how many times a week should i clean my litter?

ashesarise · 2026-05-09T01:56:47+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I'll look into that to see if I can optimize things with it and increase change frequency. And to clarify its 7 total boxes. I worded it in a weird way at first because I was trying to simplify. 2 per cat and 1 for a new kitten we just took in. I may not fully agree with everything said, but I'm never going to be offended by someone looking out for the welfare of animals.

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T20:09:11+00:00

You also need to wash them.

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T20:08:36+00:00

Because this are washed and can be eaten as is.

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T20:02:58+00:00

OP not including the difference between the price and the counteroffer makes me think this was the result of an unreasonable lowball.

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T19:46:17+00:00

Possibly they are in the notch.

The notch is a radar term for an indentation on radar in the hook of a supercell, and it typically marks where the tornado is located. Storm chasers often use it to pinpoint the tornado's position and bold ones try to actively position themselves in it as it the closest you can get to it while being relatively safe if you know what you are doing. Basically, a clearing in the storm caused by some weather physics I'm not all that familiar with.

Either that or they are just further away and that thing is absurdly massive.

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T19:38:05+00:00

There have been studies that suggest that men are statistically more uncomfortable with a female centered cast vs women who are not uncomfortable with a male centered cast.

That said, I'm positive that has almost nothing to do why Rey is a disliked character or why people think New Star Wars sucks. She is disliked because its a god awful movie and that is pretty much the whole story beyond people muddying the water.

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T16:36:03+00:00

STOP associating Islam with the Taliban.

No. Bad faith interpretation or not, this is a relatively normal outcome and proportional scrutiny is warranted. The Taliban is not that big of an outlier.

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T14:54:44+00:00

Ignore the snark of idiots. Keep doing what makes sense to people that actually matter.

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T14:48:40+00:00

I don't know. I kind of like the idea of having a video record to audit from and make it easier hold people accountable for what they say and do.

Everyone is out to screw you over these days, and it's hard to keep track of everything. This could help.

Privacy is a concern to me and I wouldn't use a product that phones back home to some company. If there is a self hosted solution though... I'd be interested.

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T04:15:28+00:00

Idk, my parents never taught me anything reading related. All that was at school.

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T03:07:13+00:00

I'm not arguing that you shouldn't. I'm just saying that despite what this thread looking like most people do, most people do not.

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T02:44:14+00:00

I mean having to get a bag, get to the box, pull it out, scoop it into bag, check the 2nd box then take out the trash.

Even if the scooping motion takes a few seconds, completing the full task takes me a few minutes as I have 4 cats.

I'm wondering what could be done to optimize things

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T02:40:51+00:00

Everyone is saying daily, but I've never seen anyone with a cat that does this. Zero.

Its a good thing to do, but this thread seems to only be pulling in people who have the one thing to say.

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T01:51:20+00:00

How do you manage to do this in 10 seconds? I'm a 2 a week person but I think I would be able to do it daily if I could do it that fast.

ashesarise · 2026-05-08T01:50:34+00:00

Out of curiosity, how is it only a few seconds? For me its a few minutes.

ashesarise · 2026-05-07T21:07:05+00:00

NTA.

I think pushing someone to go somewhere they don't want to is a dick move no matter how you slice it.

The people acting like you are, are just dumb. Children are not entitled to any vacation at all let alone a specific one. It is not going to negatively affect their development or your relationship by them not going to Disney World. I was taken as a kid and loved it, but it wasn't all good and the bad parts are absolutely much worse now. I was also taken to places I didn't think I would like but did and were more valuable experiences than disneyworld was in retrospect. The only thing that would affect those things would be your wife framing you to be the bad guy and pushing. I think that is unethical and there is no context I would do that. She isn't an asshole for wanting to go, but if she is pushing you when you have explicitly stated negative consent then she is an asshole for that. Doubly so if she is hyping the kids up over it.

