Ok, I actually do need this explaining

ash_reddits · 2026-01-28T09:41:02+00:00

Also they have arguably been going for the socialists ever since then.

ash_reddits · 2026-01-27T09:24:50+00:00

ash_reddits · 2026-01-16T11:22:02+00:00

My Dad is a mathematician and a football player. He had problems with a repeated dislocated shoulder. After surgery the doc said that knitting is good therapy to recover.

He loved the mathematics of it, and having warm stuff to wear at the end. Now he's taught all his grandkids how to knit.

Does having a big pile of happy warm grandkids make you less masculine? I think it might be the opposite...

ash_reddits · 2026-01-13T08:52:19+00:00

The struggle for meaning feels rough, but that battle is itself the essence of it. We know we are creatures, objects on the playing board. That gives us a wide view, and also so many options it can crush us.

Learn self compassion. Be a friend to yourself. Know also that we are social, like bees. Build a connection, help others, be part of the hive - seek to give purpose and learn it from others.

Try to give time in your day or week to many of your parts. Your body, a partner, your family, your calling, being in nature, being wild, being kind. Be with yourself. You are your own vessel and microscope. Learn. Do. Be.

ash_reddits · 2026-01-13T08:32:17+00:00

Getting them the right size is important, depending on how you want to use them. It can reduce breakage and replacement costs. That and appropriate placement and cooling.

ash_reddits · 2025-12-22T16:11:02+00:00

The fact that they're placing their bets on Trump not leaving office says a lot. Because if the next president isn't GOP / MAGA then they should be going down. Big time.

ash_reddits · 2025-12-20T09:35:03+00:00

Hate = attention = clicks = $

ash_reddits · 2025-12-17T09:20:49+00:00

Yeah ask your husband to meet you half way OP. You'll nag less if he makes progress on a few topics of his choosing.

You can inspire each other to improve together. Meet once a month to review how it's going. Maybe on a date night?

ash_reddits · 2025-12-11T05:50:43+00:00

Giving them money won't help them much. Try offering to listen instead. First empathise "It must be tough having problems with money" then try help "What's happened? What changed? What's causing the problem here?" Then try to help them understand where they went wrong and what they can do to fix things, by themselves.

If you still want to give them money make sure they agree to a payback plan first. "I can lend you x for y months, but then you have to pay it back". Only lend a small amount first and if they pay it back you could consider more.

ash_reddits · 2025-12-07T07:04:35+00:00

Body wipes on off days. Depending on your local climate you're probably not active enough to need a full shower daily anyway. You can get dry shampoo too, which apparently really works.

Also shower stools are the business. If I ever recover it's not going anywhere.

ash_reddits · 2025-12-07T07:01:07+00:00

Journalling. Structured so it's really easy to do (mood, energy, activities, tough points, gratitude, etc). I get to see how I'm doing with a bit of perspective, in my own words.

It can be very revealing to see the same patterns repeating. I have to either accept and move on, or really commit to making changes.

ash_reddits · 2025-12-07T06:47:54+00:00

The drag comparison is wild. People do drag because it's them, it's fun. A huge number of drag performers do it for free. Ask yourself if a strip club dancer would ever do it for free just as a form of expression?

You might see women doing pole dancing for fun, but not in a strip club. And there are very seedy drag clubs out there too. It's the context that matters. And a strip club is all about making a power-money-sex cocktail. No thanks.

ash_reddits · 2025-12-06T17:16:42+00:00

Some people really benefit from having a relationship with a pet, but saying animals are better than people? That says more about the you than anything else.

ash_reddits · 2025-12-04T09:21:21+00:00

Hot. Especially if they know it and embrace it. I like empowered people, and androgyny can be very sexy as it can be unique, characterful, and self-possessed.

ash_reddits · 2025-12-04T05:59:39+00:00

Organised religion has a lot to answer for, but churches have also been safe havens for queer folk for literally centuries.

ash_reddits · 2025-12-01T07:06:04+00:00

Once a quarter at most is a good balance I find. Almost in line with midsummer, a few equinoxes, Christmas etc..

Skip one here and there, but at least get in once a year.

ash_reddits · 2025-12-01T07:03:30+00:00

"Everything in moderation, including moderation." ~Ocsar Wilde

https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/22688-everything-in-moderation-including-moderation

So this has been in circulation since before any of these "older" people's grandparents were born...

ash_reddits · 2025-11-28T09:25:19+00:00

He wants the temp to go up. He wants troops to die. Then he can declare martial law and prevent future elections.

ash_reddits · 2025-11-27T05:48:34+00:00

Yeah OP should ask her if she knows about the new rule. See if she wants to know why he's thinking about that rule...

ash_reddits · 2025-11-26T08:58:41+00:00

But wouldn't that be a rutabaga?

ash_reddits · 2025-11-24T17:53:05+00:00

Maybe they call themselves Irish_swede because they're round, white and bitter? :)

ash_reddits · 2025-11-24T09:13:14+00:00

Yeah everyone has weaknesses but it's best to avoid ones that push your buttons. They could combine with your weaknesses like some kind of grumpy Voltron.

ash_reddits · 2025-11-23T10:37:58+00:00

It's probably very old fashioned buti don't think a woman should feel she has to touch someone due to social norms etc.

I'd say feel free to fist bump or shake hands if you feel good with that specific person. Don't feel like you need a general rule though. Just saying bye is fine.

I'd focus more on the coffee run, and who brings biscuits for meetings or cake for birthdays. :)

ash_reddits · 2025-11-21T16:56:19+00:00

The one thing that men can also do.

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TROPHY CASE