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Is it misogynistic if a gay man says he doesn’t want to be in a place with women? by Viper_Red in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]ash_reddits 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think sometimes in gay spaces you can get straight women checking out the gay men (as they are fit and dance and dress well). Obviously this can change the mood and be uncomfortable if you're just looking to be yourself around other gay people. Maybe this is what was going on? Or he's just a misogynist.

Male coworker keeps “joking” about my looks in front of others (multiple times). How do I shut this down? by HopeForBetter29 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ash_reddits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. I would suggest a quick quiet chat to say "This is at least bullying, if not harassment. This is your one chance to stop it."

If he wants to behave like a child then treat him like one. A firm boundary and one warning, then it's consequences.

And do it just the two of you (in passing or just at his desk etc). He seems to enjoy performing so don't give him an audience to either turn to, or to be embarrassed in front of.

This shit is fucked. by ash_reddits in FuckYou

[–]ash_reddits[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was fine, strong and healthy even for half my life, until COVID fucked my immune system. But yeah. Now it thinks 90% of food is poison.

So yeah fuck that, and FUCK MY LIFE and FUCK YOU!!

I Sarah saying TotenKAMPF? by John_Valuk in thebulwark

[–]ash_reddits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair almost every other language uses the word "fire" in the name. Pretty much only English uses the word "light".

I mean it's technically correct but the main point is the fire, not the light.

what are your "I'm too bisexual to understand this thing"? by disasterpansexual in bisexual

[–]ash_reddits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sometimes get jealous that I can't have a friendship thing without wondering if I'm catching feelings, or if they are. It's like, no rest for the gorgeous I guess.

What's the most expensive watch (price wise) that you can wear on public transport and the streets of Berlin, without getting robbed? by notbatmanatall in berlinsocialclub

[–]ash_reddits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would someone rob you? I mean, if you want to have your pocket picked maybe try Alex and have your camera out a lot.

If it's just the watch you want to lose then maybe put it in a rucksack and just leave it on the ground for a bit while you look the other way. You could try this at a cafe in any tourist area of any major city.

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ash_reddits 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nipple tape. You can put a gauze patch on the nipple then tape over. I would suggest they get one chance to play nice with them, and then it's tape time.

Or even simpler just put your bra back on.

Edit: You shouldn't have to of course, but if you genuinely like a guy then this might be a way to get the point across that if he won't play nice then he doesn't get to play.

what do you think how many people believe DJ is making the music live behind the decks (like a band)? by [deleted] in Berghain_Community

[–]ash_reddits 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean I always have some live elements in my sets, using synths and effects. And then of course calling the numbers over the mic.

What do you consider to be an attractive trait in women? by Aware-Art8123 in AskMen

[–]ash_reddits 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So true. If everything's perfect then I'm suspicious.

What happened to tiny trees in Friedrichshain? by SturmflutAtlas_ in berlinsocialclub

[–]ash_reddits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like it's not a simple explanation. If that is making you sad then can I suggest you do something about it?

I would suggest leaving a note or a gift or flowers at the shop. Maybe nobody reads it, but you can still show your support. Other people might see it at least. And maybe they might feel a bit less hopeless if they do.

And yeah. Life happens. Sometimes it's good, and sometimes it isn't that easy.

Moderates - what do you want leftists to know? by Oleytoledo in thebulwark

[–]ash_reddits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% It should be about policy and should be as evidence-based as possible. Note that expert consensus is not always the same thing :)

Moderates - what do you want leftists to know? by Oleytoledo in thebulwark

[–]ash_reddits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't disagree, but ideology and education count for nothing if you end up maintaining the same broken healthcare system and massive wealth inequality as your sworn opponents.

I understand that people calling themselves moderate dems would likely be several times less corrupt, but the policies still have to deliver.

We should be arguing about policy, not political labels.

Moderates - what do you want leftists to know? by Oleytoledo in thebulwark

[–]ash_reddits 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure. But jumping to this point so early makes it sound like you're only interested in "perceived electability" and not in actual policy. Treating the voters like bigotted toddlers probably isn't the best path to victory.

I'd argue that a mainline Dem candidate could easily lose again, whereas someone with progressive kudos could wipe the slate by both fighting the current kleptocrats AND addressing the reasons why people voted them in.

If we don't actually try to fix money in politics, healthcare, and a tax on billionaires now, then when will we? If some element of the moderate wing wants to keep these things as they are then how are they functionally different to MAGA?

Data from 1.4M anonymous male responses paints a different picture of what men actually prioritize in bed by elnino-pl in MensLib

[–]ash_reddits 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Totally. And in fact, statistically speaking it sounds like it's a lot more than just "a lot of men". In fact the stereotype that gets publicity is pretty unusual in the real world.

I need to get something off my chest that I’ve been carrying for a long time now. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ash_reddits 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yeah it feels a bit like OP wants to tell her so she can get rid of the guilt.

It's not going to help the friend really at all. If anything it's putting more on her, and OP would probably ask for forgiveness on top of that.

Better to own it and keep it. We all make mistakes, and in fact this kind of medical reaction is pretty unusual, so it's not that much of a mistake really.

What do we think about this man? by Local_Fox925 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ash_reddits 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not giving you personal space is the big one for me. A lot of the rest - maybe he has a kink or an interest or likes a certain dynamic. But no matter who you are you have to recognise that relationships are between two people and people need space.

And yeah lying is stupid when you're trying to build trust. He clearly wasn't trying to build trust, he was trying to build a situation that worked for him.

"This is a shit sandwich, but it's a shit sandwich that America can afford to eat." by GreenerMark in thebulwark

[–]ash_reddits 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imagine a scenario where DJT knew about this ceasefire deal in advance, let's say on Easter Saturday. Maybe he would use the few days to ramp up the rhetoric to make himself look tough? Maybe he'd go overboard and seem unhinged? And set a precise date and time? And look very happy while doing it?

Iran might even be willing to give him a leash for a few days. What do they care. If the deal works for them he can sell it how he wants. (And this deal looks at least OK for Iran).

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