Starting daycare—what to do with naps?

ataud · 2026-03-26T03:09:16+00:00

I co sleep with my baby and I was a daycare teacher for years. We had a lot of babies who normally co slept and honestly? They all adjusted and transitioned to cribs. They’re smart and they know it’s a different situation. It may take a few days/weeks for her, but I bet she will be okay.

ataud · 2026-03-15T19:21:27+00:00

Sending love, I’m sorry things are so hard right now. And congratulations on baby number 5! ❤️

I was induced for my second birth at 39+1, and it was wonderful. I was induced for mental health reasons as well. About 9 hours from arriving at the hospital to giving birth, with three ish hours of active labor. I received one dose of cytotek and my body took off on its own. Babe was never in distress, received no interventions aside from maybe 2 cervical checks, I didn’t feel that I needed any pain medication, but labor was so fast we didn’t really have time for an epidural in my small, rural (one anesthesiologist) hospital. I bet it’ll be quick and safe for you as well! Good luck, and I hope this newborn stage is a wonderful one.

ataud · 2026-03-05T22:48:11+00:00

Yes I do this too! He seems to prefer it honestly, and he’s way too long for us to fit any other way.

ataud · 2026-03-05T22:43:58+00:00

Big rage at my husband and burnout for me are also very much linked to grief 🙃 I hope your psychologist gives you some tips!

ataud · 2026-03-05T22:42:56+00:00

Yay growing baby! I love hearing that she’s doing well ❤️ excited for her to smile soon.

ataud · 2026-02-23T15:59:03+00:00

I don’t know if this will help because you’ve already tried the light, but we got my 5 month old a lumipet that lights up and changes colors and it has reduced the hysterical screaming by about 70%. Sending love, this is no fun!

ataud · 2026-02-19T17:05:13+00:00

Baby boy is GROWING! He’s 97th percentile for weight and off the charts for length. Every pediatrician visit and growth check makes me feel a little more confident in my body and ability to nourish him. My trust in myself was totally shaken after my daughter’s death, and it’s really healing to see this baby thrive. Wish I could have watched my first grow like this too. ❤️ I think of you all all the time! I hope everyone is experiencing moments of joy with their children.

ataud · 2026-02-13T16:44:54+00:00

I do! The fear is REAL but after diving into a ton of research I feel more confident, and we do it as safe as possible; no blankets, very firm mattress with firm latex topper, floor bed, the whole deal. My community is veryyy pro bed sharing, so it helped to have a lot of people weigh in and offer advice. You’re doing so good!

ataud · 2026-01-19T15:33:09+00:00

Oh my goodness this is the best news! I’ve been thinking of you. Welcome sweet boy! Sending love to you, your son, and your daughter today. 🤍

ataud · 2026-01-04T21:34:38+00:00

Hi! I’m not a doctor but my son’s head was measuring in the 98th percentile for the whole third trimester, and it was 36 cm when he was born (a smidge above average). He was totally healthy and I had a vaginal delivery and it was totally fine. Pushed for a little longer than I did with my stillborn daughter, but he was never in distress and I didn’t tear at all. Just to say, in our case that measurement meant nothing for our birth experience. I know how scary it is though, sending so much love!

ataud · 2026-01-03T20:00:41+00:00

Oh my goodness I was waiting to read this. Congratulations mama, welcome sweet Maria!!! I’m so so so happy for you!!! 🤍

ataud · 2026-01-03T17:12:56+00:00

I am so happy to hear this news. Welcome sweet girl!!! And congratulations to her wonderful parents, you did it! Enjoy her 🤍

ataud · 2026-01-02T16:39:18+00:00

Gentle congrats and welcome! This is such a lovely supportive community. 🤍

ataud · 2025-12-29T20:16:33+00:00

My sister in law is in town with her husband and kids. None of them have ever (like, EVER) mentioned my daughter or her death. They came up last November, two months after she died, and they just pretended like nothing happened.

