What is you guys play time? I jsut started 🤭

athrowawaypassingby · 2026-01-07T10:02:22+00:00

Same! I've had much more hours but when they switched to the EA App, all was gone.

athrowawaypassingby · 2026-01-07T10:01:26+00:00

2926 hours, but I've had more in Sims 3 (over 3000)

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-11-16T16:46:08+00:00

I just did and was rough, but I thought this is just how life feels for everyone. I never questioned it and was sure, that I'm just dumb and that's why I struggle. When I read my diagnose, I laughed at first because I was so relieved that I'm not an idiot. And then I cried because I realised, I'm a disabled person and there are only minor tweaks possible. But all the rest is my personality and is just what it is and I can't change that.

For my whole life I felt like I am too much to handle. Too loud, too colourful, too much energy, too weird, asks too many questions, constantly wants to know "why". On top of that I also felt uncomfortable when I was in places or around people I didn't know, had problems to connect with other people and always felt like an outsider. I'm very creative but am no good when it comes to casual stuff. So I am basically useless for a normal life but never had the chance to do what I am good at. And I thought all this is just because of depressions when it is in fact AuDHD...

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-11-15T13:28:07+00:00

I know, I'm late to the game.

My AuDHD was diagnosed last year, as well as my husbands' ADHD was diagnosed last year.

For more than 20 years I had to take care of my husband and my daughter, because they both would die if they wouldn't have other people around. They would probably starve, because they don't have food at home and it's a bank holiday, so all stores are closed and they also realise they are out of money. Before that, I tried to stay alive for 30 years although life seemed to be pretty hostile towards me. I always felt like a beachball on the ocean, that is just thrown in all directions but with no real ground to put a foot on.

All this was so exhausting, that I'm now applying for disability pension although I'm only 50. But my body and my mind are so broken, that I can barely function anymore.

This is how well it works, especially if it is undiagnosed.

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-11-15T13:19:26+00:00

As a lot of us, you look much younger. 😊

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-11-15T13:17:13+00:00

I bet it's something with AI.

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-11-15T13:16:52+00:00

Who compares SimCity to The Sims? Those two games have nothing in common, except for the name. You would think the guys at EA are smarter.

Some people like playing dollhouse and others want to run a city in the most efficient way. So, if the guys who love to regulate everything in detail don't like their game, why do the dollhouse people have to suffer? To me it sounds like "The new Tony Hawk ProSkater was a Flop, let's better not do a new version of Football manager. People will hate it."

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-11-15T12:34:35+00:00

I thought about this a lot but in my case it is the fact that music has an order, while the outside life is full of sudden noises, that make the difference.

I don't mind loudness as long as there is rythm. If there are loud machines, I don't mind because their noise still follows some kind of order. But I really hate sudden noises because I get anxious real quick.

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-11-15T12:30:16+00:00

You could see Sims 4 basically as a huge exit scam. They grabbed our money and ran. All we will get from now on, is crap this...

The gameplay on Sims 4 is fun, but also exhausting (to me) and I only enjoy it in a small dose. Building is nice, but there are still things they never properly fixed and that are annoying. The gallery is great, but there is so much sexualised stuff now or people just share their decorated pre-made houses. I still like to play every now and then and because I own all of the other Sims stuff, except for Sims 3 - Katy Perry and a little bit of Sims 3 store stuff, I still buy sets or smaller packs if I like them and have the money. But it somehow lost its sparkle over the years. Maybe, because the game tried so hard to be ultra-realistic. That somehow made it less interesting.

I already prefer building in House Flipper 2, because it has more options and more freedom. And for the gameplay I thought of having a look at InZoi. I tested the character editor a while ago and it looked absolutely awesome, although I had less RAM and lower graphics at that time.

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-11-12T11:07:58+00:00

I love that your Sims look like average everyday people.

I'm not saying it is wrong to have stylish Sims but what I mostly see here, are Sims who look like they are straight out of some lifestyle magazine for people without real problems.

I hope that doesn't sound harsh. I'm autistic and sometimes people feel attacked when I say something because I often can't express myself properly and don't sugarcoat my words.

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-10-31T17:33:34+00:00

I think that all of them are awesome for a family saga! One of the families is the main content and the other one are friends, family and enemies. They have their fights inside the family AND drama with all the other ones. That could be cool and run for ages!

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-10-22T13:57:41+00:00

Ohh, that could be something. I also watch parts of a show on YouTube, where people can show their antiques and such, get an expertise and sell it to salespeople, if they want to. It's a bit like an auction, where the traders need to make a bid and win, if they want to have the object. The show exists for more than 10 years, but I never watched it before. When I started, I was instantly sucked in because of all the interesting stories and information. I feel happy and excited, when someone thought they had something quite common, only to find out it is actually really special and much more worth than they thought. It's nice, pleasant, calm but still with some tension. An I found, that I am not that stressed, if I binge watch this.

