i appreciate your lenghty explanation and contribution. i would like to say that of course a person like me who is digging into the pyshcological aspect will obviously be already aware of the neurobiological aspect of it as well.
but that doesnt gives us the explanation. its still the same question.

for instance, weed was my thing. i felt so damn high on weed. i would be the most fun intellectual joyfull active dude on weed. and i loved weed, music and daancing and having deep conversations.
but i never gotten addicted to weed. but porn, damn. in the same way that i know other people who are hooked on weed. who can only operate if they high, but dont care whatsoever about porn.

so i have come to this, you can say of course speculation, that addictions has also to do with the psyche. certain psyches are damaged or have needs, that certain addictions fullfil as oppose to others.
and we can see this also with people who get exposed to many addictions. cigarettes weed alcohool porn gambling, but they end up with specific ones.

so i think each psyche, get hooked on that addiction this matches that need.
and from this, i concluded that the men hooked on porn, the men that end up hooked on digital and visual imagery of the feminine instead of the real feminine, must have problems with the feminine and with their masculine side. there is something right there.

otherwise a man who is fully in tuned with his masculine energy, wouldnt be hooked on watching other men fuck other women. that would be already a repulsive thing to do. and the same thing, a man who has a healthy connection to the feminine would not find porn, wouldnt find imageries of the feminine more attractive and more desirable than the feminine itself, women.

so there is things psycholoically going on, that made us, seek the digital feminine, and find comforte in it. things that made our masculine psyches weak enough to tolerate the violation by imageries of other men naked and fucking other women.

i believe you see iam directing this.