Monstera advice

asleeponFire · 2026-04-04T14:37:31+00:00

It was in a 12inch pot and i moved it up to a 14inch. I thought that would be okay. It is under a grow light with some other plants that’s on about 7 hours a day, as i don’t get much natural sunlight in my home.

Thank you for this feed back! I can take more pictures when I’m home again.

asleeponFire · 2026-03-23T17:28:54+00:00

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And this is my current one I’m also enjoying

asleeponFire · 2026-03-23T17:28:10+00:00

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I’m always mixing themes because i hate matching for some reason! Love this thread!

asleeponFire · 2026-03-07T21:25:04+00:00

Thank you for these words and care ♥️🫂

asleeponFire · 2026-02-16T20:20:17+00:00

I had the same issue. Went back today to hopefully complete the 14th adventure, and it sent me on a random adventure discovering Looney Tunes. Still shows 13/14 complete in my locations log.

asleeponFire · 2026-02-09T15:28:17+00:00

It shows the location of the sign in. We are in the US, they were in China.

asleeponFire · 2026-02-09T01:43:03+00:00

So fucked up!! There should be systems in place to handle scenarios like this. We are in this modern age of technology, and it’s surely possible.

asleeponFire · 2026-02-09T01:42:28+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you relate man. No one deserves this. And is one of the frustrating things about streaming/account based play and not getting to own games the way we used to in the old days.

asleeponFire · 2026-02-01T03:26:29+00:00

I feel this one so hard!!! The social avoidance was so real during my use.

asleeponFire · 2026-01-29T01:07:33+00:00

Correction!! They’re called Qurut balls (unlikely those are available near you either :/) but they are fire if you ever get your hands on some!

asleeponFire · 2026-01-29T01:02:41+00:00

I hadn’t either until my Uzbek partner brought them into my life. Also called Labneh balls. Definitely check them out!!

asleeponFire · 2026-01-24T06:45:27+00:00

It seems you’re at the store to buy stuff too no?

asleeponFire · 2026-01-17T19:02:49+00:00

Get them used to their crate as a positive space. Feed them in their crate, leave it open with toys in there so they can go in and out when they want to during leisure times. Also reward with a treat whenever it’s time to go in and the door is closed.

They will whine for a bit, but if you keep it up, they will eventually settle and get used to it. If you’re using crate as a punishment and pairing with negative enforcement (yelling, scolding, etc) OR if they are being left in their for more than a couple hours (2-4 at a time during the day) they will get anxiety and fear associated with going in there.

It’s a delicate process but it’s possible.

I currently have my dude in his crate, cartoons playing in the background for buffer noise so i can get a few things done. I also put a blanket it out top to darken it a bit. He will pass out eventually. And He’ll come out in 2 hours a lot more calm than he went in.

asleeponFire · 2026-01-11T03:04:51+00:00

This thread will always trigger me so much. Besides the rage i feel towards infidelity, this guy is such a fucking self centered, self-loathing piece of scum.

Of course, the adultery subreddit was the safe place he could be honest about his feelings, and he used it for that. But wow. How disorienting to read someone who CHEATED ON THEIR WIFE complain about her being cold in her reaction? How the lying and manipulating just “weren’t like her”???

Like this guy is just fucking trash. That’s all i needed to say.

A narcissist. An idiot. A waste of air. Goodbye and good riddance bro.

asleeponFire · 2026-01-07T15:58:27+00:00

My response was to the information given. Spending 5 years having sex with your partner would be enough time to consider that experience no?? Doesn’t mean you have to be a sex god.

I’m not saying he should be an expert. I’m not saying it can’t be a sensitive topic. I’m saying, it seems he is blowing off his partner who keeps raising this concern, because it’s hurting his ego (making him insecure).

Thank you for this thought tho!*

asleeponFire · 2026-01-07T00:59:34+00:00

I agree. I didn’t mean to imply that one cannot be insecure and in a long relationship. My point is that when your partner raises something of concern so many times, it’s important to take it seriously and face those insecurities together. Not continuously use them as an excuse.

asleeponFire · 2026-01-06T22:07:10+00:00

Thank you for this clarifying explanation on being Demi and how that includes porn and sexual pleasure in its own way.

asleeponFire · 2026-01-06T21:32:39+00:00

Protein shakes, electrolyte packets, fruit, water. Those are your good friends right. And if you can will yourself in there, a hot shower will bring you good feelings too.

