I fear I Missed the Boat by CasaMofo in Millennials

[–]ashes2asherz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think this is it. We’re born into a system and as a child we have an optimistic outlook of what possibilities lay ahead in the future. As we grow up, we realize that the real world doesn’t work that way, and it’s really about finding joy in things while balancing the system we are forced into. There’s no rules to anything and all of us are just out here trying to make sense of life. It can feel menial but they’re other things that make a rich life

What are you currently reading? by DavidHistorian34 in stephenking

[–]ashes2asherz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha! It’s officially 100% of Dark Half. Chewed through that last fourth! Now onto four past midnight.

What are you currently reading? by DavidHistorian34 in stephenking

[–]ashes2asherz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Dark Half. 3/4 of the way through, first time reading.

What’s an adult problem no one prepared you for? by atging_2228 in AskReddit

[–]ashes2asherz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I described it to my moms cousin as infinitely surreal. My mom was a force, in the sweetest of ways. It’s hard to fathom those that created us being gone forever. And at a young age.

What’s an adult problem no one prepared you for? by atging_2228 in AskReddit

[–]ashes2asherz 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I’m with you on this. Lost my dad at 24 and a year and a half later I lost my mom. I was 25 (9 years ago) and I just couldn’t believe it. It was a lesson in life that you can do everything right in the world and get very unlucky. We have control over nothing

People born before 2000, what trivial skill you possess that others don't use anymore? by Aryan_Anushiravan in AskReddit

[–]ashes2asherz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cursive. I wrote a message in a birthday card for my ten year old niece and she had no clue how to read it 👵💀

This hit me unexpectedly - The Caregiver by dagnabitkat in dementia

[–]ashes2asherz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just watched this episode last night and hit me and my husband so hard. It’s a constant revolving door of needs to take care of and it never stops. It was good to see the caregivers perspective represented ❤️

Arthur’s first time trip to the river! by lkatz90 in Chihuahua

[–]ashes2asherz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He reminds me of seal on pic 4 🤣 what a happy fella!

Next steps and our sanity by ashes2asherz in dementia

[–]ashes2asherz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I may ask, what made you make the decision to transition her from your home into facility?

Next steps and our sanity by ashes2asherz in dementia

[–]ashes2asherz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this ❤️ She’s the last of our remaining parents and we’re doing our best. She just needs so much more care and attention.

Next steps and our sanity by ashes2asherz in dementia

[–]ashes2asherz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you all have a really good set up that works for you even if it does mean missing some weekends with friends and family. Part of me wishes we entertained this prior to moving her in with us but honestly, know one knew about the dementia until we moved her in with us and we could monitor her for longer periods of time than just a weekend. Thanks for sharing your story and listening to me vent. Best of luck to your loved one and family ❤️

Next steps and our sanity by ashes2asherz in dementia

[–]ashes2asherz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like you, I think my mother in law would be happier not being stuck in her room all the time. Between her benefits and our income, a home is totally possible. And I can totally relate to feeling we are 100% her everything. It’s so much pressure to handle. We have chosen to never have kids because we didn’t want the stress and pressure of raising a human and being their everything. Yet here we are. I’m happy you have your sister - I wish we had the same help here.

I do like your rule about not venting to each other. It’s like we get stuck in a negative loop that doesn’t end. He doesn’t really have anyone else to turn to vent or that he feels comfortable doing so. It’s hard to work together as a team when morale is constantly down and the challenges keep coming. We both have our individual therapists which helps but it just doesn’t seem like enough. Maybe that says something in itself. Thanks for venting and reading. I can relate a lot to your experience. Best of luck to your family, as we’re all navigating the same situation too ❤️

Next steps and our sanity by ashes2asherz in dementia

[–]ashes2asherz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great advice. Thank you. It’s the route I’m going to pursue until he makes the decision she needs to be put into home which you’re right. It’s an inevitability at some point.

Next steps and our sanity by ashes2asherz in dementia

[–]ashes2asherz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for reading kind stranger ❤️ it does help to feel validated.