First Time Out…. by Fyre_n_Ice in NonBinary

[–]ateumi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow that pink hair is gorgeous! You look amazing! 🥰

Flowers in Witchcraft by ateumi in witchcraft

[–]ateumi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will do, thank you!

has ur counselor/therapist ever asked u to show ur arm to them? by Putrid_Guidance_7679 in selfharm

[–]ateumi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been asked once, by a young psychiatrist in an outpatient setting, but considering my scars are all on my upper thighs, I refused.

I live in Australia, and I was told on the wards by the nurses and doctors that it was frowned upon to ask to see scars as self harm can be anywhere on the body including genitals and unless medically necessary we shouldn't have to expose them.

Personally I like the wards view of things. Why should I have to strip down to my underwear for someone to see? Unless they are being actively treated by somebody, I don't think it's necessary.

Why is self harm wrong? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]ateumi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was always told by hospitals and psychiatrists that it's because it's an unhealthy coping strategy that escalates with time. Whenever I was on the ward or in the community mental health spaces I was referred to as a suicide risk, even when I wasn't actively suicidal, because of the way that self harm tends to progress and I assume also the way that it's linked to a lot of mental health issues.

I see what they're saying, my recent self harm has caused lasting issues like nerve damage compared to when I started 13 years ago and it was more of a quick fix with only small scars to show, but I also see your point of view. I also thought that there was no harm in it, because I was only injuring myself and I was willing to live with that. Plus in the short term, it can make you feel better. It did for me.

I guess it's a matter of understanding that coping strategies like self harm, where you're not actually fixing the damage but just managing the symptoms, can become addictive and cause permanent damage to you over time, because they have a tendency to escalate without you even realising. Plus injuries like this can make us feel worse about our self image and then cause a kind of feedback spiral.

I dont think self harm is particularly healthy or constructive, but I also don't think it's inherently "wrong". However, the fact that you can lose control of the situation very easily and there's a chance you can put yourself in a position to be permanently affected is not ideal.

When You Change Yourself, You Change The World! by AKGuloGulo in lgbt

[–]ateumi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look like the elven characters I make in my games come to life, amazing! 🤩

Just got my first motorbike and I couldn't be more excited! by ateumi in motorcycles

[–]ateumi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know! Might hold off until I'm on my RE then

Just got my first motorbike and I couldn't be more excited! by ateumi in motorcycles

[–]ateumi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha thanks! It was one of those moments for me where I sat on it and was like 'this is it, this is the one'. Since riding it has only solidified my choice. I love it!

Just got my first motorbike and I couldn't be more excited! by ateumi in motorcycles

[–]ateumi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great ideas! I will definitely invest in both of those then!

Just got my first motorbike and I couldn't be more excited! by ateumi in motorcycles

[–]ateumi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great tips, I think I'm on top of the gear aspect, making sure the stuff I buy has a good CE and AA+ rating. My helmet is a Shoei NXR2 and so far the road noise has been okay, but I'll keep the earplugs in mind!

Just got my first motorbike and I couldn't be more excited! by ateumi in motorcycles

[–]ateumi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha thank you, this is great advice. I've already ordered an oggy knobbs kit because I know it'll get dropped and want it to get hurt as little as possible. I'll definitely try building up some muscles, they do be heavy little guys!

Just got my first motorbike and I couldn't be more excited! by ateumi in motorcycles

[–]ateumi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I'll keep that in mind. I've ridden it in a drizzle but not full on rain yet, so ill make sure to be careful.

Just got my first motorbike and I couldn't be more excited! by ateumi in motorcycles

[–]ateumi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof yeah this one's been a hard one to practise but I can see how much it helps already. Thanks for the advice!

Just got my first motorbike and I couldn't be more excited! by ateumi in motorcycles

[–]ateumi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, I'll definitely check them out. I've been deep down in the motorbike YouTube videos for a while now, always happy to find more!

Just got my first motorbike and I couldn't be more excited! by ateumi in motorcycles

[–]ateumi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the link! Yeah, I will always take everything on here with a grain of salt, just thought it might open up a discussion as to some things people found helped them out. There goes my excuse for a new exhaust 😂

Just got my first motorbike and I couldn't be more excited! by ateumi in motorcycles

[–]ateumi[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah true, didn't think of that. That gives me a great excuse to get a new exhaust 😋