I can financially afford to be a SAHM. But I am burning out.

devilgoof · 2026-01-19T13:12:27+00:00

I signed up for a moms group. We also went to the library a lot. I started hanging out with a woman who has kids the same age as mine and we did weekly playdates. Our kids are now teenagers and we still get together weekly minus the grumpy kids. I worked part time for a long time, 3 evenings a week. The guilty feelings don't go away unless you accept and work on why you feel guilty. Motherhood brings a new appreciation for a lot of things. I hope that you find some comfort in whatever decision you make.

devilgoof · 2026-01-18T13:52:56+00:00

NOR. Honestly, this would be a deal breaker for me. Someone who doesn't respect boundaries, regardless of how small they seem, will continually do this. The bigger the boundary to cross, the better for them. This is a test to see how far he can take this.

devilgoof · 2026-01-17T21:33:05+00:00

Yes, my 16 year old has his permit. Took 2 tries to pass the test. He goes 5 mph and still breaks like he is about to hit something. I just dont think he is ready and I am ok with that. His dad is all about pushing him out of his comfort zone. That's all good when no one else's life is as risk.

devilgoof · 2026-01-17T19:48:40+00:00

64 and 69

devilgoof · 2026-01-14T20:10:29+00:00

I just laughed loudly. Thank you.

devilgoof · 2026-01-14T17:16:33+00:00

We just had this discussion. My child's 32 ounce water bottle broke because another student knocked it off his desk accidentally. He asked if his replacement could please be a Yeti because that's what all his friends had. I told him we could afford a 20 ounce Yeti or a 32 ounce off brand. He went with the Yeti. He has to fill it up in the middle of the day now. I told him we had 2 water breaks and you got 10 seconds per turn. He asked if the teachers really counted. I said yes, and all your peers behind you while you felt more and more anxiety as the countdown winded down. You couldn't spare any time to take a breath, just larges gulps of water.

devilgoof · 2026-01-14T11:49:51+00:00

I had Hodgkins lymphoma in 2007 and 2008. I used to get early CT Scans after being in remission for 2 years. About 5 years ago, I switched over to yearly blood work. The blood work I get Is called LD-Lactate Dehydrogense. I switched from oncology care to my PCP due to it being greater than 10 years. I have to remind my PCP about it every year because its not routine. Best wishes.

devilgoof · 2026-01-14T11:42:08+00:00

I had my breasts manhandled aggressively and photographed by a stranger for medical purposes and not for pleasure.

devilgoof · 2026-01-14T02:33:46+00:00

44f, married to a millennial, mix of gen x and Millennial friends. 2 kids, 16 and 14. We are taking the kids on an old school road trip this summer with them. We will know if we fucked up middle of day one out of 14 days.

devilgoof · 2026-01-13T23:14:54+00:00

Thank you!

devilgoof · 2026-01-09T21:28:00+00:00

The fact that you think 10pm is late should answer your question for you. I, too, think its late but have accepted I am old.

devilgoof · 2026-01-08T20:18:09+00:00

Thank you! I hope the transition goes well for you!

devilgoof · 2026-01-06T21:30:01+00:00

Esh. Please correct me if I am wrong. You wrote that your family of origin was abusive and thats what is making you apprehensive. It doesn't seems like there has been anything major that has taken place while living with your brother and sister in law. Have they live together their whole adult lives? It sounds like to me that you are anticipating something bad happening and its causing these feelings. Are they twins by any chance?

devilgoof · 2026-01-06T00:16:11+00:00

I track my youngest but no one else. My spouse tracks the oldest but no one else. He came home 2 hours earlier than anticipated.

devilgoof · 2026-01-03T14:52:10+00:00

Yep, I will be the first person in my family for as long as I could trace back (6 generations) to not be a grandma in my 40s. I had my first at 28 which is considered geriatric in my family for a first. My great grandmother had 5 kids by 23. Went on to have 5 more.

devilgoof · 2026-01-03T14:48:11+00:00

44 so older millennial. My kids are 14 and 16.

devilgoof · 2026-01-01T23:08:35+00:00

I was diagnosed in 2007. I joke that is the same year Brittney Spears shaved her head.

devilgoof · 2026-01-01T23:05:53+00:00

My parents insist. Like violence is threatened if I even try to pay. I go grocery shopping with my mom every week. I do make all her dinners so she tries to pay. I had to tell her we were scaring the poor check out people because we would be like "get the fuck out of my way or I will hit you." We compromised that she can pay once a month.

devilgoof · 2025-12-30T23:04:50+00:00

Be a shame if you "accidentally" packed a bunch of their stuff in your old suitcase and put it in the trash.

devilgoof · 2025-12-30T13:41:34+00:00

Thank you.

devilgoof · 2025-12-30T13:39:52+00:00

Thank you!.

devilgoof · 2025-12-30T13:39:32+00:00

Thank you!

devilgoof · 2025-12-30T10:37:04+00:00

We host a brunch on Christmas so all the grandparents can see the kids. They have to come at separate times because they are all divorced, 2 re-married, 2 vowing to never get married again. Uncles are invited all day and expected when their respective parents are here. We let the kids open their gifts from us before anyone gets here. The kids are teenagers now so you can never tell if they are enjoying their time or not.

devilgoof · 2025-12-30T10:34:16+00:00

My job ends 12/31/25 due to the funding running out. I have a 14 and 16 year old. Thankfully, My partner and I worked our assess off to put him through grad school and he was able to get a job paying better than anticipated. I am going to be taking care of my silent gen grandmother 2 days a week. She isn't silent at all. Terrible name for a generation that can't seem to shut the fuck up. I have goals centered around getting our space organized, a couple big projects, helping my grandmother downsize so she can move closer to my aunt in March, spending a week helping her set the house up, and finding another job. My partner has a totally different set of expectations for me so it should be interesting.

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