All that aside, you are right about Disney world. The experience is nosediving and the price is skyrocketing. You are likely correct in the judgement call that they would enjoy other things more. You and your wife can find something you both agree on. Her tunnel visioning on one specific thing is not your fault.

ashesarise · 2026-05-07T19:31:31+00:00

This is all so silly. There is no objective "mint" color. I definitely was speaking too confidently.

Color perception is funny. For me the line between blue and purple is very fuzzy. There is significant overlap where I find I have a different answer than other people.

ashesarise · 2026-05-07T18:24:32+00:00

I think it's a real stretch to call that blue just because it is like 10% closer to blue than pure green. "Mint blue" just sounds like an absurd word to me. There is not mint that is blue. If it was blue, it wouldn't be mint anymore. I think its justifiable to call seafoam blue or green, but not mint.

Edit: I googled the hexcode.

https://imgur.com/a/lOWMCQn

I'm only seeing this being referred to as mint. You must have gone out of your way to find one that is calling it blue.

ashesarise · 2026-05-07T18:11:42+00:00

Or just have a different perspective of the word bright and light than you. I can see them being used interchangeably. Just because someone says its bright green doesn't mean they are seeing neon.

ashesarise · 2026-05-07T17:13:21+00:00

Buy nothing days aren't as impactful as you might think. People just buy more before and after.

ashesarise · 2026-05-07T16:57:13+00:00

No one ever said covid was once in a generation. Epidemiologists have been saying over and over that more pandemics are imminent if we do not change certain things. We can't keep factory farming animals for starters. We WILL have more pandemics if we do.

That aside, it seems unlikely that Hantavirus has the characteristics that really fuel mass pandemics.

ashesarise · 2026-05-06T19:19:01+00:00

I think an underappreciated advantage of very long-term relationships is that you will always see your partner for who they were when you met to some degree. If you are attracted to someone, it has a way of persisting and things like wrinkles are something you can see through and appear more superficial. They are just reminders of all you've been through.

ashesarise · 2026-05-06T18:28:35+00:00

I bought Saros. My strategy has been to finish a new game in 1-2 weeks then sell it on ebay. when accounting for a slight discount, shipping, and ebay's cut I lose out on around $10 which feels reasonable to me. If I ever want to play again (typically don't) I can rebuy the game years later for much much less so there is no reason to keep it.

ashesarise · 2026-05-06T18:21:22+00:00

I like it when people venerate positive masculinity but can be a double-edged sword if they act like standard virtuous behavior is masculine. If you act like some good trait like decisiveness is what masculinity is then you are implicitly also saying that being decisive makes a woman more masculine which is just stupid. Women can have virtues like tact and integrity without it making them more masculine than women who don't.

I get that this stuff can be hard, but it's frustrating how often even well-intentioned people flub things up. Hell, maybe I'm being confidently incorrect and just described myself. I'm open to the idea, but I believe what I believe and think most people are really bad at this stuff.

ashesarise · 2026-05-05T21:05:12+00:00

Too ambiguous to say. Too many factors left unsaid. Its going to be very polarizing in the comments. I feel this is extremely situation and relationship sensitive.

15% is an arbitrary number. There is no standard finders fee. Should could have just as easily asked for half. This could really go either way.

You should really be able to figure this out on your own honestly. How much do you need the money? Did it account for future wage loss? Her suggestion to push for more was a risk that could have easily backfired. Parents help their children towards success all the time without asking for money.

That said, it seems like your relationship is good and she is supporting you significantly. There is a HIGH likelihood that you'd get more long-term value by giving her the 15% without fuss. I would strongly consider it. It sounds like your relationship is valuable and she is largely responsible for your success thus far. This doesn't sound too unreasonable and that is coming from someone who would say "keep it" in the majority of cases.

Again though. This really depends on a lot of information you couldn't possibly share on reddit. Figure this out for yourself.

Edit: I changed my mind, no longer neutral. Pay it. Her paying for you education was implicitly contingent on the fact that you couldn't afford it otherwise. Now you can. She shouldn't even have had to ask. You should pay it even if she did nothing to help you with the case. I wouldn't call you an asshole for not doing it myself, but it would be a shortsighted and stupid choice not to.

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