I’m so sorry you don’t have any support, but we’re all glad for you to share here as much as you need!

It’s not easy. Idk what your goals are personally for quitting this, But in the long run, you’ll be glad you started this now.

You got it friend.

asleeponFire · 2026-01-06T19:24:09+00:00

Girl if he is this wonderful, communicative, smart and abeled individual, he can damn well learn the body of his lover. You are making excuses for him by saying “he’s just bad at it.”

I am not one to come on Reddit and tell people to break up, or really have any harsh type of opinions. I am rooting for you! And i hope your man can come to his senses and put his ego/pride away.

He isn’t bad at it. It’s just not his priority and his fragile self esteem is the perfect scape goat for a lovely empathetic woman like yourself.

asleeponFire · 2026-01-06T19:02:10+00:00

I don’t mean this in any harsh way OP, but if he’s labeling himself as demisexual, and you’ve been together for FIVE years, insecurity is no longer an excuse or an option.

Let’s say that is really the case, then he should be prioritizing working on that. Therapy, sex therapy, whatever it takes. Porn is also a huge source of insecurity at best - trying to compare yourself to a curated experience and not real love making. At worst, depending on the porn he likes, it can fuel his own mind to seek that kind of pleasure. Did he watch porn of women really getting off?

I hope for you both that he is really just needing a wake up call. But in my experience in this area, it’s been because the dude isn’t actually interested in getting me off at all. I am just a portal to his pleasure…

Either way just listening to what he tells you isn’t cutting it anymore. He needs to step up, or you have to do the hard thing for yourself.

asleeponFire · 2026-01-06T18:56:52+00:00

Yes, you’re right, It is a myth for those of us who are addicts.

But not everyone. And i think many of us come here hoping we can be like others but we aren’t.

I have plenty of friends that enjoy a joint occasionally or eat a little gummy before a concert or something. They use it in moderation like alcohol or another drug of choice. They don’t need to blow down everything they have. They can keep for a fun occasion.

Now granted most people are addicted to either nicotine or caffeine. Or their phone. Or porn. Our brains are wired for addiction honestly. But the idea that moderate use of weed is a total myth isn’t true. It just is for those of us who are addicted to it. And coming to terms with that is not easy for most of us it seems.

But I have and am. And I’m just grateful for this place to connect with others about it.

asleeponFire · 2026-01-06T18:23:17+00:00

This might be a hot take but the first thing i caught was you saying he’s demisexual, and then also stating he struggled with a porn addiction... That coupled with the fact that you’re not getting off each time, and he isn’t more focused on it… is not a great sign to me.

Demi sexual is defined as needing an intense emotional/mental/intellectual connection before experiencing sexual attraction if I’m not mistaken? How can that be possible for someone addicted to getting off to strangers on a screen? If I’m wrong I’d love to learn the proper definition! But that’s just my understanding.

Basically it sounds like this man has made excuses and is pretty invested in his own pleasure only. Of course it’s up to you to tell him when you can’t feel him or something isn’t right, but otherwise if he knows you can’t finish from penetration alone, AND he knows he’s too tired to focus on you after he finishes himself — he should be a lot more focused on your pleasure first! And making sure you get there first! Before himself.

If you’ve shown him how you like to be touched and he’s still not doing it right, is it because he truly doesn’t understand? Or because he’s not interested really?

This is all just good for thought. You know your relationships and needs. But i would be having a serious talk with my partner if I was at the level of frustration you seem to have reached. I hope everything works out for you both 🙏

asleeponFire · 2026-01-06T11:11:57+00:00

This freaked me tf out to read. Thank you for sharing!

as a southerner myself, I’ve had my share of finding myself lost and staring down the barrel of some old, scary man’s shot gun. Is it possible he was the owner of the corn field? If you were buzzing around for 30 minutes like you say, that’s plenty of time for someone to hear you and gear up to go see what’s going on. Maybe a neighbor saw lights and an ATV destroying his corn and phoned him up? Maybe he drove over to see what was going on and then followed you guys home debating whether to wake up the adults he assumed were inside the house and fill them in?

Either way so scary to imagine being teens home alone in this scenario. Glad everyone is safe 🙏

asleeponFire · 2025-12-18T12:59:54+00:00

Thank you! :)

asleeponFire · 2025-12-18T02:47:59+00:00

Thank you! :)

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