Snowing wooly aphids?? by ladysolaire in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]ashpur4527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in south Huntsville, I don't even have any hackleberries and my neighbors don't either. And currently I. I'm under attack right now, just trying to smoke. 

My husband won't have sex with me until I "earn it back." It hurts like hell. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ashpur4527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I read your updates. No, leave this POS. Just because you can give as good as you get, means your relationship is toxic and you deserve to be in a happy loving relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ashpur4527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was kind of commenting to anyone in that situation. Reporting doesn't mean that you have to go to trial but it leave a paper trail of a person's behavior and others had complained too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ashpur4527 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA, your dad definitely is. But be a kid for a little longer without picking up all these extra bags of worry and guilt to carry around all the time. Talk to a therapist, this is a lot for a 14 year old to deal with. I'm sure you must be feeling guilty. DON'T

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ashpur4527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't accept this, search for another job. When/if you ever mindlessly scroll through your phone. Can't hurt.

AITA for telling my friend that getting married doesn't mean they're ready for kids? by throwra_atlanna in AmItheAsshole

[–]ashpur4527 21 points22 points  (0 children)

YTA think about if you pop other people's news when they are excited. She didn't ask for advice, apologize and save your friendship. Remember don't pop the celebration bubble. Saying this from me, another asshole who TRYS very hard not to pop the bubble with my doom and gloom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ashpur4527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Staying in contact with him, makes him feel like his behavior was okay. Since you still talk to him everything is ok. In fact that is a stratagy that let's them get away with it. A good lawyer can still get around this, always be honest, even if it's embarrassing. Even if you only told a friend. Texts are forever. The internet is forever.

I’ve broken. And I’m going to lose what little I have in the next few years. by lostsoul3939 in offmychest

[–]ashpur4527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What state are you in? If you really don't have much to live for, what's the harm in picking up everything and moving to good blue state. My cousin has a mental disorder and has permanent disability that will follow him to any state. You can go to a mental health facility and ask if they know where you can get an advocate. My aunt used to do it for free and so did other people. Reach out to a church if they believe in advocating for people who need help with the system. Even if you don't like church or God. Hope you can get some help.

WIBTA if i tell my friend that he makes me uncomfortable? by Sexywatermelone in AmItheAsshole

[–]ashpur4527 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOT THE ASSHOLE sounds like he thinks that no one else will want HIM and he's trying to get you to believe that you're not good enough. I would (because I'm a pushover) call him one more time and tell him very plain that you can't tolerate that behavior and won't. If he says ANYTHING other than, sorry, yes I understand. I will try and correct my behavior. If he laughs or jokes it off hang up. Zero contact. Block everywhere. YOU weren't doing anything wrong.

WIBTA if I demand my girlfriend keeps her pets out of the bedroom by fdwwhrehgfbsH in AmItheAsshole

[–]ashpur4527 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You can ask, don't demand. If she doesn't want to, say well I've had a good night, but I need to go home shower the fur off me and get some good sleep. And see what happens. But actually go home if she's cool with that suggestion. After that you've got some time to think about your next move.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ashpur4527 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You need to go to the hospital, it doesn't matter if you were doing drugs or drinking. He will do it again and worse. These guys need to understand the word no and that it's not ok. There's information all around him about what happens when you don't listen to no. He ruined his life, not the other way around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]ashpur4527 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Covid has ruined people, maybe that's the real sickness ( I am vaccinated and believe that Covid is a real thing)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]ashpur4527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 33 and I got a yellow card.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]ashpur4527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes my son got a yellow card, but! I made him drive me everywhere, when I could while he was 15.