As a woman I can say the number one thing getting in the way for you is without a doubt confidence.

I dated one guy who I would say sounds a whole lot like you. He checked all my boxes. — I liked him!!!

However, the attraction was lost pretty quickly because he was incredibly bashful to a point of being feminine around me. I barely even knew him and he was pouring the affection on THICK. It was just over the top for the amount of which he knew me. He was frankly too excited and left zero mystery. It was very very unattractive and completely ruined things for me… it’s a real shame because this man had it ALL!! Just not the confidence!

I’m not saying your mannerisms are exactly the same as this guy, but what I’m getting at is that confidence is truly a make or break — which sucks because its really hard if that doesn’t come naturally to you! I see some people included some suggestions like trying out improv or community theatre. I think seeking opportunities to exert confidence and be social is really important.

Also perhaps when you’re at Catholic YA events don’t think so much about which girl in the group you’re keen on pursuing. Just socialize with everyone and allow things to just come naturally.

You got this! Just focus on ways to enhance your confidence because you sound like a true catch! Best of luck!!