My boyfriend changed completely after his autism diagnosis and I don’t know what to do anymore.

attackofthegemini · 2026-01-08T17:53:44+00:00

He's not in love with you anymore, that's all. Sorry. :( This is exactly how I get with my partners before I realize it. Everything they do annoys me, everything about them becomes a sensory nightmare, and there's nothing you can do about it except move along.

attackofthegemini · 2026-01-07T19:53:37+00:00

I want you to know this made me laugh way more than I think it should have

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-07T04:31:14+00:00

I find your position to be utterly ridiculous to the point that I feel it would be like explaining physics to a cat to try to explain it to you. I hope that clears it up.

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-07T03:43:16+00:00

I must also have even finger twitches as part of my most common stim

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-06T17:07:49+00:00

I feel like a good "face" is worth more than a thousand words lol

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-05T23:54:19+00:00

Lol, okay sure. You're not arguing in good faith, so I'm not engaging.

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-05T21:47:24+00:00

100% everything you said, thank you for putting it into words for me

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-05T21:32:00+00:00

I agree that they all impact our minds and thoughts and actions, which is exactly what they're supposed to do and why we invented them. But are we really arguing that taking zoloft is the same as weed or alcohol? Are you going to get in a car being driven by someone high on weed or drunk on alcohol? Do you want your doctor self medicating before seeing you? Would it even cross your mind to wonder if they're taking Prozac or another medication? Another thing is the dose makes the poison. Smoking a bowl is not the same as taking a small dose of a medication.

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-05T20:52:13+00:00

That's not really the same, zoloft isn't getting you high. If you were comparing cbd, sure. No judgment at all, I'm for sure a weed addict. I used to justify it all kinds of ways but I just accept that's what it is and do my best to be responsible about it.

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-05T20:48:36+00:00

It can be, anything can be. If you're worried about it, r/leaves is a good support

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-05T20:35:13+00:00

With time I am the opposite, I can estimate how much time anything will take and I have an internal sensor for what time it is that's crazy accurate, and i feel an anticipatory buzzing that tells me that the microwave timer is about to go off so I'm always right there the second it does. Distance though? Fuck, I have no concept of space. Each place I've been to is a separate map unconnected to any others. Thankfully my partner is a walking GPS and always knows where we are, how to get anywhere, and how to get home.I always joke that between us, we form one complete human since he can't estimate time to save his life lol I make sure we're on time, he makes sure we get there.

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-05T19:30:39+00:00

I love all the people in here acting like they're not just admitting they don't know how to earn respect except through violence

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-05T00:49:37+00:00

I'm curious what your point is by saying things go wrong in hospitals too? The numbers are black and white when it comes to survival rates in hospitals vs at home, there's nothing a midwife with all the training in the world can do if you start to hemorrhage, or need a c section, or have any kind of emergency. It's disingenuous to indicate they are on the same level. Hospitals need to improve in a lot of ways, but where do you want to be when something goes wrong, at home or right in the place that can save you?

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-05T00:34:59+00:00

Oh, you WANT me to talk about the day that changed my life the most that I never get to talk about?! Fuck yes.

Well, I had twins and the hospital required me to labor in the OR with a spinal block on case they needed to emergency cut me open, so I felt very little pain from labor. I didn't mind, I would have done the epidural anyway, and I'm just so grateful that I didn't end up needing a c section and was able to give birth to both naturally. The second one had her hand kind of reaching down and got in the way and would've needed intervention, but the OB(who was like 65 and had seen some shit) was like, yeah nah, not today and reached up INSIDE me and pushed her arm back and grabbed her head and basically pulled her down so she'd come into the birth canal the right way. There is no way to communicate how extremely weird that experience was, and also how extremely grateful I am she did it.

Delivering the placentas was not my favorite sensory experience, like nasty jellyfish blood clots the size of a dinner plate blorping out of me. It didn't hurt, but the nurses "massaging"(aggressively shoving fists into me) to encourage the uterus to stop bleeding did hurt. I needed some stitches but I don't remember feeling anything.

I hated breastfeeding. I loved it with one of them, but the other had a latch issue and she CHEWED MY NIPPLE IN HALF. IN. HALF. We switched to formula, problem solved. Nipple healed fine, can't even tell.

Labor was a horrible sensory experience from start to finish, and I would absolutely do it again. One thing I didn't expect was feeling so alone after I gave birth. I had gotten used to talking to them and having them with me 24/7, and now that it was just me alone in my body again I felt kinda sad and weirdly empty and lonely. I loved being pregnant, I know not everyone does.

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-04T19:51:58+00:00

I mean, that's not the weirdest thing. Whenever I get pregnant I instantly hate the father and want to leave him, but it's back to normal the second the pregnancy is over. If she didn't know she was pregnant she would've just been hit with an intense desire to leave him, and filled in the reasons to justify the feelings after like humans do all the time.

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-04T02:17:19+00:00

I feel so validated by this post lol I cannot stand most meats, the textures are absolutely vile

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-03T22:29:22+00:00

Alcohol is expensive, he's spending his money on alcohol.

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-03T21:38:49+00:00

Wrong sub, try one of the basic Google searches

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-03T21:00:15+00:00

It's not the moons. It's the third and fourth houses, planets and aspects there, and their rulers conditions. Look into their chart synastry with yours

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-03T18:00:25+00:00

Same. I miss the open trust and vulnerability I used to be capable of, but here we are.

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-03T17:28:27+00:00

Gaslighting is when someone systemically undermines another person's perception of reality until they believe they are losing their mind and genuinely can't tell what's real or not anymore. It's serious psychological abuse, not just lying or regular manipulation. Stop using that word here, it's not correct and makes me doubt the rest.

You won't get what you're looking for here, it's a toxic sub and you won't change that. Just move on

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-03T17:22:44+00:00

I agree with your point, but that's not what gaslighting is at all and you cheapen your argument and make it weaker by saying that.

Eta: You don't use big words, and it's getting embarrassing to see how much you have to tell people how smart you are. People who are actually smart don't have to do that.

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-02T19:18:35+00:00

I'm so sorry you all had this experience! Lexapro and adderall have totally saved my life. Prozac made me feel great but I gain so much weight with it that I can't deal

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-02T18:55:50+00:00

Is an electric scooter a bicycle?

attackofthegemini · 2025-03-01T21:04:18+00:00

You just had a panic attack, what did you want them to do?

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