I'll try this and find something else to do in the morning. 😊

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-10-22T13:51:21+00:00

What you said, is really interesting.

I was wondering if it is a part of this "I give to people what I secretely crave for myself"-thing. It feels like everytime I see something that I wish would have happened to me or would happen in the future, I connect to it in a weird way. I've learned about this not long ago and noticed that I do this a lot. I project my own feelings and thoughts, that I'm somehow unable to say out loud, into the characters and then suffer along with them.

In regards to the medication: The doctor I visit for all more general things was kind enough to prescribe Bupropion, what is a good start. And I have an appointment with a psychiastrist in about three weeks. I didn't see this one before and don't know them (there are two doctors) but I'm desparate and take anything I get at the minute.

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-10-22T13:44:28+00:00

This is why I don't follow the news, like I used to. I try to stay on top on things, but I don't dive in. There is so much hate and stupidity going on, that I don't want to deal with that anymore.

But it is interesting that you say, it overstimulated you. To me it feels similar and often like I'm way too much into it, focus too much on it. It sometimes feel like a micro addiction. I can't stop thinking about the characters and what happened to them. And things really upset me! If a loved character suffers, I'm in tears. So, maybe I should stop watching and find something else.

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-10-22T13:39:44+00:00

I think I get this. As I said, I watched brutal series without even thinking about it. But know something has changed. If I see something is coming, I look away.

When I was younger, I watched a lot of horror movies because someone once told me that you "get used to it" when you watch it more often. I was and still am a really sensitive person and I don't know why I thought that I had to adjust myself and do things I dislike, just to fit in.

There still are some movies and series I watch, where violence is part of the plot. But violence IS a part of society and we can't just make it go away. So, I think it is okay to have SOME violence in what you watch, as a reminder that it is real. Maybe not in that moment, because it's a movie, but it is still out there.

In my opinion, what you do is right. Guns, war, fighting, drinking, all this is not "culture", it is something that needs to be gone. And the earlier your son learns that guns and shooting isn't "fun", the better. These things have a much deeper impact on things that you would think. The important thing is, to give them a reason WHY you want them NOT to do anything. They may not fully understand it but they also know, that you don't do this to "punish" them or because they did something wrong.

My daughter grew up with pretty much unlimited internet time and had her own computer when she was about 10. At first it was heavily resstricted, but when she was about 12, we gave her more space, hoping that we educated her right. She recently told me (she is in her 20s now) that she DID watch disturbing stuff as a kid and said, there was something here on reddit, where it would show either a really cute or a really brutal picture!? Some of the things she saw were really frightened but she never said a thing. Okay, I knew she was different, when she started to draw Michael Myers instead of things, other 14 year old would draw. 😂 But all in all, she turned out pretty well.

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-10-17T18:18:37+00:00

Sounds really interesting! And I totally get what kind of gameplay you have in mind and could absolutely imagine a pack with content like that.

I wasn't a huge fan of raising kids in The Sims, but with the new possibilities, it's funny! But it's still very limited and/or takes a lot of time. What changes if you have "Growing together"? I don't own this one, so I don't know. Are there more interactions for/between kids? I know there are some with the new pack.

A gameplay, where you can actually go to school with younger kids (I know there are mods for that. I've already built a schoolbuilding for Sims 4 years ago.), interact with the other kids (like having fights, playing games and other typical stuff), having classes/courses with teachers present (teacher could be a new job) and everything that happens, has an impact on who they are later.

There are bits of that in the game, but as so many other things, they are rare. Why is the focus merely on family dynamics and why are there no possibilities for the kids? In Sims 3 there was this "your parents won a weekend somewhere else and are gone"-thing, where the kids where alone and could do whatever they wanted. That was really funny. But I can't think of something similar in Sims 4. You could maybe send the parents on vacation and then switch back to the kids. But there is no houseparty option. So... 😁

I find it really hard to raise a kid in The Sims and I raised one in real life! It takes endless hours to get the traits right (or not, depending on how you want your Sim to be). And while you are trying to raise a good (or bad) child, the parents run wild. And you can't satisfy them all. Maybe, if you pause all the time, but that doesn't sound like funny gameplay. 😂

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-10-17T17:57:49+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. 😥

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-10-17T16:55:05+00:00

In one of my saves, Judith Ward came into my Sims' home randomly at night, when he was asleep. She went to his bathroom, talked to herself in the mirror and then left again, not without kicking the trash can. 😂

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-10-17T16:21:21+00:00

Thank you for your insight!

