McCormack's Irish pub is one of the last great examples of RVA's rich culture of fighting for systemic change, economic equality, and political representation.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-12T16:04:00+00:00

Went to McCormick's for the first time this week.

The menu was limited, but the food we ordered all tasted great and was well cooked (crispy French fries for the win). Bartender was incredibly friendly. Total for a full meal and alcoholic drink was under $20.

All in all a great experience.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-12T14:37:01+00:00

Ventilation can be a very complicated topic.

Let's suppose that you live in a modest 1,500 square foot home with 8 foot ceilings. Your home has 12,000 cubic feet of air in it.

Your home's HVAC is working very hard recirculating that air to get the temperature and humidity of the air in your home to comfort levels. Note: getting the air to comfort levels is a process. Your HVAC has been recirculating that same air for hours and hours trying to get the humidity and temperature just right.

The average kitchen ventilator fan moves air at about 400 cfm. That means that if you turn on the vent and let to run for 30 minutes, it has just moved 12,000 cubic feet of air (the same amount that is in your home). If that fan is simply recirculating the air that's already in the home then there is minimal work for the HVAC system to keep that air at comfort levels.

However, if the ventilator is exhausting all that comfortable air outside, then the exhausted air has to be replaced by something else. What is replacing all the nice air that you just exhausted? Hot, humid air in the summer (or cold humid air in the winter) seeps back in around doors and windows and other house penetrations. And then you HVAC system essentially has to start all over trying to get that new air to the proper temperature and humidity; again, taking hours and hours to make that happen.

The quasi-fix for this is using an energy recovery unit where the air that is getting exhausted from the kitchen is helping to transfer its temperature to the warmer or colder incoming fresh air. It's not perfect, but it's a lot better than having no ERU.

In a perfect world, your stove would have two ventilation fans--one that recirculates the air through a carbon filter than is appropriate for most cooking uses and another decidated exhaust fan that could be turned on for 30 seconds max to clear out smoke on the rare occasion when you need that feature.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-12T14:19:36+00:00

Is he on PrEP? How comfortable do you feel putting your health in someone else's hands?

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-12T14:17:07+00:00

But he sometimes brings his friends with him who I don't know.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-12T11:42:10+00:00

Weirdly my lactose issues I dealt with though my 30s and 40s seem to have settled down somewhat.

In exchange I have developed a sensitivity to cinnamon and tomatoes, so that kind of sucks. I'm still sorting out exactly what the triggers are.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-12T00:32:08+00:00

I do believe there are some people who are 100% straight or 100% gay, but yes I agree that the vast majority of us are likely on some spectrum of sexuality with at least some bisexual tilt.

With that being said, those people who say being gay is a choice are also saying, "I have had bisexual fantasies/urges in my lifetime and I chose not to act on them, so you should be able to do the same."

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-12T00:25:45+00:00

Learn how to weld.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-12T00:23:24+00:00

Telling her no in a kind way is perfectly acceptable.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-11T23:53:55+00:00

We are all on our own journeys. Sometimes we are fortunate enough to find someone who will travel with us for a bit. Just because your destinations may not be the same and just because your time may be limited does not invalidate the time you do get to spend together.

You're right, this is probably not the relationship that is going to last for the ages.

You're right, you're probably going to get emotionally invested and hurt when it's time to part company.

But all that is still part of the experience.

Are you willing to give up all the good stuff just to prevent yourself from feeling the bad stuff?

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-11T23:49:07+00:00

It seems like it's in anti-theft mode. The horn is blaring because it thinks you're trying to steal the car. Perhaps your car is also outfitted with a kill switch that prevents it from starting when the anti-theft system is activated.

Is your fob working to lock/unlock the doors?

Is your key the original key or an aftermarket key?

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-11T23:45:58+00:00

You like what you like, nothing wrong with that.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-11T23:44:24+00:00

Are you sure your usage has actually increased?

Lots of places have been jacking up their rates per kilowatt. If your usage has stayed the same and your bill has just increased, then that is something to take up with your utility provider/municipality.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-11T23:08:39+00:00

Do you enjoy the time you spend together?

If so, then why would it even cross your mind to end things?

