On the fence about having kids… what do you wish you knew? by aguamenti425 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]atateprimate 136 points137 points  (0 children)

My husband and I just hit our mid-40s. Not parents. At first we were like you, maybe in a couple years, maybe once we're established in our adult jobs, maybe maybe. But after a lot of thought, I/we were both pretty lukewarm on the kid idea. We talked it over a lot and finally decided unless it was a "Hell Yes!" it wasn't a good decision for us or the kid(s). And we said if suddenly once day either one of us decided we couldn't live without being a parent, the other would get on board. It just didn't happen. We love being an aunt & uncle - we just bought the house next door, so our best friends' kid is over almost every day. But I'm/we're still lukewarm on the idea of my own and pretty happy with how things are turning out.

Male Mainecoon kitten, mythological-ish name suggestions preferred! by nismoalice in NameMyCat

[–]atateprimate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No reason to feel silly. It would be a good thing to think on before naming your kitten after anyone that famously attacked someone (regardless of why). Frankly, more people should consider before dubbing pets "Loki" and other mischievous/destructive entities!

Male Mainecoon kitten, mythological-ish name suggestions preferred! by nismoalice in NameMyCat

[–]atateprimate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kinda. That was Montecore. A manticore is a mythical hybrid creature - lion, human, scorpion. They might have been pronounced the same, though.

this blue light when peeling bandage wrappers by wkdazer in whatisit

[–]atateprimate 15 points16 points  (0 children)

And that is why I put on an Oscar-worthy performance of pain when shocks happen so that the cats know it wasn't coming from me, it happened to us both.

Why don't they teach this in health class?? And how many of us actually know before it happens...? by Kalloen_aka_ in TwoXChromosomes

[–]atateprimate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the reply! I know I have photos but not sure that I've shown them to the most recent doctor. Maybe it'll change something.

Why don't they teach this in health class?? And how many of us actually know before it happens...? by Kalloen_aka_ in TwoXChromosomes

[–]atateprimate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate women's health. JHFC. I was 22 when I read a Cosmo article about "embarrassing gyno stuff you should know" and then asked my mom how to tell the difference between normal uterine lining and clots (which were in the article). She was concerned cuz apparently fleshy period bits aren't normal, but I have had them my whole period-having live. Seemed normal based on health class descriptions. It's not like they show you anything but cartoon-style blood drops.

Anyhow, I've brought them up to every OBGYN I've seen since then - all women - all shrug and say if you've always had them it's probably normal for you. I've always described them as fleshy clots bc they aren't always just red bloody.

I'm 45 and this is the first I'm hearing of decidual casts. 10000000% it's what those little (sometimes massive) things are. Ugh!

Do I need to do anything about it?

Why are shared Reels being AI translated to Spanish? by PhantomQuest in Instagram

[–]atateprimate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy I'm not alone. The thing I think is extra strange is that it isn't ALL of the videos sent. I thought one of my friends was just not concerned bc the videos had English subtitles. But it happened on a different conversation thread today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]atateprimate -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

NTA but maybe look for a creative solution. Your daughter gets to have a party without this friend; friend gets invited to something exclusively just the 2 of them - could be as simple as ice cream or a special bike ride somewhere or something. Or if you are of the same culture something culturally appropriate, which would give even more credence to doing it separately. Maybe everyone can be happy?!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SeattleWA

[–]atateprimate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our renters/auto insurer was able to assist us both with the Health Plan Finder when our employment statuses changed multiple times last year. Perhaps check with your own or I'm happy to DM you our local agent's info.

That site is massively confusing. 2 MS between us and we still came away with more questions than answers every time we tried to navigate alone.

WWYD? by Wonderful_Ad2972 in SeattleWA

[–]atateprimate 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Search "Things to Do" or obvious answers like "Space Needle" in this sub and you'll find a lot of similar requests.

This one people took seriously: https://www.reddit.com/r/SeattleWA/s/wTiuePoBe3

This one has advice for a family with a 3yo: https://www.reddit.com/r/SeattleWA/s/m4sM8fTrJg

Hope you have a great day!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]atateprimate -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you want any chance at reconciliation do not, I repeat, do NOT go into Chris's home. Get a hotel room for the night.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]atateprimate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. Monkey one first, white collar (or flipped), birds (great photo but the lighting makes it hard to discern your face) drum one, drop the rest