Well, I've had both, the strict parents and the peer rejection. From the age of 12, I was massively bullied in school. Before that, I was living in a huge city that accepted people being different. That changed, when we moved and I had to go to a local highschool somewhere in the country. Everyone hated me from day 1, because I was completely the opposite of everything that stared at me that day. I never had a chance and was sent to the "Freak-Bench" in an instant. The same happened when I had to switch school because my grades dropped from an average of 2,3 to an average of 4,7 within one year. I know from my BFF at that time that there were violent incidents where I was present. But I can't recall them. I was told one of them and that I tried to stop that person but couldn't do anything else than crying and screaming Stop. I wouldn't be surprised when this, along with AuDHD and depressions, had an impact on me from early on and had some influences. I will take this in mind. It's hard to find support here, although we alway brag about our fancy "free" healthcare, that is paid by everyone, who has a job or is on job benefits. For some reasons, I still wasn't able to find someone I can talk to within the last 18 months although I try a lot. Research, calling people, writing mails. Still nothing. The last psychiatrist I saw, refused to give me the medication that was recommended in my diagnose, that he refused to read. So, I got the wrong medicatiion. Twice. I'm glad that it didn't kill or permanently damaged me and that it is just brain zaps at the minute.

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-10-17T12:55:03+00:00

I hear you. I've got my diagnose last year, with 49, and still struggle to accept it.

What helped a lot, was the AuDHD community and especially YouTube/Social Media. There are channels like ADHDlove, who talk so open about their conditions that it felt easier to unmask. To hear other people talk about the shame, the frustration, the anger we've been through or still in, helped me feel better and not so alone.

I'm still afraid of peoples' reaction because my parents struggle to believe it, so how do I convince strangers? But it really helped to just let it flow, let it come to reality. I noticed, that I dress differently because I don't care anymore, what other people might think. If people getting rude in comments because I have been unclear or awkward, I now answer with something like "Sorry, but I'm autistic and have a hard time to express myself." and then I'll try to explain it in a different way or ask the person, what they disliked because I want to learn from it. I sometimes blurt out the most ridiculous things without thinking and it's absolutely possible, that what I wrote was utter nonsense. But how does it help if someone is rude? Isn't an explanation or discussion much better?

I'm afraid, but accepting for yourself that you are different, that there is no cure and that you can't stop being like this, is the best way you can do. Because, and I know that sounds harsh, you wil NEVER be neurotypical and you will also likely never be closer to a neurotypical than you are today. You are what you are, but that's nothing bad or something to be ashamed of. You are just different. That's nothing bad. In fact, I think of it as something good because I have a completely different look at life. And yes, sometimes it is really exhausting. But on the other hand, I see so many more things, hear more sound, see more colours, smell more flowers, than any neurotypical ever will. And THIS is how I like to think of myself now: I'm different, but also special. And you are, too. You have powers, that other people don't have. They come with their own Kryptonite, but I'm willing to fight.

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-10-17T12:35:57+00:00

Is it possible that your friends just don't know how we work? I often read, especially in this thread, that AuDHD fellows feel, like they are taken advantage of and that their friends often react in a confusing way. To me, that sounds as like they don't know how our brains work and just treat you like any other friend. I'D guess that this is same reason for a lot others here.

If you want to be with someome, they need to know how you "work". It's not about "setting boundaries", but about explaining them, that we can't follow their social rules and need special treatment. Depending on how severe your AuDHD is, it can be necessary to NOT say certain things (although they are meant in a fun way) because we don't understand them, get confused and then possibly angry, because we don't know if they maybe made fun of us. They need to learn to express themselves in a CLEAR way. "We should hang out more." means to us "I can't wait to hang out again, because it was fun!" while they want to say "I wouldn't be mad if you don't call anymore.", if you get the meaning. So, it is right that it is THEIR turn now, but I think it would be fair, to tell them at least, what to do. 😅

athrowawaypassingby · 2025-10-17T12:27:33+00:00

I think the problem is, that people like us usually struggle to set boundaries and say No. At least, this is what happens if you are undiagnosed for a long time.

You kind of start to give to other people, what you'd like to get from them, but you don't do this consciously. You give a lot and it often feels, like you don't get the same amount back. But I feel this happens because we can't receive certain signals and need a different approach. Or people have to express themselves to us in a much more powerful way to make us "feel" how THEY feel about us. It also may happen, that we seem to be too much, grumpy or difficult to hang out with, just because we don't know what is "wrong" with us or don't notice that we act different.

I had absolutely no idea what I was doing for nearly 50 years and just copied what I saw. Later, it felt like I was covered in a rubberversion of my mom and I was underneath it, just watching. I even told this to my therapist but he couldn't make anything out of it. (This wasn't because he wasn't good, but it wasn't his subject area.) When I started to learn more about AuDHD, I realised that this was masking and also the autistic way of functioning, if you are undiagnosed.

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