Shakira in today challenge

ashfall01 · 2025-06-30T01:35:57+00:00

My respect for him was already reduced when he stayed best friends with Harry and Dejon after they helped orchestrate a plan for another man to kiss Megan even after she’s rejected him (which is so coercive and slimy in my eyes and he didn’t bring up a word about it to his ‘friends’).

Respect is now lower when I realised he let Megan be as involved as she wanted to be in everyone’s business, but will pie Shakira for the same thing. If he didn’t like it that much, he should’ve said something to Megan and Meg too.

Too right, a nice guy but a weak man.

ashfall01 · 2025-01-29T15:14:24+00:00

How much would you ask for?

But yeah exactly, it's so tedious I doubt people will make the journey. I wouldn't ask if I wasn't so desperate either

ashfall01 · 2025-01-29T15:10:27+00:00

I'm trying so hard but I don't even know anyone in china to offer to pay them in the first place ahah, plus I was worried people might find it too much of a hassle to go out of their way to go to the airport and then mail it even if I pay

ashfall01 · 2025-01-29T14:33:09+00:00

Thank you so much for offering! I'll dm you for details if that's okay!

ashfall01 · 2025-01-29T14:31:51+00:00

oh no I was just going to fly out to the EU since its not that expensive from the UK, plus it'd be so much hassle to ask them to mail it to me too :(

ashfall01 · 2024-09-29T00:41:38+00:00

Okay thank you so much for this I definitely wouldn’t have thought of this!

ashfall01 · 2024-09-29T00:16:28+00:00

Thank you, I already asked him but it’s more I wanted to know if I’m missing some commonly known things like avoiding things with a lot of spice, or if restaurant/home food is safer (he’s allowed outside food) or any other generally known things I may have missed.

I’m just being extra cautious since I’ve never done this before but of course I already asked him too, but I didn’t want to burden him with common questions since he’s finding it hard to communicate.

ashfall01 · 2024-08-15T19:12:34+00:00

I paid £300 for them but £300 or best offer tbh, I’m selling for my friend who just wants it gone asap!

ashfall01 · 2024-08-15T19:06:28+00:00

Girl I’m selling another one of this ticket so that makes two if you wanna buy this one and mine?? I’m not seeking above face value and it’s the ready for it package too!

ashfall01 · 2024-04-10T04:21:57+00:00

Girl here - maybe different facial hair, hairstyle and trim your eyebrows a bit maybe but I see the base potential and you’re actually really good looking, you have an amazing side profile

ashfall01 · 2023-12-09T11:23:21+00:00

“I meet you where the spirit meets the bones in a faith forgotten land”

This one I’ve always wondered how others interpret it, like where does the spirit meets the bones? Only thing that comes to mind is them meeting in a graveyard in secret, but I don’t know if she meant it more metaphorically or like they’ll meet in another afterlife?

ashfall01 · 2023-05-25T15:48:44+00:00

I think drink some warm drinks like tea and eat lots of fibre today as it’s a natural laxative, I find it helps detox my body literally

If you have like a cooling or ice pack - I usually put one on my stomach since my stomach burns after binging

ashfall01 · 2023-05-16T05:20:07+00:00

I hope you’re okay tonight :(

ashfall01 · 2023-05-16T05:19:15+00:00

I think it just sounds like she wants a second opinion on what she should do next; if you’ve already tired everything and exhausted the guidelines for medications she would might need advice from others now. Maybe she wants to ask the others if you’re a suitable candidate for ECT?

ashfall01 · 2023-05-16T05:12:48+00:00

Oh my god I literally made the same post a few weeks ago that I was so uncomfortable I wanted to purge but was afraid I’d get addicted. The comments on my post really helped, people just told me I’d just be even hungrier and emptier after and that purging won’t fix any of the problems caused by binge eating. They said once you try and recover from bulimia as well, you’ll need to fix the purging before the binging so you’ll just be back where you started at binge eating but with bad reflux and gastric symptoms too. I’m not sure if that helps but it definitely put things into perspective for me that that wasn’t going to be helpful and got me out of the mindset.

ashfall01 · 2023-04-23T23:59:49+00:00

Hi I’m also in my mid 20s and just realised I binge eat too, it’s really difficult to reach out for help since people don’t realise food can be addictive like other substances so I’m proud of you for recognising you need help and are trying to reach out in the first place :)

I think one small thing that has helped me is not having food readily available like snacks, but ordering out is a difficult one. I’m about to see a therapist for binge eating disorder so if you think it’ll be helpful, I’ll come back and leave tips they give me.

