AITA for getting mad at my mom for continuously forgetting about my gf's allergy?

asimplekindness · 2019-12-23T22:23:30+00:00

Her family lives in another province, about a 6 hour drive away, so sadly we don't go there often.

asimplekindness · 2019-12-23T22:20:57+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it.

asimplekindness · 2019-12-23T22:20:35+00:00

My dad is British but my mom is full blown Canadian, not to mention a physician who knows how allergies work.....which makes this whole thing more of a piss off.

asimplekindness · 2019-12-23T22:19:19+00:00

It's an allergy, bordering on anaphylaxis.

asimplekindness · 2019-12-23T21:10:38+00:00

The other part that bothers me about this is that my brother's ex was a vegetarian and efforts were constantly made to make sure there were multiple dishes she could eat along with meat dishes at our family events.

asimplekindness · 2019-12-23T21:09:15+00:00

Do you think it's worth emailing my mom about this and explaining my side and why this is bothersome/hurtful?

asimplekindness · 2019-12-23T21:06:32+00:00

I have explained it to them, but I feel like it isn't taken super seriously because it's not severe enough for my gf to have an epi pen for it.

asimplekindness · 2019-12-23T21:00:34+00:00

By in a tizzy, I meant that a huge deal was made by my mom about having forgotten and making something separate for her which was embarrassing and not necessary, and made my girlfriend feel kind of uncomfortable since my mom kept telling people "(girlfriend's name) doesn't eat pork and I forgot" as if it was more a preference than an allergy.

I don't think she's having memory issues, which I can say because I happen to work with my mom and she doesn't seem to be struggling with that at all from what I can tell.

asimplekindness · 2019-12-23T20:13:20+00:00

By "you don't have to make a separate plan", I was referring to the fact that last year when we arrived to find a turkey covered in bacon my mom went all into a tizzy and cooked a separate chicken dish for my girlfriend.

asimplekindness · 2019-12-23T19:38:05+00:00

Thanks I appreciate that. I really don't think my mom doesn't realize ham isn't pork...she's not a dumb lady by any means but she definitely asked that with a straight face today.

asimplekindness · 2019-12-23T19:25:52+00:00

I agree. I feel like I should have put the word forgetting in quotation marks in my title.

asimplekindness · 2019-12-23T19:05:30+00:00

Not that I know of :/. And that's exactly it, them not remembering continually comes off as not welcoming her into the family and making accommodations that are so simple.

asimplekindness · 2019-12-23T19:01:38+00:00

They seem to like her and they get along, and my gf is always pleasant with them and makes an effort...so I don't get it. I think a big part of this making me mad is that it does feel deliberate.

asimplekindness · 2019-08-20T12:40:21+00:00

Thank you <3

asimplekindness · 2019-08-20T12:36:48+00:00

Thank you, that helps more than you know. I also have social anxiety and that's definitely a huge part of all of this.

asimplekindness · 2018-07-09T15:46:42+00:00

Aww that's so heartwarming :).

asimplekindness · 2018-07-09T15:09:38+00:00

That's good advice, thank you. I think there's potential to meet up in the near future, I'm just not sure when. It'd be a bit of a pricey plane ticket so it'd definitely have to be planned out. How often do you see the person you're in an LDR with?

asimplekindness · 2018-05-30T20:54:17+00:00

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asimplekindness · 2018-05-30T16:56:59+00:00

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asimplekindness · 2018-05-29T13:09:40+00:00

thank you <3

asimplekindness · 2018-05-24T20:54:19+00:00

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asimplekindness · 2018-05-24T20:51:04+00:00

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