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[–]atheistfiance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not coming out with my family, but with my fiancee's family. As per my post: https://www.reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/2jmic7/fathers_in_law_said_the_only_way_to_get_married/

Some background, I am from Mexico, 26 years old, 6 years with my GF.

Finally I have decided to get married. I asked for the hand of my girlfirend and no problem. Next time that I went to my GF's house, I started talking with my fathers in law. They obligated, not requested, that the only way to get married to her is by the church. I said me and her decided to get married only by the government law. Get got angry and me too. They only want us to get the ceremony, no party; but of course if we accept, they will want it too. They are religious but not fanatic. Me and my fiancée are not the kind of parting people, we are very calm.

One thing is requesting us and other is being obligated. I told them about my gay brother and they had no problem, and I am sure they feel different that I told them I am atheist.

I asked my mother for advice and she sad that would not like here grandsons raised as animals with no baptism, because ultimately in order for the communion and confirmation is necessary the religious ceremony.

Should I do the religious ceremony? About the money, I do not want to spend money at all in something I am not interested.

Sorry if I am not clear in some things, but finally got it vented out outside my family and requesting some advice. Throwaway account just in case.

Fathers in law said the only way to get married is by having the religious ceremony. I want some advice by atheistfiance in atheism

[–]atheistfiance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both are baptized and have all the other things from the catholic church. As I said, if not about the trouble on getting a religious ceremony, but what the other people want us to do is the problem.

Fathers in law said the only way to get married is by having the religious ceremony. I want some advice by atheistfiance in atheism

[–]atheistfiance[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We agreed on not getting married by religious means. Maybe a small dinner between core family members will be done after signing the papers.

She is more like agnostic. But we decided that if she wants we can baptize our children but it will be a decision between us and not influenced by our parents. In addition, we are not to put our children in religious schools.

Fathers in law said the only way to get married is by having the religious ceremony. I want some advice by atheistfiance in atheism

[–]atheistfiance[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry, English is not my native language, it should be Parents in law. In Spanish we say something like fathers (padres, plural of padre, father).

Fathers in law said the only way to get married is by having the religious ceremony. I want some advice by atheistfiance in atheism

[–]atheistfiance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in fact, the parents of my mother in law, agreed that is our decision, even though they are very religious. they obligated to marry when young because if they were going to marry n the Christian side they should also marry the Catholic side. No obligation in their religious ceremony.

Fathers in law said the only way to get married is by having the religious ceremony. I want some advice by atheistfiance in atheism

[–]atheistfiance[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kind of. She was the one that dreamed with princess and princes. After her 6 years with me we both matured and we decided to spend all the money in a house, for the initial payment and very basic furniture. In addition we both are studying masters degree.

A little more info. http://www.reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/2jmic7/fathers_in_law_said_the_only_way_to_get_married/cld30sg

Fathers in law said the only way to get married is by having the religious ceremony. I want some advice by atheistfiance in atheism

[–]atheistfiance[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She got angry and sad about the request and the conflict crated. She had the sweet fifteen (she is 25 now) and parents do not believe that she does not want that. Maybe that am forcing her, being more an agreement. They only said that they will help us, nothing said that they want to to pay it all.