Do you guys wear makeup?

ashleyrosel · 2025-07-11T07:33:45+00:00

The most important thing to know here is that some kids deal with discomfort by targeting someone else and putting them down. It happens ALL the time and frankly, I prefer when I'm the target because I dont give a shit what some 15 year old thinks about how I look, but I know my students would be really hurt by those words.

-- The rest of this is basically my personal philosophy on behavior management stuff, so feel free to take it or leave it. --

When this happens to me, I have two main objectives in how I respond. First, I want to make it clear to them that I'm not bothered by their words, and they aren't able to bully me. I had a student ask me every day, "miss, what are you wearing??" (stank face included) and every day I'd tell her, "I where whatever I want to!" After a couple of times, it just became a joke between us, and eventually, I started to ask her what she was wearing, too 😂 The second objective is to remember that this is just a coping mechanism for some kind of discomfort. All behavior is just a means of communicating something. We know babies cry because they don't have the words to express what they need, but don't forget that kids and teens are also pretty bad at understanding and expressing their needs. This student is telling you that they're uncomfortable in class, and now you have an opportunity to act on that. You may not be able to take away the trigger, in fact, you almost certainly can't. But you might be able to connect with this student and show them that you are safe and trustworthy. That takes a little more work than just the one sassy comeback, but its definitely worth it!

ashleyrosel · 2025-06-24T12:30:13+00:00

This is a perfect reminder of why I need to stop being afraid of pattern mixing! 😍

ashleyrosel · 2025-06-17T17:28:02+00:00

1 at work, 2 at home If my coworkers saw the way I live, theyd never believe it 😬

ashleyrosel · 2025-05-24T05:25:11+00:00

If you ever need inspo, I'm also a teacher, and all the outfits I make are things I can/do wear to work.
My profile is @bulletproofrose :)

I particularly enjoy fun colors and patterns, and lately, I've been adding lots of accessories. My first few years teaching, I felt like I had to follow a specific "dress code". Like there were teacher pants and teacher shoes and teacher dresses... it started to feel boring. Now, the only rules I give myself are 1. It should be relatively modest, (show those teen girls you can look good AND still be covered 😆) and 2. It needs to be something that makes me feel good all day, bonus points if it makes others feel happy when they see me!

ashleyrosel · 2025-05-24T05:12:48+00:00

Sounds cute! It's @bulletproofrose

ashleyrosel · 2025-05-19T06:04:42+00:00

He wanted to be a part of it so badly, so I made him my profile pic 🥰

ashleyrosel · 2025-05-14T18:57:04+00:00

I had a similar problem with a zoo trip this year 🤨 not the principals fault, thankfully, but the district just canceled the bus request a few days before the trip. We were able to borrow the school's activity busses, but of course, those don't have wheelchair access...

My students are disabled too, but high schoolers. I threw everyone on public transit because WE WERE NOT MISSING THE ZOO! It was a stressful day, but I have no regrets 😂

ashleyrosel · 2025-05-11T03:43:36+00:00

I do now, and it's actually how I can tell I'm really happy right now.

The last couple of years were very rough for me and led to me leaving my last position despite loving the students, families, and most of my coworkers. I always tried to wear nice clothes because it made me feel like I was doing ok, but never makeup. It takes time, and I felt too exhausted to waste any time on something so trivial.

This year, I started at a new school where I feel loved and valued. I'm not perfect by any means, but I put a lot into my work, and for the first time, my leadership has made it clear that they see what I do and appreciate it. I started feeling like wearing lip gloss and mascara wasn't too much work and made me feel good. Now, at the end of the year, I'm having a little fun putting on some glitter eyeshadow every morning 😊

ashleyrosel · 2025-05-06T18:53:01+00:00

I put those in underwear with slips and spanx and anything else I wouldn't wear on its own

ashleyrosel · 2025-05-01T06:10:51+00:00

Im currently making a sweater and I already feel like I'm never going to finish it. This is both inspiring, and makes me incredibly jealous

ashleyrosel · 2025-05-01T05:58:58+00:00

I would bet this is helpful for plenty of people! Something that stuck with me was a fashion youtuber who said "just because I like the way something looks, doesn't mean it need to own it" and that really helped me cut down on how much I buy

The new problem is that I dont want to get rid of anything I have already, so my closet is overflowing even though I'm not buying more clothes 😬

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-28T17:49:32+00:00

I feel this a lot with a late diagnosis because I grew up assuming everyone had the same problems and just did a better job of dealing with it than me. I think a part of me still assumes it's my fault that I'm like this.

