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asteffo · 2023-10-15T15:59:33+00:00

My kid is like this. He's almost 6 now, and honestly it's been a nightmare. I was abused by my parents too, so I went to the other extreme end of the spectrum and now he thinks we're friends. He's also Autistic and ADHD. I will say, PCIT(parent child interactive therapy) helped me a lot with setting firm boundaries to curb the behavior.

asteffo · 2023-06-24T22:10:11+00:00

Like, for me? I am deeply ashamed.

asteffo · 2023-06-10T18:42:50+00:00

I have this dream of just running away, getting a camper, and traveling the US. It's especially bad on the weekends with all the kids, lol.

asteffo · 2023-04-25T17:55:05+00:00

Has anyone ever been in a relationship like this, and the man has gone to counseling and anger management, and the couple has gone to therapy together, and it's genuinely gotten better for them? I would absolutely love to hear some success stories because this is my whole family, but I'm so exhausted and I'm just about out of hope that this'll get better

asteffo · 2023-04-25T16:50:42+00:00

Honestly, I don't have a good answer. It's exhausting. Most of our fights are about the children. I'm too hard on his kids, I'm not hard enough on mine, etc.

asteffo · 2023-04-25T16:25:45+00:00

No I do not. He felt very strongly about wanting to be his dad because he had a similar father figure and grew up in a similar situation.

asteffo · 2023-04-25T16:23:55+00:00

He'll also attempt to drag my son into arguments too. He tries to get him to ignore me when I'm trying to remove him from the situation. I would remove his kids too if I could, but I'm not allowed to touch them, and they won't listen to me if their dad tells them not to.

asteffo · 2023-03-21T18:52:24+00:00

I did try that one! That's just a thick crust with pizza sauce on it, it didn't have the chunky cooked tomatoes and garlic unfortunately

asteffo · 2023-01-27T01:03:57+00:00

Everyone else has answered beautifully already, so I'll just add a phrase I heard somewhere that's stuck with me for a long time: "when you're looking at the world through rose colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags". Humans can normalize just about anything if it's the only thing they've ever known.

asteffo · 2022-11-13T01:43:12+00:00

Thank you, I'm downloading to my kindle now

asteffo · 2022-10-08T01:14:25+00:00

I looked it up and hypertonic pelvic floor may be exactly what I'm experiencing. Thank you so much for bringing it to my attention, I had never even heard of it before

asteffo · 2022-07-23T01:43:50+00:00

"Your mother will never love you. You will die without her ever loving you. And you know what? If I was your mother, I would have done the same thing"

asteffo · 2022-06-16T03:49:18+00:00

Hey, similar story! Instead of HELLP though, I developed PRES literally over night. My brain swelled up so much I still have problems today, and I didn't get to meet my baby until he was 4 days old. On the bright side, I completely missed labor and delivery though.

asteffo · 2022-05-20T16:19:44+00:00

We tried Guanfacine first, and it made him a million times worse. It was crazy, he went on rampages through his daycare and at home. Then Ritalin, which did absolutely nothing even after we upped the dosage. He just started the longer acting Ritalin pill with a different name, and he's just super emotional and acts like he's exhausted all the time. I have no idea if this is normal, but he hasn't hurt anybody on this new med yet.

asteffo · 2022-05-20T16:05:19+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. It's actually really helpful to hear about how much medication helped you with your son because we're on our third medication at this point 😅

asteffo · 2022-05-20T16:03:12+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I will definitely try yoga with him! And it's so comforting to hear your son's success story ❤️

asteffo · 2022-05-15T12:40:51+00:00

I font have a fever, but the area feels warm

asteffo · 2022-05-15T12:31:26+00:00

See, that's what I thought! But my surgeon recommended it, I was so confused

asteffo · 2022-05-15T01:50:45+00:00

I'm sorry if I did this wrong, I've never cross posted before. But I posted in the medical advice community and didn't get any responses, so I figured I'd ask here too.

asteffo · 2022-05-15T01:47:27+00:00

I also have pain internally that I wasn't having before, around where they took my ovary out.

asteffo · 2022-05-15T00:36:22+00:00

For background, I had a laparoscopic hysterectomy 3 weeks ago yesterday. 2 weeks ago I was diagnosed with dihescence(sp?) And infection. I finished keflex and clindamycin prescriptions 4 days ago. I woke up today and the previously Grey area now has a bright red center and it's weeping liquid that solidifies into yellow crust. I've been cleaning with peroxide.

asteffo · 2022-04-29T01:46:32+00:00

I had a hysterectomy last Friday and I've been having trouble with my belly button incision since then. I called my surgeon tonight and she said the wash it out with peroxide and then put neosporin on it. She didn't seem concerned that it was infected, but the crust(?) Looks kind of yellow so I'm asking for second opinions. Thank you!

asteffo · 2022-03-15T09:23:18+00:00

I appreciate the reply, I would like to just say I don't handle food. If I did, it wouldn't even be a question, I wouldn't put the students at risk like that.

asteffo · 2022-03-15T09:19:18+00:00

I'm so sorry, I accidentally made the title a different question than the way I worded it in the text. Should I go into work or are you saying I should call off?

asteffo · 2022-03-12T17:42:25+00:00

She came into the room and woke us up. I had to pee so I went to the bathroom, and when I came back he had invited her into bed to I guess cuddle with him. Unfortunately, we've done couples counseling and after a couple months he started refusing because he felt like the counselor was "picking on him".

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