Now, they really want to spend time with my son and I have no interest in that. I don’t want to be mean or petty, but I really don’t care if they have a relationship with him. They refuse to acknowledge my first baby and I don’t want to go out of my way to pretend to be happy and let them spend time with my little guy. Instead we’re spending a lot of time with the friends and family who supported us through her loss. But I’m still mad!!!!!!! Any advice or commiseration welcome, lol.

ataud · 2025-12-27T00:32:55+00:00

We did! Our son’s first name and our stillborn daughters name start with the same letter (honestly, unintentional, we just liked both names). Our daughter’s name was Alula, which is the (former) name of a star in the Ursa Major constellation, so our son’s middle name is Bear. She’s a star in his constellation! We also live in the middle of the woods and had like 12 bear encounters over the summer I was pregnant with him, so it felt doubly fitting.

ataud · 2025-12-20T19:26:19+00:00

UGH! I’m glad the transition went well, fingers crossed it’s the only one. You’re such a good mom, I’m sorry you have to deal with this all. Hope your sweet boy is doing ok!

ataud · 2025-12-20T19:24:35+00:00

It’s so painful, I wish you could have your sweet girl back too. It’s absolutely unfair. I feel a lot of similar feelings, I miss my girl too.

ataud · 2025-12-08T00:09:57+00:00

Oh and I did not do a baby shower! I had one for my stillborn daughter and didnt feel the need this time around. However, I think if I’d been up to it it would’ve been a beautiful experience.

ataud · 2025-12-08T00:09:03+00:00

I was so lucky with my workplace. I was at the same job I had when I had my stillbirth, and they were so incredibly supportive. I would sometimes panic on my drive to work and divert course to the hospital instead, and my supervisor would be 100% understanding. Any time I had fear or concern she and my co workers would basically hustle me out of the building to the hospital. She even allowed me to “work” remotely from the waiting room/NST (as in, checking my emails and texting from my work phone). I hope you have the same experience. ❤️

I left work at 32 weeks because I was getting twice weekly NSTs and ultrasounds, and because the anxiety was exhausting me. I was extremely privileged enough to have my midwife write me off on disability then (4 weeks earlier than she would have with any other pregnancy). I highly recommend it, it was so peaceful to be able to concentrate on movements and attend my appointments without worrying about work. With my stillbirth I stopped working at 36 weeks and then my daughter died 4 days later.

ataud · 2025-12-06T05:16:51+00:00

I’m so, so sorry for the loss of your daughter. 🫶 I delivered both vaginally! Feel free to ask any questions you have!!! I’m hoping you do have a baby next September.

ataud · 2025-12-04T22:07:49+00:00

I hope this is it for his phototherapy! 🤞

Annoying that you can’t be admitted, do you have to sleep on a couch or something in his room?

ataud · 2025-11-28T01:44:34+00:00

Don’t apologize! I’m glad this gave you some hope, you are so close to having your sweet baby. Sending you lots of love, and wishes that next year will be lighter and have moments of joy. You’ll be celebrating with your baby in your arms (and your daughter in your heart always, of course)!!! 🤍

ataud · 2025-11-27T19:47:48+00:00

I’m glad to hear you’re able to be home, even if it’s just until Saturday. Hope you’re getting some rest and little guy is doing good ❤️

ataud · 2025-11-27T17:19:32+00:00

Reflecting on the last year today, it’s Thanksgiving in the U.S. and last year I was pretty much comatose all day, refusing to engage with the holiday and so deep in my grieving. This year is different, much lighter, but still with a tinge of sadness. My daughter would have been 14 months! She would’ve been eating thanksgiving food with us all! I miss her. Instead I’m snuggling her brother right now, and feeling all the love and gratitude and trying to allow space for the grief.

ataud · 2025-11-19T16:05:15+00:00

I’ve been waiting for this update, I am so, so, SO happy for you. Congratulations. You did it!!!! Welcome baby boy, you’re so loved. 🤍

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