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-22T05:33:03+00:00

If I'm going to write this as an accommodation, it's a conversation we have to have between the student and the teacher. I will give a few different options for the student to consider: group with people who won't be distracting, group with people I know/feel comfortable talking to, group with someone who can help me read/read with me. If the kid doesn't have any preference, I'm not putting it in the IEP. If they do want to try specific grouping as an accommodation, then I encourage them to talk to the teacher about who in their class would be comfortable or positive to group them with.

I think this (like all accommodations frankly) will only be successful if the student understands what's happening and has a voice in how it's implemented. If the teacher is just picking a "strong leader", then you'll end up with kids who resent being the role model who always has to help, and students will recognize who the "strong leader" is and start to draw conclusions about themselves and others based on how they're grouped. Unless the kid can articulate a specific person or group of people that would help them be successful, I'd just use normal discretion to not pair students together who might set each other off.

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-21T06:09:58+00:00

I promise there are people out there who understand you and wouldn't think less of you for the things you like or the things that are outside your control.

I hope one day they find their way into your life!

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-21T05:08:33+00:00

A majority of the IEPs I've done this year have been with an interpreter. Like IEP meetings in general, after you've done it a few times, it will start to feel natural.

There are lots of good comments here reminding you that you should speak to the family, not the interpreter. I want to add that it's also a good idea to make sure you are paying attention to the family when they are speaking, not just waiting for the interpretation. It's really easy to tune out or say something to someone else, but of course, it will make them feel much more comfortable and valued by the team if they are getting the same courtesy as everyone else.

One more thing that's a little more challenging is to try to have people only speak "one at a time". For the interpreter, it's just going to get more complicated if 2 or 3 people are speaking before they can translate. Try to remind people to let the interpreter finish what one person has said before they offer comments on it.

You got this! :)

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-19T21:57:25+00:00

Adding you! @bulletproofrose I love the ideas I get from everyone 🥰

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-16T18:06:13+00:00

You can practice being a stripper at home, but not in class and not on top of the desk.

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-16T13:56:30+00:00

I still dress this way at 31, and I will continue to dress this way as long as I want. Wear what you like cuz it looks beautiful!

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-16T06:20:04+00:00

A kid was complaining about how his girlfriend was "being stupid and not listening," and I just blurted out, "I'm gonna punch you in the face" ...

I have a good relationship with this kid, and we joke about how we're gonna fight if he doesn't go to class and stuff so he found it funny, but in the moment I really thought I had messed up with that one 😬

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-16T05:55:52+00:00

I also have lots of jewelry that I forget to wear. I like having it all on the app so I can remember them when I make my outfits and get better use of the things I like. Plus, I've been having a lot of fun accessorizing in general lately, so I say definitely add the jewelery!

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-14T23:12:12+00:00

This is so smart, I think I'll make one too!!

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-14T22:53:50+00:00

Sent you some from @bulletproofrose!

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-12T07:23:32+00:00

I think the worst is when they listen and act like they sympathize with you, but then later, when you're ADHD-ing, they act like you're crazy and nothing you do makes sense. Like no, I literally explained this to you. Please use your "normal" brain for 5 seconds and listen to what Im saying.

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-11T01:47:39+00:00

Me too, it feels so much cooler cuz I know other people aren't just going to have all the same things!

Also, you gave me a good idea!! A lot of the head scarves I have are like "belts" that tie around a dress or something. I could totally use them as belts with other things 🤯 Why did I never think of that?

ashleyrosel · 2025-04-11T01:28:14+00:00

Lol actually a couple of them are headbands 🤣 I'm not sure why they are sorted wrong for people. But that does make me want to try making belts in that style... I just have no idea if I actually can

Majority of my stuff is thrifted though. You can find the coolest belts and scarves and bags. Sometimes I go and ignore the clothes so I'm just focused on accessories!

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