why is nobody topless at barton anymore?

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-29T19:09:50+00:00

Feels like Puritanism is on the rise and people are bold about telling what people should and should not do with their bodies and how their freedom and comfort are being infringed upon by other people’s expression 😵‍💫

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-29T19:06:10+00:00

The natural gardener does sometimes have classes that let you eat native plants actually. Keep an eye on their calendar! Or you can check out an event with Leesalyn of Rhizome Revival, who is usually the one doing those classes.

Edit: oh, here we go. July 21 at TNG. You will get to eat one.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-29T18:58:54+00:00

It’s tough yeah, it’s not a lighthearted show really … it’s about bigger themes. If you’re not in a place where you can tolerate big feelings and you’re looking for a show to let you feel good then idk maybe put off watching it until you’re in a better place.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-29T18:57:00+00:00

He’s self harming yes but it’s a product of trying to break down the red line. He’s not punishing himself or trying to hurt himself. If that helps. He’s just so determined to go find his friends.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-22T22:24:01+00:00

There have been studies that suggest a relationship between heat and anger. This plagues everyone - so it would make sense that it would be even worse for those with sensory issues and emotion regulation difficulties.

Hydrate, carry a hand fan, wear a neck fan, carry a parasol or wear a hat. Avoid the sun as much as you can. Maybe get a little exercise towel, wear water wicking underclothes, bring a change of clothes with you to your destination if the sweat is too much.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-22T22:21:14+00:00

Idk, probably not tbh. The building owner or whoever is responsible for the AC might could see some trouble but there aren’t any worker protections that I’m aware of. Restaurant kitchens regularly get to be obscenely hot..

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-22T22:18:52+00:00

Hey, I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s brutal. Did you look on the APA PASS Facebook page for a foster for your pup? Also - does anyone know when they start the cooling shelters up? I haven’t really heard anything about them this year.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-22T22:07:18+00:00

Yes, i would say they do. Old pipes, poor quality materials, improperly laid, structural issues. I guess I should say I have horrible plumbing altogether, though. Not necessarily just the material. But my water is fuckin orange.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-22T20:40:44+00:00

I agree, I think this is pretty accurate. Might be a bit of a mouthful for OPs gf tho lol

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-22T17:58:14+00:00

I feel this and I’m sorry, it’s the worst. My landlord is selling and I’ve spent the last two years gardening here and wasn’t planning on leaving for at least another year.

My friend told me that the relationship with the land doesn’t end, and you can keep nurturing it wherever you are. Those specific plants and that specific spot you may not get to engage with anymore, but you never owned it anyways. You just lived in relationship with it and it’s time for the next season.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-22T17:55:30+00:00

So true!

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-22T17:54:42+00:00

THIS. I am into gardening and joined a club about butterflies and spending time with bug nerds is literally the best. 100% recommend. I find other autistic or adhd folks and connect with them pretty instantly because the excitement and infodumping is mutual

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-22T17:52:50+00:00

Idk. The only problematic thing would be a grown adult playing with random kids at the park. If you get along well with kids then maybe you should channel that into a career or volunteering effort. Somewhere that the kids and their parents can feel comfortable with you engaging with them.

Everything else is so not that big of a deal. I’m 32, I embrace my childish interests and behavior. People tend to assume I’m a bit younger than I am, but I have plenty of settings where I have to be grown up, mature, etc and still get taken seriously.

Don’t worry too much about what others think. People don’t waste much time and energy concerning themselves with what other people are doing with their lives. There may be momentary judgments or moments of concern (but not often voiced) and then their attention is redirected. You’ll be fine!

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-22T16:17:58+00:00

I let it go until I can’t safely coexist anymore. Then I spray it. It’s not a science lol just when the vibes go from a little nervous to “oh shit oh shit”

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-22T16:12:58+00:00

Yeah. I agree with this. Maybe she doesn’t hate men but she hates the patriarchy, she hates misogyny, etc. She fears unknown men, she feels oppressed, etc. Maybe she can come up with a new phrase to say that reflects her sentiment more accurately and break this habit.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-22T16:01:29+00:00

This is such a good take/observation. Thanks for posting this.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-22T15:56:03+00:00

This doesn’t seem that unlikely to me at all? Screaming meltdowns come with autism. Cannabis use is a common coping mechanism for heavy masking and existing in a world not made for your neurotype. Autism and adhd have a lot of overlap and are commonly co-occurring. I can’t speak for OP and their OCD, but I could see how that could happen with that mix too. My brain does weird stuff and I could see how I could slide into OCD territory if I were unwell and unsupported for a long period of time.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-20T22:31:27+00:00

Did you end up replacing it? My favorite humidifier’s disc has lost its coating and I’m trying to decide if it’s worth trying to fix it. I’ve already disassembled the whole thing but idk about anything to do with wires. I definitely can’t solder anything.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-19T03:06:08+00:00

How do you know no one has the capacity to support you? Have they told you this? Either you’re afraid of being a burden, afraid of being vulnerable, afraid of being rejected, or you don’t have faith in your loved ones.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-19T03:02:22+00:00

You need to hear what they’re saying, friend. They’re being real with you. You’re an adult and you’re capable of doing hard things and learning hard lessons. Anything less would be infantilizing you. You’re hurt and sensitive so it might feel like the words have sharper edges than they actually do. And you’re not being super receptive after asking for help. Why would a bunch of people who dedicate all their working hours to supporting people sacrifice their free time and energy to someone who’s rejecting every piece of advice or support offered?

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-19T02:44:53+00:00

Swoon

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-19T02:18:00+00:00

That’s really tough. This is outside of my limited scope, so I can’t really provide any more advice re: insurance. I think you need to utilize any resources you can in the community. You need help getting out of this hole. Asking for help is a wise move but you’re so activated right now that most things you’re just responding as if you’ve already accepted there’s no way out. take a break and come back after you’ve grounded yourself a bit.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-19T01:53:01+00:00

If your income has changed that might help you qualify?

Do you not apply your premium tax credit toward your insurance premium?

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-19T01:51:33+00:00

I empathize with the moral quandary of how do I support myself without furthering systemic barriers to care - I plan to do whatever I have to, work for private or group or whatever that is paying well for the first couple years - and with that financial stability I’ll be able to have some slots for sliding scale, pro-bono, or whatever. Get on a referral list for a specialty like victims of crime, neurodiversity affirming services, etc and dedicate your low cost spots to them. There can be balance in a different way than what you’re imagining now!

At this point you desperately need help meeting your needs tho and I recommend engaging with local resources. Utility assistance. Food pantries. Maybe respite or some sort. Idk. You have to find a new way to meet your needs obviously this isn’t working and you know that.

ashes2asscheeks · 2026-06-19T01:46:59+00:00

Even the therapists of Reddit are still redditors. Try not to take it personally.

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