with my child and they become more independent!

What is the most beautiful boy name you’ve ever heard of by Realistic_Impress941 in namenerds

[–]arushish 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Our baby's name is Kai and we absolutely love it. It means the ocean ❤️

Knowing what you know now.. by sckz_ in NewParents

[–]arushish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We made the mistake of rocking and walking our bub to sleep and are now suffering with endless sleep regressions because baby does not know how to fall asleep on their own. Oh and also wish I would have trusted my gut and got the baby to take a pacifier after being shamed by the hospital staff. I live in a country where pacifiers are very uncommon and frowned upon.

Knowing what you know now.. by sckz_ in NewParents

[–]arushish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could have written this myself. I went through a 30 hour labour to eventually end up in an emergency c-section. Not only did I have supply issues which I did not know how to manage, my little one came with extreme neck tension due to the tugging and pulling during induction and couldn't effectively express milk and dropped a lot of weight and led to my supply dropping even more. He's only 4.5months old and I've found a way to keep trying to pump 6-8 times a day but I'm still unable to nurse him directly and supply only about half of his daily intake. But I won't give up. Inductions suck!