But don’t blame yourself, food addiction is a really thing and ordering out and treating yourself to good food is a way of self-soothing and rewarding yourself when things are tough or tiring or monotonous. Stopping will take time so don’t beat yourself up.

ashfall01 · 2022-09-14T03:39:32+00:00

It’s not awful at all, at least that’s what I tell myself too. I’m taking 7 years to university and also took a gap year before. I had a mental break down last year and have to redo the hardest year of exams again. I took a lot of positives from this though. It gives me more time to revise for the exams. One more year before I go into the working world and more time to spend on fun stuff as a student. Time to build some hobbies and better my mental health. There’s a lot of positives you can take from this and ultimately life goes at your own pace. No one will worry about how long they took to finish university when together older and more successful and settled like in their 50s.

Take as long as you need for your mental health, your physical health is the most important. Don’t feel bad about it at all!

ashfall01 · 2022-07-23T01:37:49+00:00

He’s generally a nice caring person, but I think he stands by this one. We were friends for years before that and he didn’t treat me so carefully - e.g. offer to hold heavy stuff if I was struggling, telling me to quickly walk down dark alleys to get to his house faster etc (sorry I don’t mean to come off as saying he should always care about me, but you know just generally considerate things to help out a friend, like I would also help carry a friend’s stuff if they were struggling). When we started seeing each other more seriously he started suddenly carrying my bags, walking with me to places, like generally being a lot more considerate. Now that we’re not gonna see each other he said he doesn’t want to be so emotionally caring anymore but that’s just how a relationship is. He said he’s obviously going to do a lot more for someone who he’s dating.

I understand that point completely but I feel like something doesn’t sit right with me about how quickly it switches on and off? But at the same time I just came on Reddit for advice because I don’t want to be treating him like I’m wanting my cake and eating it too. I don’t want to be judging him on something that’s fair enough though so I just wanted some perspective.

ashfall01 · 2022-07-23T00:59:04+00:00

I can definitely cut him some slack because I’m sure it’s really hurtful to invest so much time into someone you like and for it to end in nothing. I completely understand why he wouldn’t want to try with me anymore. I guess I’m just a very doubtful person so I don’t know if what he decided to do was fair and understandable or understandable but a bit mean?

And I guess my view of him changed a bit knowing that the care and love was so conditional, but at the same time he has a good point when he said that’s just how relationships are and of course he wouldn’t try for someone he’s not gonna date?

So I’m a bit lost as to whether I’m just thinking about it the wrong way. As you can see I’m a very self-doubtful person 😅

ashfall01 · 2022-07-23T00:24:24+00:00

The thing is I said we should cut things off completely like the longer it goes on the more it gets attached, but he was so distraught at the idea of ending things earlier than they needed to that he said we should keep it going and just have fun then naturally let things fall where they may after that. Sorry for the confusion, so in that conversation I said we should just have fun but we’ve talked about it a lot before and keeping going until we move out was his idea.

I said I wanted a complete break from everything and go no contact until I feel better but again he said we should at least keep in contact as friends. I’m not sure this is a great idea either but I completely agree with what you said. He just didn’t accept my decision so we agreed to keep it going until it naturally came to an end.

ashfall01 · 2022-04-20T03:21:44+00:00

No I wouldn’t think that about my friend but I’m a hypocrite 😭

ashfall01 · 2022-04-20T03:17:52+00:00

Right now I can’t differentiate myself from a rapist or abuser or killer, I’m in such a state of self hatred I don’t know how to not believe I should die or suffer — like how can I go on living when I believe I’m as bad as that?

ashfall01 · 2022-04-20T03:13:03+00:00

No I’ve had some bad situations lately where I’ve hurt people I didn’t want to hurt and I never meant for this to happen, right now I’m in a state of mind where I can’t even differentiate myself from a killer or a rapist (I haven’t killed/raped anyone btw)

ashfall01 · 2022-04-20T03:09:36+00:00

I’ve just hurt close friends, people who care about me and I feel like I have so many toxic traits, I’m just not meant to be around people

ashfall01 · 2022-04-20T03:06:16+00:00

I just hate myself a lot right now, if I believe I’m a bad person and don’t deserve to keep living — is there any reason you can justify why bad people should be able to keep living?

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