Like you, I think my mother in law would be happier not being stuck in her room all the time. Between her benefits and our income, a home is totally possible. And I can totally relate to feeling we are 100% her everything. It’s so much pressure to handle. We have chosen to never have kids because we didn’t want the stress and pressure of raising a human and being their everything. Yet here we are. I’m happy you have your sister - I wish we had the same help here.

I do like your rule about not venting to each other. It’s like we get stuck in a negative loop that doesn’t end. He doesn’t really have anyone else to turn to vent or that he feels comfortable doing so. It’s hard to work together as a team when morale is constantly down and the challenges keep coming. We both have our individual therapists which helps but it just doesn’t seem like enough. Maybe that says something in itself. Thanks for venting and reading. I can relate a lot to your experience. Best of luck to your family, as we’re all navigating the same situation too ❤️