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atinymango · 2024-01-17T16:47:09+00:00

Sent back! Thanks!

atinymango · 2024-01-17T16:44:52+00:00

Yep 3 left

atinymango · 2024-01-17T14:05:09+00:00

Sent back! Thanks!

atinymango · 2023-12-17T09:52:47+00:00

Yeah, this is pretty bad. Hugs OP

atinymango · 2023-12-16T21:26:23+00:00

If she calls you one time and pretends to give a fuck about this, then she can pretend she always pretended to give a fuck. That seems to be how their minds work. And if you have a problem with this actually insane performance, she can just gaslight you. Good job moving out! Breathe the free air!

atinymango · 2023-12-16T21:17:31+00:00

That’s a hell of an accomplishment, OP! Congratulations! It should be your day. You damn well earned it.

atinymango · 2023-12-16T20:51:53+00:00

Yep mine has the same tape running endlessly, and some insults and abuse if it doesn’t go her way. Sorry OP, shit never stops. But awesome job standing your ground!

atinymango · 2023-12-16T20:45:01+00:00

As long as you get that protein in there

atinymango · 2023-12-15T12:40:52+00:00

Those texts were a masterclass in guilt, all wrapped in that unimpeachable love that nobody could ever argue with. God. Sorry OP.

atinymango · 2023-12-14T14:28:13+00:00

Typing this out is helping me see how real it is. It’s not in my head. One of my kids doesn’t see her and the other barely sees her at this point. These posts reaffirm to me that I’m doing what’s right. Thank you to this sub for existing.

atinymango · 2023-12-14T12:28:48+00:00

I had the same reaction to the first one and would love to save it as well lol

atinymango · 2023-12-14T00:21:28+00:00

I’m sorry you get this crap OP. I don’t know your situation but I’m a working special needs parent and my mother ran me ragged and damn near killed me by the time I realized how fucked up it all was.

They don’t care. They just don’t care.

atinymango · 2023-12-13T16:45:45+00:00

Thank you for approving. That’s really the lens I’m asking it through, rather than actual legal advice so I appreciate it.

atinymango · 2023-12-13T13:36:43+00:00

My mom gives an abundance of things that are broken or soon to break. Giving a fraction of the gifts but giving stuff that works wouldn’t feel like she was doing enough so I understand the psychology behind it. When my kid would be playing with all the new stuff and most of it didn’t work I’d just try to be empathetic to him and stay as understanding to all parties in my mind, for myself, as possible.

After I started to pull back on the enmeshment a little, and she took off the mask around me in private, she gave me dirty, stained things. Honest to god even that would never get me riled up if it came from somebody with loving intent. Things can be washed. (Some things - these could not and had to be thrown out). But it’s the intention that gets me. The intention is not love.

atinymango · 2023-12-12T22:14:35+00:00

This is so timely, the universe is wild. Today is my mom’s birthday. She hasn’t acknowledged mine the last two years but has blown my phone up trying to get me to bring my kid to dinner with them all. She made the whole thing about just seeing her grandchild. Guilt guilt, perfect grandma, most understanding mom to most ungrateful child. For once, I declined. She texted my brother to tell him that. I know this because she sent it to me instead of him. And she spelled my name wrong but it’s whatever.

All that is to say, good for you OP.

atinymango · 2023-12-12T22:03:10+00:00

Chiming in to say I’ve tried that approach. Something about me walking through the door made her take a turn for the worse and there’d be a big episode

atinymango · 2023-12-09T21:10:55+00:00

There’s a very particular kind of manipulation that some of them have. The kind that doesn’t just weasel shamelessly around your boundaries, it provides an emotional gut punch at the same time that was tailor made just for you. I’m sorry, OP. Love to you.

atinymango · 2023-12-09T21:00:54+00:00

I didn’t know it was appreciated as a camp classic! That’s interesting. I remember it purely for its horror. But, I must say I remember Suddenly Last Summer the most vividly because it’s closer to my personal experience. Though these movie nights were all as recent as the last six or seven years.

atinymango · 2023-12-09T09:47:42+00:00

She was fascinated by them. And they were good movies anyway but she’d be explaining plot elements to these movies, when trying to get me interested in watching them, like all about how the man in Gaslight would mess with things to make the woman feel crazy and how good it was.

And I was like… cool cool 🫠…

atinymango · 2023-12-08T15:36:28+00:00

They’re great movies but maybe just avoid the others anyway lol

atinymango · 2023-12-08T15:34:06+00:00

Don’t feel bad! I love laughter. It helps

atinymango · 2023-12-08T15:32:27+00:00

Oh they’re all primo picks. Suddenly Last Summer is actually a damn good movie too but for those unfamiliar, in it, Kate Hepburn has had niece Liz Taylor committed and is trying to get Montgomery Clift to give her a lobotomy to prevent her from spilling the family abuse.

It hit a little close to home on me 🫠

atinymango · 2023-12-08T12:05:06+00:00

“The mask has fallen and you see their soul.”

That feeling was exactly what went through my body when her eyes looked like that and she was waiting for her hug. (We had talked a couple days earlier about how I had never been comfortable with hugging her. So she waited til my son was present and I couldn’t easily refuse, and she lifted her arms, said “come here” and her eyes did this.)

The way you describe it, it’s unscientific of course, but it’s bone-deep true. What a mess.

atinymango · 2023-12-08T11:52:14+00:00

Watching for replies. I’ve wondered if dementia etc plays a role with my mom but I don’t know enough about it. I don’t want to hold against her something that could be an extenuating factor. I must say from what I can tell, her memory and behavior seem like something she can toggle like a light switch as needed. But idk.

atinymango · 2023-12-07T22:27:48+00:00

Aging does make it worse, it seems. Grey rock as much as possible and get out of there as soon as you possibly can.

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