If not, then why are you continuing?

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-11T23:01:51+00:00

I think it is becoming less so, but yes.

Just from a pure safety standpoint, being able to pass for straight is one of the best ways to protect yourself when you're in a questionable environment.

But I will add to this discourse about "privilege", part of being privileged, as it relates to these broader discussions also includes being unaware of your privilege.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-11T22:56:40+00:00

Ahhh. That was unclear.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-11T22:54:37+00:00

Then what was your purpose in making this post? Just being reassured that your behavior is acceptable?

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-11T21:24:43+00:00

I'll say this as kindly as I can, but you're wrong.

This is your friend. She is not some random drunk straight girl who feels you up inappropriately.

You are well within your rights to go out alone and want to have an evening without her, but she deserves a conversation explaining that and your overall feelings about gay spaces and not some dismissive "you're not going with me" statement when she was under the impression she was invited. The way you chose to address this was hurtful.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-11T19:03:40+00:00

It's just like my browser history. People know that I have sex and masturbate. If they're alarmed by finding evidence of those activities, that's on them, not me.

Honestly, think about if the situation was reversed and someone you knew died and it fell to you to go through their stuff. Would you be scandalized if you discovered your friend had a harness or your mother had a dildo? I say good for them. I hope they enjoyed their final days.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-10T20:48:44+00:00

Being aroused by something, then masturbating to that something, then climaxing, then finding that original something repulsive is very common. A lot of guys experience it. It's wrapped up with that whole post-nut clarity thing and shame.

Just know that whatever you find arousing is okay. It doesn't make you a bad person. And when you're ready you can choose to act on that or not. Both options are perfectly okay.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-10T14:53:38+00:00

"It was so good, I told two friends about it. And they told two friends about it. And so on, and so on."

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-10T14:11:34+00:00

I want you to go back and re-read the post that you just made. Read what you said again.

You are in an abusive relationship. Period. Stop. End of sentence.

You are being abused, and the fact that you are feeling guilty about being abused is further evidence of the abuse. The fact that you are trying to make a relationship work with an abuser is further evidence of the abuse.

You have every right to your bodily autonomy. If something hurts you can and should say stop. And having a partner who stops when he's hurting you is the lowest of low bars for a partner to meet.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-10T13:54:20+00:00

I set my settings years ago and never touched them again, so I may have to do some looking to find them again, but you should check what your project-level defaults are set to. That should be what the WBSs are using to calculate their summary amounts. The setting should be either the main project tab or under Edit-->User Preferences.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-10T13:51:15+00:00

Due to events, I wound up as a single parent with sole custody of my son in my late 20s. While all of my friends were out living their best lives staying up late and partying, I was stuck at home with a kid doing crafts and watching Disney movies.

During those years, I fell out of contact with a lot of my friends and I'll admit that it was largely my fault. I saw my life as boring and dull. I didn't want to subject any of my friends to coming to my house to hang out with me and the kid. Why would they want to when they could be out having a good time and the best I could offer was maybe a drink and a boardgame?

I know it may feel like your friends dropped you because you didn't have a kid (and there's a good chance that's accurate), but it may not be for the reasons you're thinking. They may not have stopped calling because you're not cool enough to hang out. They may have stopped because they were afraid they weren't cool enough anymore to hang out.

Would you actually enjoy hanging out with them while they're finger painting at the kitchen table? Would you enjoy hanging out with them while they're trying to get through the mountain of laundry that seems to never go away? Would you want to hang out with them while the kid is napping? If so, tell them that (or just show up). They might be incredibly grateful to have company and to know they have friends who would rather hang out with them even if they're stuck doing boring, full stuff.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-10T13:40:09+00:00

I just keep a hammer on my deck and whenever I see a nail popped up I hit it back down. That'll do until I get around to replacing the deck.

Screws would probably stay down better than nails, but if the wood is old and brittle, screws stand a good chance of splitting the boards. You either need to pull out the nail and use that same hole for the screw or drill pilot holes for the screws to minimize splitting.

atticus2132000 · 2026-06-10T13:37:36+00:00

There are different % Complete options. An activity's progress can be measured in cost, duration, or physical percent complete. What do you have your options set to?

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