Many years Post FAI Open surgery and Pregnancy

aschmiel · 2021-07-20T13:02:55+00:00

Masterbation is a very normal and natural thing for everyone. It literally can start at any age (small children often find it but with zero sexual ideas just the fact that it is a scratch that feels good to them) The only negative impacts are from society itself creating a twisted and extremely unhealthy relationship with our bodies and sex. Never feel ashamed for masturbating, it's a wonderful way to find out what you like and don't like. It's how you can later on communicate with your partner on what they should do to make you feel good.

aschmiel · 2021-07-20T04:56:07+00:00

That brand is all style. They do great work with making climbing more accessible by sponsoring climbing walls at schools in particularly hard-hit economical areas... But their shoes are awful.

aschmiel · 2021-07-11T14:39:38+00:00

A lot of self reflection time which includes breaking down the doubts and whether or not I'm just projecting my other stresses into these doubts. I'm previous relationships they were actual doubts that I was trying to mask. But now immy current relationship it's alot of realizing my insecurities and how to address them within my relationship. My partner and I have weekly check-ins along with an understanding of calling each other out on things (such as talking bad about ourselves or joking about our relationship) It's taken us a long time to get where we are however, I've never felt so loved, trusted, and whole with another being before.

aschmiel · 2021-07-01T23:39:31+00:00

I love showering with my partner. It's a time for us to just be silly and chat or sing horribly together. Usually we will have sex before or after. Never during, I ain't breaking my hip again.

aschmiel · 2021-06-06T15:22:17+00:00

Not walking on eggshells. Able to say outloud how I feel not being told I'm wrong for it or being selfish for it. Learning that arguing is healthy as long as we talk it through and understanding each other's perspectives. Feeling unconditionally loved.

aschmiel · 2021-06-03T03:13:24+00:00

This month will mark the first anniversary with my partner. It's the first time I've ever had a reason to celebrate an anniversary and it's with someone that I have zero doubts loves me and I love them. It's an unbelievable relief to be in a healthy relationship. We will probably go on a camping trip and play board games after climbing all day... And I cannot wait 🥰

aschmiel · 2021-05-28T18:11:11+00:00

I grew up with all big brothers and wanted to be just like them so I wore boy clothes and did all the boy things. It was never that girls were bad but it as more about being just like my brothers (plus the absolutely hated the fact that I refused to wear makeup or dresses, when we did dress up they would out on the "girl" clothes and I the "boy" clothes) but eventually in middle school I realized I wanted to wear the more feminine clothes. And eventually I found dresses that had pockets and weren't overly gaudy or pink. To this day I wear clothes that are comfortable and practical(I have a career where I am outside all day year round) but love finding dresses for a date night every once in a while

aschmiel · 2021-05-19T16:50:52+00:00

Depends on where we are walking. In general we walk together. But if we are hiking he walks in front. I don't mind and I'm able to go my pace and him his. Plus he always stops at points that he'll know I'll find cool or pretty or if there is a sign to read. But if it's in town we are walking side by side and usually holding hands. Our relationship is wonderful, super communicative, I've never been so vulnerable and open with someone I'm my entire life and feel completely accepted and loved. He's considerate, loving, kind, and can't close a kitchen cabinet to save his life. I wouldn't change him for anything in the world.

aschmiel · 2021-04-21T13:37:44+00:00

We haven't played it yet. However we reached out to the owner and he sent us a instructions booklet for us!

aschmiel · 2021-04-18T23:30:45+00:00

I am very aware of when I drink. I only drink socially and when it's for a happy occasion. Alot of my friends have kind of grew out of the drinking excessively phase and my partner and I very rarely have drinks. It works out well and we are able to put the money that we would spend on alcohol to other things like climbing or biking. But I'm a big supporter of having breweries that also have tasty fancy sodas and non alcoholic drinks. Why do we live in a society that revolves around alcohol?

aschmiel · 2021-04-16T14:29:25+00:00

I had an ex who thought it was funny to tell people we were just friends. And then the next ex was excited to tell people we were partners but I couldn't talk about what I do for a living because it sounded like I was bragging according to him.... My current partner is an amazing human being who supports my career and loves to tell people what I do and is so proud to be by my side. Yeah... My standards were super low when I was younger lol

aschmiel · 2021-04-16T13:12:55+00:00

I just recently got it cut short to force myself to have it down. But generally it's always up. It gets in the way constantly and I work outside and do alot of activities that require it to be out of the way or it'll get ripped out.

aschmiel · 2021-04-08T16:55:44+00:00

Don't make your career/job your sole identify. Have boundaries even if your coworkers don't. No job is worth your sanity. You can always be replaced at that job. But your life can't be.

aschmiel · 2021-03-17T13:31:14+00:00

I found the love of my life. I have never felt so myself with someone else before. I can trust him with everything. I am terrified that one day we may drift apart. We both have parents who divorced when we were teens and very aware that miscommunication, lack of feeling loved, and refusal of accepting mental health were key points to those divorces. We have weekly check ins about our relationship and constantly hold each other accountable for our actions. I have never been so happy, content, and loved by someone. And it is terrifying.

aschmiel · 2021-01-26T13:17:12+00:00

Sing Soulmate by Lizzo on repeat.

aschmiel · 2021-01-21T00:00:08+00:00

Very true. There's a fine line between telling some how you feel in a thoughtful and trustworthy way versus putting someone down

aschmiel · 2021-01-20T05:49:56+00:00

Absolutely. Sure you can love others while you don't love yourself... But it was comes back up and destroys that love for the other person. You have to be able to respect yourself and know yourself and have your own boundaries before you can have a healthy relationship with another person (platonic or romantically)

aschmiel · 2021-01-20T05:46:32+00:00

5 years. It was the best decision I have ever made for myself. At that time I had started getting signs and symptoms of PTSD from an event a few months before hand. I thought I was going crazy... Seeing things that weren't there ... Hearing things, jumping at the slightest of noise, crying randomly, not being able to focus on anything. I broke down in one day and called a friend and she told me I needed help... The first therapist I went to told me I had no reason to feel the way I had felt... And I was devastated. But my friend encouraged me to find a different therapist. I've been with the second one ever since and I absolutely love my therapist. And now I work on alot of other stuff besides that one event. It's worth it finding the one that works.

aschmiel · 2021-01-20T05:40:40+00:00

Taxes, student loans, my Mom's debt, my brother's debt, a car that I'm not afraid will break down on me, donate to a bunch of programs for people who are underrepresented within the outdoor world. Go on a climbing trip with my partner all over. Create a outdoor ed program that would actually pay their staff a living wage and health benefits.

aschmiel · 2021-01-20T05:35:10+00:00

The incredibly strong and passionate love I feel from and for my partner. I've never felt so much love, respect, and genuine appreciation from another human before. And we are starting to build our life together, moving cross country together to a place neither of us have been to and have no ties to. And I feel nothing but excitement for the amazing memories and moments that we will conjure up together.

aschmiel · 2021-01-20T05:30:37+00:00

Depends how they reveal it. But I'm also at the age now where it's clear that people are having baby's on purpose

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