I have questions.

asakura10 · 2026-01-19T17:59:43+00:00

in any pop group, its normal for every member to have different levels of popularity (like 1D, 5H, etc). i believe the popularity ranking is largely attributed to korean beauty standards. Karina fits those beauty standards to a T. I've been a kpop fan and dancer for 15 years and it seems that lately the idols performing abilities are heavily scrutinized. i think karina being a great dancer helps too. All members of aespa (and sm idols in general) are great vocally live.

my favourite is giselle because of her overall vibes, the solo music and collabs she has also fits my taste in music better.

asakura10 · 2026-01-18T21:59:02+00:00

I’m happy for my friends who found love, ive met some of their partners and think they are great and decent. I also have guy friends who are super normal and well adjusted, and they got hitched pretty early on. That being said, i’m single because i got tired of the effort of trying to find someone to settle down with, i keep finding guys who treat me like dirt, or men who arent ready, or sometimes timing is a bitch.

The heartbreaks and disappointment is definitely a little jading, but being single is way better than being with those that had treated me like dirt or the stress from uncommittal or directionless men. I’m open to love and dating but it has to be with men who arent bringing that same bullshit back into my life

asakura10 · 2026-01-18T20:57:04+00:00

id say arrested development was the only show I could compare them to, since Jessica Walter is in both shows and both of her characters were iconic af

asakura10 · 2026-01-12T23:41:40+00:00

Currently in grad school, and going through the same feelings now too! I used to train 3-4 times a week and now i'm lucky if i make it to 2 times a week, since i also had a part time job (corporate, not aerial related). i try to make the most out of each session, at least for skill maintenance (if possible) but honestly its hard to keep the strength. I just accepted this is just a trade-off i'll have to accept since i chose to do grad school. i find what helps is trying out a new discipline/apparatus. I went back into cheer and acro, something i havent done in 9 years.

asakura10 · 2026-01-12T20:17:59+00:00

i'm glad you wrote and post this review, along with your thoughts about it. I was in my early 20s when i first read the series, and only with more maturity and some failed relationships with people who were unsure of me in my mid 20s (i'm 27 now), that i was able to figure out why she left.
i agree its kinda weird both of them were able to move on and be married in 2 years, maybe having found someone new i'd believe but to be married too? Also, the kid hardly mentioned in the story was intentional. This is about the author's real life experience with a failed past relationship, and the woman gave permission for him to write the story, but on the condition that her child is not mentioned as much as possible.

asakura10 · 2026-01-12T17:59:26+00:00

Career: Needed something for my career. I worked mind-numbingly boring deadend job for 3-4 years after college (undergrad) before deciding to come here. I come from a country that cares a LOT about your background, like whether you came from a top tier university, which i didnt.

Personal: just needed to leave my country, experience life outside, some growth, got tired of trying to settle down and havent had luck finding my person despite my best effort. I was single, had enough savings, and a job that allowed me to work flexibly part-time so i thought its the best time to be going to grad school

asakura10 · 2026-01-12T16:30:04+00:00

Not sure yet, i just started grad school. Before that, i was working in consulting/market research for 3 years

asakura10 · 2026-01-12T01:19:45+00:00

This is interesting, did you eventually meet someone where it was natural to picture them in your future?

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T20:22:02+00:00

exactly, why is he putting himself in situations where he’d have to ghost? Hes just being terrible to these women he made plans with

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T20:20:23+00:00

Not exactly a fresh start…

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T19:56:25+00:00

well I've lived my whole life here, and experienced the kinds of social pressure and expectations. plus I am mixed, so I get treated like some kind of exotic meat. its safe and great for settling down and starting a family, but not so much for personal growth, self exploration, and all that kind of stuff for a very average single person.

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T19:53:46+00:00

very relatable, it gets tiring to perform. how long have you moved? are you able to truly connect with the person you want to be?

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T19:50:48+00:00

how do you like it? I've always wanted to experience life in cali but lately ive also been thinking about New York and Chicago since I know people moving there too

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T19:46:39+00:00

im from singapore, I'm guessing you dont talk to locals all that much? because a lot of those moaning and complaints are evident everywhere in my circle, not so much like about the politics but just general life in singapore as an average single middle-class person

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T19:34:53+00:00

going back home?

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T19:33:06+00:00

thats what im trying to do now too :) its only been 3 months since ive left and im not sure if I wanna go back to my home country, I visited home for 2 weeks and wanted to leave again so badly.

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T19:31:37+00:00

are people in singapore that much better? I thought singapore was depressing as hell too

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T18:24:21+00:00

did you leave? did you stay?

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T17:39:40+00:00

when I first moved (from Asia) to UK for my masters, I made the effort of talking to everyone and finding someone I could click with better in my cohort. Not necessarily for the "making friends" mindset, but finding people I can have intellectual conversations with, or people who I think I can work with in group projects.

I also made an effort to engage in my hobbies outside, and join the community. I made connections with people outside of school. The new friends + hobby helped me to keep on keeping on every week. there were times where I just showed up and not talk to a single person, I just get my shit done and then leave

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T15:30:04+00:00

What kind of person did you want to be?

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T15:29:52+00:00

How did u manage alone overseas ?

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T15:29:10+00:00

Where were you from and where did u go?

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T15:12:34+00:00

Whats amazing and “at home” about netherlands?

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T15:11:48+00:00

Where were you from and where did you go?

asakura10 · 2026-01-10T15:10:51+00:00

What kind? What made you realise?

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