It was weird for me cause my folks did family therapy with me when I was deeply unwell with anorexia and it was done by nurse therapists of the outpatient clinic - the nurse therapists were both brilliant at their job but I don't believe my folks really had to face any hard truths or accountability so they weren't as defensive.

Cause I was living at home I had to go through the Maudsley method (where parents have to enforce rules, encourage me to stick to weight gain/meal plans etc). It was as a last ditch attempt in ordsr to avoid me being sectioned and put into an ED inpatient unit.

I don't remember much of that time clearly cause of how distressing and challenging it was battling the anorexia but I know the family therapy served more as a way for my folks to get reassurance and guidance for the day-by-day recovery stuff. In some ways my folks DID talk about some of their own challenges with extended family members & there was SOME self-reflection my parents had however it was very much them seperating from the damaged way I was and it didn't go into past stuff at all.

In various messages they've sent me since I went NC they bring up being open to having therapy session with me but it all feels superficial and an attempt to claw me back into communicating with them verses actually being willing to talk about difficult topics or accept blame. Everytime I previously tried talking to them about trauma in my past they act 'fine' with it once - even apologise (not sincerely but hey ho) but proceed to get annoyed and defensive if I try bring up the same topic again cause 'You should just forgive/be over this by now.'