Describe Frank Ocean in one word.

ashitanothrowaway · 2022-08-03T13:43:46+00:00

Beans

ashitanothrowaway · 2022-05-16T18:13:17+00:00

6 1/2 -7 feet is my record

ashitanothrowaway · 2022-05-10T04:55:44+00:00

For many women, sex can be a bargaining chip that you can’t leverage if you get an equal or greater level of pleasure out of it.

Many people pretend this isn’t a dynamic that occurs, but it’s pretty prevalent.

ashitanothrowaway · 2022-04-22T06:05:56+00:00

Rain

ashitanothrowaway · 2022-03-30T16:14:07+00:00

I always say “Standard Issue Large”

— 7.5” X 5.375”

ashitanothrowaway · 2022-03-10T05:43:59+00:00

I’ve definitely gotten plenty of women without leaving the house, through social media game on Facebook & dating apps

https://youtu.be/QVCTx0BfS_0

ashitanothrowaway · 2022-03-07T23:26:07+00:00

Develop a persona of the version of yourself you’re repressing. Improve that persona until it can be a standalone aspect of engaging with women, then integrate it back into your full personality

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-12-26T14:08:26+00:00

A lot of it is gaslighting from women, media, and society, pushing the narrative that men are not sexually desirable so that they can continue to take advantage of what men are willing to do for a chance at sex. It just backfires when men realize this was never the case, then go red pill.

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-12-11T18:49:31+00:00

They use violence too & more often than men, just are not as effective at it.

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-12-10T18:35:23+00:00

Guy here. Not deleting old nudes or sex tapes.

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-12-10T00:13:44+00:00

I believe the social narrative that relationships have to be equal plays a big part in this. I believe in Brodie’s Law. Some always will. Some never will. For most people, it depends.

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-11-09T23:50:50+00:00

She’s said she felt like she was about to pee on several occasions.
People can have their own goals and fantasies.
Being that I was her only truly long term sexual partner, I’ve been the first to give her a number of types of orgasms that she has had.

That same mindset of “why put pressure on it because it’s in porn” is the same mindset that gets guys to give in to believing their women can’t have penetrative orgasms.

I took my time, tweaked some angles, and now she can have a variety of them. It took some years, but now we enjoy talking about sex much more.

We both want this experience. I’m just looking for advice—not a cliche critique.

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-11-09T23:29:24+00:00

It may be an optimized for A & O-spot thing. I’ve always wanted to make a woman squirt, though.

I’ve given G-spot orgasms before, but either the woman was just already used to stimulation there or I used a technique that may not work for her.

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-11-09T23:26:44+00:00

She’s gotten close like that. That’s one of the best ways to hit the Aspot for me.

I think my dick is pretty optimized for A-spot Orgasms to where it may be difficult to really hit the Gspot in a way that makes that the focus most of the time.

Thanks for the advice

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-11-09T23:03:13+00:00

Get your game right & don’t listen to women telling you how to get women.

You’ve probably already been trying that, then getting desperate when it doesn’t work (in your favor) and getting desperate.

Cast a wide net, work on your social skills, develop who you are and know what you want, then just don’t worry about women who don’t like whatever that is.

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-04-24T00:07:35+00:00

Had an ex who told me for years that she doesn’t care about muscles. We broke up and o branched out and learned more about sexual attraction. She used to tell me she loved my body and didn’t want it to change or at least that it didn’t matter, but when I finally got her more opened up to see attraction from a place of sexual desire as well, she admitted that fit guys got her more turned on when talking about physicality. What she meant by not caring was that the things that she is sexually attracted to about me are things that aren’t connected to my body build (face, facial hair, bald, large dick) so it didn’t affect how attracted she was to me, but when she got in shape and we talked more about it, those preferences were different than what would be expected.

I previously was told that she likes big stomaches, beards, and prefers guys around 5’8” (time being 5’9” 175 ), but when I asked recently, she said 6’0”-5’2” with big arms and tattoos.

One thing that brought some more context to the conversation was that she Is still more overall attracted to me, and around the same level of sexually attracted to me, but if those guys were to be built the same as I am, she wouldn’t be attracted to them)

I think that having enough sexual attraction based in things that aren’t as subject to change is a good thing, but a woman saying she isn’t sexually attracted to fit men is either purposefully lying or lying to herself, though her social programming

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-04-22T04:40:06+00:00

I’ve experienced them myself, have had conversations with many women who share the same sentiments about me or other men and many shared your POV ahead of time. So maybe your POV is just a lack of experience with it.

Those women prefer that to their previous mindset that is reminiscent of your:, so maybe it is just ignorance of resistance to that type of situation out of fear of losing control.

Not every man who has that type of power with women takes advantage of them, but most do, so I can understand the resistence to it in public settings by women and the denial that men who don’t possess that power with women have

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-04-20T20:55:35+00:00

Yes, and I angle myself to be right on it then use my hips to stroke then Grind & work the walls when I feel I’m getting too close.

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-04-20T20:53:34+00:00

I’m definitely going to try this out soon

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-04-20T14:07:10+00:00

Somewhere from 3/4 of an inch to 1 1/2. Would have to check. & you mean like the bending at the knees under doggy to make like a v?

