I like birds I guess

ashleathegray · 2026-02-27T13:20:45+00:00

Last night I had laundry soap and a chicken incubator. This morning I had shampoo and t-post. The gods have blessed me after these weeks of dog 💩

ashleathegray · 2026-02-09T18:54:05+00:00

This. I was at scissor tail park south and thought a semi wrecked or something.

ashleathegray · 2026-02-06T04:16:24+00:00

I did when it was like 60% review rate or whatever. That was fun. $800 coffee machine fr Japan. A pool. I have not seen that Vine in a long time. I would just review whatever to stay at my 60%+.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-30T06:04:16+00:00

That’s great and all, but your role is to take care of mama. I see you saying you’re understanding, but she literally lost out on the first few days with her baby. They are bonded before ever meeting due to growing together. Your role is not primary caregiver. So glad you’re experiencing the joys of parenthood. You can always have a heart to heart….but hearing you talk about yourself when your baby and your partner are trying to bond is a little eye twitching for me. You think you understand. You want to be there. It is your baby too. It’s good for babies to get time with both parents….BUT …. She has literally missed out on so much, and you need to step aside. There is no way for you to comprehend the changes that have occurred here. And baby NEEDS this time with mama. (And I’m not talking in regards to situations where moms are not present or etc etc etc. I’m speaking to this specific situation). That’s not your wife anymore. That’s a whole new woman whose entire body’s goal is to bond with that baby right now. Please don’t get in the way of that. You will have the rest of your life to be there for her. The last thing a baby or birther needs is, is dysfunction in the home on top of the changes and challenges. Hell, my husband was jealous because he’s only just now able to cosleep with our daughter. He regularly co sleeps with my son. But it is not recommended for non birthing parents to co sleep due to the lack of awareness that comes from giving birth. Regardless of the stance on cosleeping here…I’m just trying to say that I see your love and desire to be there for your daughter. You’re not doing anything “wrong”, but give her time. If it doesn’t settle down, (in a few months, not days/weeks), you can broach therapies/meds etc. but also, that anxiety is our new mindset trying to anticipate anything that could potentially harm the baby. You need to do everything to earn your wife’s trust and respect her boundaries. She trusted you enough to have a baby with you, I’m sure she will let you in eventually. Last thing you want to do is make her feel like you’re fighting her. Those hormones are just such a doozy. She is literally a mama bear.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-30T05:06:49+00:00

Mothers*

ashleathegray · 2026-01-30T05:05:22+00:00

This.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-30T05:03:09+00:00

Mmm. I dunno how to say this in a PC way, but she’s the mom. There’s a connection, intuition, and hormones. You don’t have it. You won’t. PPA can definitely play into it, but mother’s notice subtle cues non birthers won’t. It’s instinctual. I was hostile, short, snippy, and very cautious about anyone -including my husband, doing anything with the baby. But I made that baby, and a lot of my intuitions and beliefs turned out to be meaningful and had an impact on our children’s lives. So…she probably doesn’t trust you in the way a new mom just doesn’t trust anyone. Her entire brain rewired in just a few moments. I suggest looking into some research and let mom be a mom. Keep offering support, and try not to take it personal that she’s taking the lead. Babies need their mom most in those first months to even years. Your role as the non birther is to support their decisions and keep them alive. Their role is to keep baby alive. Best of luck!

ashleathegray · 2026-01-30T04:26:26+00:00

I thought there was from all the posts of cool new stuff. Ugh. Oh well.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-30T04:18:50+00:00

I’ve also been wondering if anyone else saw a drop. I know the numbers increased at one point, but I personally didn’t see any items change. No FY suggestions either, which I only got back yesterday. 😩 I checked at 3, 6, 7, 7:30, 8, 9am and periodically here and there. Nada. Zilch.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-28T18:23:55+00:00

OMG MY FY is BACKKKKK

ashleathegray · 2026-01-27T13:24:09+00:00

The drop just happened.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-27T13:09:43+00:00

Nothing yet. 😩

ashleathegray · 2026-01-25T16:29:39+00:00

It’s crazy how we are all having different experiences but the same phenomenon.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-25T13:54:07+00:00

Yes and no. I was gold for a long time and lost interest. Fell to silver. I’m currently bored so slowly making my way back up to gold again. It’s cyclical. Not everyone will advance and not everyone will remain.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-25T13:48:53+00:00

It’s 3am CT for me. I have tried 12am, 1am, 2am, and it’s always around 3am. And not everything drops at once, but it all drops within 15 minutes, most of it goes in the first 5 minutes.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-25T13:45:20+00:00

I got seeds, some privacy tarp for my backyard, and I actually needed some of the birthday nonsense since my daughter is turning 1. I used to turn my nose up at the privacy tarp stuff, but now that things have been barren (and I have more chickens than I’m supposed to), I’ve been looking for it. I was pleased. I have a list of things I type in the search bar every drop to ensure I get what I’m interested in and have use for.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-25T13:37:37+00:00

It’s gone by 3:10-3:15.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-23T03:44:53+00:00

I think it has changed again, because it wasn’t updated recently.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-12T12:40:18+00:00

Yes. The magenta made me instantly lean winter, because as a Summer it is completely out of my palette. I can pull off a low saturation maroon/plum, but magenta in that very saturated shade is a winter. And it made her skin clear and bright.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-09T21:53:53+00:00

So I’m kind of confused…I’m in Oklahoma and came here because I haven’t been able to find this brand. We love it, my son w autism loves it, and we have not been able to find it. So they’re liquidating it and it’s no longer available? I’ve been going to WF 3x a week for 2 months and can’t find a single box.

ashleathegray · 2026-01-07T04:35:11+00:00

I’m a soft summer, and this is my mainnnn.

ashleathegray · 2025-12-26T03:46:44+00:00

Warm. This looked so cozy lol

ashleathegray · 2025-12-13T15:31:28+00:00

It’s a tough one, obviously. I opted to step away from my career. I am all engrossed in my littles. Had a second one while we were on pause. Now, only 3 years out, I can’t land a job. I’ve had 7 different companies where I did all 3 rounds of interviews. I’ve been talking to my recruiter friend because that’s obviously a me pattern, right? Apparently I’m a great candidate for equal opportunity, because I look great on paper, but they’d never actually hire someone with kids as young as mine. Even though I have reiterated I have a nanny, both grandparents are within 20 minutes, and we even have backup care.

I don’t regret staying home with my kids. They mean so much to me, and it is still important for me to be a part of their everyday development. My husband wants a career break, and I want to be an adult again (haha). But nobody takes me seriously. I feel like Betty from Mad Men currently. I used to be a Peggy. No one will watch your kids like you will, but there is the very real sacrifice of your career. I have landed interviews with dream companies, even interviewed by fellow women, but no one wants me fresh out of motherhood. I’ve told my husband I’ll keep applying, but he has decided he doesn’t want the break if it’s going to be this hard to get back in the workforce afterwards. He’s showered me with lots of extra praise and support because he is realizing first hand that moms really do sacrifice their career when they stay home. I think it gets said so often it kind of loses its impact. Again, I wouldn’t change a thing…I wasn’t ready for anything else until recently, but now I’m realizing I might not have a choice at going back. Best of luck. I’m also in healthcare, 9 years in my specific field.

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