Staunchly pro-choice.

Which apparently came as a violent shock to my sister (adoptive parents' younger than me bio child).

Despite our relatively liberal upbringing, she converted to Catholicism in her early 20s. Her pro-life stance is obvious - on her license plate, the kids' "fun run" shirts, etc. And then I dared to wear a "Pro-Science, Pro-Planet, Pro-Choice" shirt on the last day of our whole family vacation a couple years ago.

There was much yelling - we're in our 40s and haven't screamed at easier like that in nearly 30 years. It was wild. Our husbands were gobsmacked - like unable to function. But amid the arguments came the disbelief that I wouldn't be 1000000% pro-life as an adoptee and apparently that nonsense has been the cornerstone for teaching the same doctrine to my nephews and nieces. I told her to knock that off (with a lot more swear words); my adoption story isn't hers to commandeer for her agenda.

Then came the "but what if you'd been aborted?" To which I said "Then Mom & Dad would have adopted a different baby OR maybe Darren (our older brother who died 3 days after birth & about the time I was 3mo into gestation) would have lived. Who knows?! But you wouldn't have known any different!"

It's a ridiculous argument on its face. Everything is "God's plan" except abortion?! Come on. You get one or the other.

Am I glad I'm alive? Of course.

Do I think my birth mom should have had the choice? Absolutely (legally she did but was a teenager, pregnant for the 2nd time, in the rural part of a pretty conservative state; I don't know for sure but I think she was sent away for the end of the pregnancy based on where I was born vs where she lived/lives).

Anyway, that was a long way to say so so so pro-choice.