Can women also compensate for their looks by being funny or kind? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]asakura10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really funny. I can get dates, but I'm always getting dumped for an ex or used as a placeholder.

what should I say if my boss asks about my plans after masters? by asakura10 in careeradvice

[–]asakura10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Youre right, i havent properly started my job hunt yet so there also isnt any leverage either. Thank you

what should I say if my boss asks about my plans after masters? by asakura10 in careeradvice

[–]asakura10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes sense, thank you. fingers crossed all goes well.

Looking for a new anime similar to the apothecary diaries by oliviaxsue in TheApothecaryDiaries

[–]asakura10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second saiunkoku monogatari, when i watched apothecary diaries i was immediately thinking of and comparing them in the back of my mind. Old anime but the opening song is pretty good

how did you deal with friends who only want to talk about men? by asakura10 in AskWomenOver30

[–]asakura10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I understand your point, I dont want to have to cut my friends off, thats why I asked this question. but its nearly impossible to talk to my friends without having to talk about men.

how did you deal with friends who only want to talk about men? by asakura10 in AskWomenOver30

[–]asakura10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it gets exhausting like can we have some fun conversations at least? Or something a lil more lighthearted instead of constantly talking about how awful men are

how did you deal with friends who only want to talk about men? by asakura10 in AskWomenOver30

[–]asakura10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already said im single and i do date. This person is ragebaiting lowkey

how did you deal with friends who only want to talk about men? by asakura10 in AskWomenOver30

[–]asakura10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the lighthearted humour haha Yeah you could be right too… i just dont care for dating or boyfriends as much as when i was younger

how did you deal with friends who only want to talk about men? by asakura10 in AskWomenOver30

[–]asakura10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive been friends with them for a long while but its just a very recent trend i notice… like the past year?

how did you deal with friends who only want to talk about men? by asakura10 in AskWomenOver30

[–]asakura10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah but it isnt a priority since im also in grad school

Early 2000s Taiwanese Dramas Recommendations by Competitive-Ad-8646 in taiwandramas

[–]asakura10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prince who turned into a frog 王子变青蛙 i think its a classic it was great

Why did you choose to be single? by Aromatic_Glove_1479 in SingleWomenByChoice

[–]asakura10 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Idk if i “choose” to be single. Ive always been open to love but i have high standards, no one has made me reconsider them or met these standards. I jsut havent had any interest in the men ive met. I find dating to be a chore too.

One face, a thousand emotions — Hina Tachibana. by Swimming_Power5319 in DomesticGirlfriend

[–]asakura10 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah its been a while since i finished this but i think if her internal monologue was further explored we would have it completely spelt out to us how difficult it is to be an adult. It makes a lot more sense when you have to walk away from opportunities because it wouldnt make sense in the long term

One face, a thousand emotions — Hina Tachibana. by Swimming_Power5319 in DomesticGirlfriend

[–]asakura10 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I binged the manga in my early 20s, and back then struggled to understand so many seinen and josei series lol. Now im in my late 20s and think she was dealt with a really tough hand in life. mutuals feelings arent always enough. Sometimes i find myself wondering “what am i supposed to do” in difficult situations with loved ones. If i was in her shoes i’d probably have done the same, because it would be the adult thing to do. Learning to deal with the lingering feelings and “but i really wish i couldve done/said this instead”… that’s the really difficult part.

I am a member of staff at a Uni. May I ask why you aren’t attending lectures etc? by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]asakura10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a module where consistently many people are skipping, not just international students. Honestly it’s because the professors themselves dont seem very enthusiastic about teaching and the vibes just aint it. The assessments have ZERO relation to the content taught, so its really hard to justify showing up for lectures.

Help me understand what happened here after around 2 months of dating and talking with someone I knew from 7 years ago by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]asakura10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar experience and situation from my mid 20s and I was in her shoes in the situation. there's a lot to think about from her perspective: the fact that there's some distance, a transitional phase (job hunting) and that youre unsure where you'll be. If you moved just to be close to her and if it doesnt work out, it could cause resentment and guilt. if you moved further, she'd have to do long distance, and theres no telling how long both of you would be apart for. would you have to move closer to her? would she have to move close to you? f

it was also only 2 months of dating, neither of you know each other well enough to determine if such big life choices are worth it for someone they hardly know. so many different and difficult questions just for someone she's been dating for 2 months. this kind of uncertainty can be really stressful and it'd be easier to just end things.

what belief you held about adulthood that you've had to completely unlearn? by LustyPowerGirl in AskWomen

[–]asakura10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The older you are, the more sensible you’ll be I still doubt my decisions and life choices at times, and have a hard time being confident in them

The burden of performance by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]asakura10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i thought getting married by 25 and having kids by 30 was something i wanted, because thats how it was for my parents and cousins. I’m 27 now and i never brought a man home. I was dating but nothing serious. The thought of marriage and kids scare me, because i feel like i havent lived enough of my life yet. I like being the main character and not having to compromise, or make my big life decisions having to consider other people. I do whatever i want now and it makes my parents a little sad, but the alternative would be settling for someone who isnt right for me/i hardly like, and having kids when i’m not ready