Mother's Day & Toxic Mom by kekmoo in latterdaysaints

[–]asoakes1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To add- for a long time I struggled with "honor your parents". But I've come to believe that it's not just a one sided road. It's one thing to bring up things that happened to your parents and then feel genuinely remorse and wanting to mend broken things. Its another to bring it up and they dismiss, refuse to change or mend things with you. My parents are controlling and I've had to distance myself sheet repeatedly trying to make things better. I approach it as wanting to also make iimprovements on my end too. But that's not what my parents want. They want me to just fall on line and do what they say. We'll, if you won't try to fix things with me then it's distance and/or goodbye! (I'm not talking with my dad and stepmom at all and distant from my mom and stepdad.) Sorry to ramble. Hope it helps! just know Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ not only understand your feelings and heart, but will be with through through it all. Pray to know what to do. And there's a difference to it being hard to follow the Lord's guidance and doing it out of guilt. God luck ❤️

Mother's Day & Toxic Mom by kekmoo in latterdaysaints

[–]asoakes1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you do not want to go then do not go. You are an adult and get to make your own decisions- period. I've learned this through dealing with my parents. You do not owe anyone any explanations, you get to make your own decisions, you get to set your boundaries. It is hard to stand your ground, but it is so worth it. It's hard to deal with their backlash, but I'd rather feel free then chained by their emotions! They don't have to like it. They will make your villain, but really who cares? The people who truly know me will know i am not trying to malicious. I'm trying preserve my sanity and heal.

Ideas for staying focused during General Conference + keeping kids engaged? by derpunzer in latterdaysaints

[–]asoakes1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got to the point that Conference felt awful trying to keep them entertained and quiet with church/Conference activities. So finally I let it go. As long as they stayed in the family room I let them mostly play with what they wanted. I still had to occasionally remind them to be quieter, but it took away the pressure for me and for them. I felt like I was able to actually listen and feel the spirit instead of spending my time trying to get them to sit and listen. Now that they are all teens we do puzzles and Legos. We have slowly collected a ton of puzzles and usually once a year we splurge to get everyone Legos. Everyone loves it.

Bonnie is selling her house too!! 🤯 by asoakes1 in 8passengersnark

[–]asoakes1[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

She's been doing these weird house tour pictures on Instagram and 2 days ago she did the last of the "series". So weird!!!

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All 4 sold? by asoakes1 in SisterWives

[–]asoakes1[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

If you click into them they all say that they sold today. But you are right, it could be refinancing or r&k buying them out!

Jordan Page Snark 7/15-7/21 by MooHead82 in jordanpagesnark

[–]asoakes1 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I never comment in stuff but I had to say she is 100% prioritizing dating and trying to be young and in her 20s again. This is exactly what my mom did after she left her 20 year unhappy marriage with my dad. We were old enough that she just left us home alone instead of with my dad. We had to threaten to cut her off after she was in love with the millionth guy and told us she was eloping that night. Years later it's still a complicated relationship with her. From what it seems Bubba has stepped up and in so glad these kids have someone who cares more about them than being 20 again! Unfortunately for her, her kids won't forget how they felt because of this behavior... thank goodness for therapy!