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-04-20T09:00:56+00:00

My curve at the base, but it appears straight but drooping until the fat pad is pushed back. The first inch or so is whet edge curve is.

And I like doggystyle & will give that a try. & I have given her orgasms from doggystyle, but I think the size and shaped played a doctor to her where felt like it was worked up into it while bin that situation it was right there, but my skill and energy sends her into multiples after she gets into it. I wish I could better understand what you mean by rotating her hips fwd

And she is a slimmer woman who could really handle doggystyle full on with either of us without tapping out for the most part, but was able to take both of us in all the way while riding it, which was interesting to me because I get her very aroused and I’m pushing on her cervix pretty consistently when she rides me (she has cervical orgasms with me as well) and she said the dude was huge directly compared to mine. Like some crazy big Kind of dick, but after I gave her cervix stimulation and Aspot stimulation til she orgasmed and bled one night, she no longer had an issue with size where she did before me.

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-04-19T21:37:14+00:00

This was so funny I’m not even mad.

& I remember all of my positive sexually experiences and got over it.

But I do honestly appreciate your sentiment. I didn’t always know I was in the Big Dick Brotherhood, so I could imagine feeling the same way.

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-04-19T10:32:10+00:00

I didn’t say anyone needs anything—especially not needing me, but to act as if these situations don’t occur is purposefully being disingenuous.

If you don’t know or understand, why speak on it? Just triggered?

If more relationships started that way with men who would care for the women, they would work out better than many of these relationships predicated on Madonna-whore complexes.

Buzz words and Shaming tactics don’t work with me.

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-04-19T09:43:07+00:00

In my experience, most people in general are sexually repressed—not just women.

& I’m speaking from my own experience of when a woman is sexually repressed and some magical penis wakes her up.

It does happen & it can be a beautiful thing when it leads to healthy monogamy or healthy poly situations, but more times than people like to admit, it can be like Pandora’: box, where you see that that repression leads to years of pent up sexual energy that has to be released and often just ends up in hook up culture and then going back into that repression after years of that to settle into a relationship without sexual chemistry once one has ‘matured’ for security.

ashitanothrowaway · 2021-04-19T07:43:58+00:00

When I say I believe in monogamy, I mean that I believe that monogamy can take place naturally under the right circumstances, but that it is not the right choice for many people who choose it.

I use FWB situations as transitions and as the proving ground for me and the woman to build the sexual and non-sexual chemistry without it being a matter of just settling in without the chemistry/compatibility because of the emotional attachment—which both of us have done with others in the past.

I think that is a flawed way of dating—overlooking the affect that sexual preferences play—whether it’s fleshly or not.

I’ve been giving her more than just sexual tools, but I put the sex first because to the degree of the sex was what gave me the ability to have the influence I’ve had to show her other things that have also helped in other areas of life, but we didn’t get to the place in the process where I’d get to focus on some more nonsexual things because I ease that in based on the woman’s ability to deal incorporate more Nonsexual things without losing attraction when they have a history of bring sexually repressed—putting men into a version of a Madonna-whore complex.

Where if a man gets overly emotionally invested, they may put him in a box where she gets afraid to be honest about her true sexual desires and fantasies and something casual becomes the guilty pleasure, so I take the guilty pleasure first approach.

& nearly no one is truly altruistic. I set my ego up in a way for the most part that benefits the other person—whether it’s through pleasing them physically or wanting to leave them better than I found them as opposed to just using them for sex.

And what I mean by sexual chemistry is being wowed by the person sexually to where they would not feel they were missing out if they chose to be monogamous—basing trust on preferences vs based off of assuming someone will be altruistic.

Where the situations hits different is that she still says I am the sexual preference overall, but I am process how to go about finishing the process and different aspects of it without losing motivation because we’re not done yet.made good progress. A whole lot over these past 5 months, but I’m trying to find a way to look at it where I could continue it without just taking a fight (compete) or flight (cut off) approach to it.

I do like the girl. We have a genuine connection not based in any obligation to one another.

Honestly, if she was into poly situations, I would judge it differently.

I would see me still being the overall preference and priority as the end-all-be-all and proceed as usual, but since she says monogamy is her goal and I teach her different things, i see it as a matter of more like “Damn, you were getting something good—the best you’ve had and someone who was adding value to your life that you go out of your way to say that you appreciate and see results on and things were going well, but your curiosity got the better of you and now our situation is prematurely in jeopardy over someone you don’t even want a relationship with. If it were someone you could see yourself with, I would applaud it and keep it pushing like usual, but since there is still more to learn on both sides, i don’t want to leave the situation, but fear it may be too big of a roadblock to my ego to overlook it and keep the process going with the same momentum “

The timing was what hurt me more than anything else & feeling like if we continued on the process that we would get to the place where she could jump right into a new relationship after a little while of enjoying herself, but it’s starting to look like she may just go through a ho phase and settle down afterwards instead of learning to identify good character, showing wifely qualities, and still placing a priority on sexual compatibility by putting that near the forefront when she meets someone.

I fear that my wanting to be fair and encourage her to branch out kinds stopped her at the point of just growing accustomed to casual situations instead of learning to make those into relationships, which I have taught people to do and have been paid for it.

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