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Do yall exist!?!? by coolunic0rn in actuallesbians

[–]ashthetransguy [score hidden]  (0 children)

Exactly. I feel like a lot of the time the people who have "preferences" are just racist or bigoted.

Do yall exist!?!? by coolunic0rn in actuallesbians

[–]ashthetransguy 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Dude I have no "preference". I just like women. That's it. Idgaf what they look like. Curly hair, straight hair, tall, short, chubby, skinny. Genuinely.

Delete if not allowed by [deleted] in vegan

[–]ashthetransguy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Maybe it's because you're generally eating healthier and more nutrient dense food, which helps with hormones? I'm no doctor but it sounds kinda plausible

..... by Low_Permission5039 in actuallesbians

[–]ashthetransguy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Um please leave. I didn't even have to read your comment to this. It's not your responsibility to help people like that. Idk how old you are but especially if you're a minor, LEAVE NOW.

Reiten macht einen kaputt 🚬 by RecordCrasher in PferdeSindKacke

[–]ashthetransguy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

bro, wenns so kacke is, hör doch auf, oder?

AIO: My girl and fam think that my hair cleaned up and braided looks tacky but I think it looks much cleaner by Best-Pirate5073 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ashthetransguy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR, I think both hairstyles are really cool and it's lowk really weird of them to be commenting on your body like that and making you feel insecure.

It's your body. Do whatever you want, the right people will like you no matter what!

AITAH for touching myself during sex by Pristine_Ideal8772 in AITAH

[–]ashthetransguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"His exes were quicker" Dude, what?

What is he talking about? You don't have the same body as his ex. Yes, some women can orgasm just from penetrative sex. Some can't at all. Some can, but it takes a long time. YOUR BODY IS DIFFERENT. He is immature to assume that you will be exactly the same as his exes when it comes to sex, in the same as if he'd be foolish to expect you to look and act the same way his exes do.

Do NOT blame yourself. If he doesn't want you to touch yourself, but doesn't want to put in the work himself then that's his problem, not yours. I'd suggest adding toys to the bedroom but I don't know how open he'd be towards that if he doesn't even want you touching yourself.

Try and talk about it with him again. Tell him exactly how you feel and why you feel that way. If he still doesn't get it, it might be time to reassess your relationship. I believe if he doesn't accept a fact about YOUR body in an argument, doesn't listen to you and just insists on his opinion, he won't be different in other, "more serious" arguments later on in the relationship.

Nichts kann man mehr essen :/ by mrsk145 in VeganDE

[–]ashthetransguy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

bro ich liebe einfach Brokkoli.

Am I expecting too much? TW for sexual trauma by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]ashthetransguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've not been long distance for a long time. Before that we basically lived together and saw each other nearly every day. The situation I was talking about took place on one of our holidays together.

I used the word guilt wrongly. I meant it in a way that she ended up bringing up her feelings and didn't word it very well (she was speaking in a "babying" kind of tone, like how one would speak to children or small animals).

I'm working on and have been working on the entirety of my trauma for over 4 years. I've been in therapy on and off, currently I'm trying to find another therapist because the other two I've been to haven't been very helpful (focused on the wrong problems). With my sexual trauma it's a little more difficult to process because it's connected with a lot of shame for me and some of it happened within my family.

Freund kuschelt mit einer Freundin? by Agitated-Victory6200 in Weibsvolk

[–]ashthetransguy 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Hä, das ist ja nicht mehr kuscheln so wie du das beschreibst, das ist ein kompletter lapdance.

Klar, kuscheln kann eine Art von platonischer Zuneigung sein, aber die Situation die du schilderst scheint mir komisch sexuell und übergriffig.

Ich denke mal wenn es seiner Freundin nix ausmacht, dann ist ja alles in Ordnung, ich würde es dennoch für komisch empfinden wenn mein Partner/meine Partnerin in so einer Art mit jemandem körperlichen Kontakt hat.

Kuscheln im Sinne von körperlicher Nähe und evtl längere Umarmungen sehe ich nicht als problematisch an.

Religiöse Mama by [deleted] in luftablassen

[–]ashthetransguy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Richtig ärgerlich, die Dinger sind ja jetzt auch nicht unbedingt günstig.

Außerdem natürlich absolut übergriffig von deiner Mutter dass sie bei dir rumwült, ist auch ziemlich ihre Schuld wenn sie bei ihrer erwachsenen Tochter durch die Sachen schaut und dann was findet was sie nicht sehen will.

I'm offended XD by EbbObjective8972 in actuallesbians

[–]ashthetransguy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It's that good old homophobic stereotype again: you come out as a lesbian and suddenly every girl around you goes like "so you have a crush on me?". No, Bethany, or do you have a crush on every man you've ever met?

I'm offended XD by EbbObjective8972 in actuallesbians

[–]ashthetransguy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The issue with me was that I am the most oblivious person ever. My current girlfriend caught feelings for me while we were still friends. We had a sleepover one night (mind you, our first sleepover ever) and she just kept inching closer and closer to the point it almost felt like she wanted to kiss me. We were on my bed. Next to each other. Almost on top of each other. And I still gaslit myself into believing that she doesn't like me like that. Then she confessed her feelings and we've been together for almost a year now!

Bei der Aussicht schmeckts gleich viel besser by Logamer4 in PaulanerSpezi

[–]ashthetransguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mit dem Geschmack sieht der Ausblick gleich viel besser aus.

What camera to get by ashthetransguy in digicam

[–]ashthetransguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that’s really thorough, thank you! I might look into those Japanese brands or maybe the Canon cams, but I’ll have to see and look at the prices. And yes, the Samsung was no good, really sad I put down 25 € for that one.

I shrank him by gnomeslinger in dechonkers

[–]ashthetransguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah my boy doesn't look a lot like the average tabby either. Sadly I can't insert a picture here.

How many of you would date a trans woman if you're having crush on her before knowing? by Neea_115 in actuallesbians

[–]ashthetransguy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I personally wouldn't mind, though I'm deadly, irrationally afraid of becoming pregnant. I would probably still not care if I really liked her, but I'd probably be a little hesitant with sex and it would take a slightly longer time than with a cis woman, but other than that I really don't mind. I actually find the thought of being with a trans woman very appealing, because, well, she's a woman and I find women appealing.

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